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Lionel Lindsay (Australian ,1874 – 1961)

Can you please reblog if your blog is a safe place for lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, asexual, aromantic, pansexual, non binary, demisexual or any other kind of queer or questioning people? Because mine is.

Bisexual/Aromantic and Trombone/cello

hey music gays

reblog this post with your sexuality/gender and what instrument(s) you play!

Just an experiment. Reblog if you actually give a fuck about male victims of domestic violence and rape.

Of fucking course

What sick bastard doesn’t

Y'know, whenever people want to talk about why aspec people 'count' as an oppressed identity, they tend to go for the big stuff like corrective rape and conversion therapy. And like, we should absolutely talk about that stuff. Obviously those things are terrible and important and we need to raise awareness and deal with them.

But I feel like people often gloss over how… quietly traumatising it is to grow up being told that there is only one way to be happy— and that everybody who doesn't conform to that norm is secretly miserable and just doesn't know it— and then to gradually realise that, for reasons that you cannot help, that is never going to happen for you.

You're not going to find a prince/princess and ride off into the sunset. Or if you do, then it's not going to look exactly the way it does in fairytales. You're not going to get a 'normal' relationship, because you are not 'normal', and everybody and everything around you keeps telling you that that's bad.

You see films where characters are presented as being financially stable, genuinely passionate about their work and surrounded by friends and family, but then spend the rest of the plot realising that the real thing they needed was a (romantic and sexual) partner, to make them 'complete'.

You absorb the idea that any relationships you have with allo people will ultimately be unfulfilling on their side, and that this will be your fault (even if you discussed things with your partner beforehand and they decided that they were a-okay with having those sorts of boundaries in a relationship) unless you deliberately force yourself into situations that you aren't comfortable with, so as to make uo for your 'defects'.

You grow up feeling lowkey gaslighted because all the adults in your life (even in LGBT+ spaces. In fact especially in LGBT+ spaces) are insisting that it's totally normal to not be attracted to anybody at your age, and then you go to school and everybody keeps pressuring you to name somebody you're attracted to because they can't imagine not being attracted to anybody at your age.

And then you get older and realise that one day you're going to be expected to leave home, and that one day all your friends are going to be expected to put aside other relationships and 'settle down' with a primary partner and you don't know what you're going to do after that because you straight up don't have a roadmap for what a 'happy ending' looks like for someone like you.

(And the LGBT+ community is little help, because so many people in there are more than happy to tell you that you're not oppressed at all. That you're like this because you don't want to have sex, and/or you don't want to have any relationships, that your orientation is some sort of choice you made— like not eating bananas— rather than an intrinsic part of you that a lot of us have at some point tried to wish away.)

Even if you're grey or demi, and do experience those feelings, you still have to deal with the fact that you're not experiencing them the 'normal' way and that that's going to effect your relationships and your ability to find one in the first place.

If you're aiming for lifelong singlehood (which is valid af) or looking for a qpp, then you're going to have to spend the rest of your life either letting people make wrong assumptions about your situation (at best that your relationship is of a different nature than it actually is, at worst that the life you've chosen is really just a consolation prize because you 'failed' at finding a romantic/sexual partner) or pulling out a powerpoint and several webpages every time you want to explain it.

This what being aspec looks like for most people, and it is constantly minimised as being unimportant and not worth fighting against— even in aspec spaces— because we've all on some level absorbed the idea that oppression is only worth fighting against if it's big, and dramatic, and immediately obvious. That all the little incidents of suffering that we experience on a daily basis are not enough to be worth bothering about.

I mean, who gives a shit if you feel broken, inherently toxic as a partner, and like you're going to be denied happiness because of your orientation? Shouldn't we all just shut up and thank our lucky stars we don't have to deal with all the stuff some of the other letters in the acronym have to put up with (leaving aside the fact that there are many aspec people who identify with more than one letter)?

So you know what? If you're aspec and you relate to anything I've said above (or can think of other things relating your your aspec-ness that I haven't mentioned) then this is me telling you now that it's enough. Even if we got rid of all the big stuff (which we're unlikely to do any time soon because— Shock! Horror!— the big stuff is actually connected to all the small stuff) we would still be unable to consider our fight 'over' because what you are experiencing is not 'basically okay' and something we should just be expected to 'put up with'.

No matter what anybody tells you, we have the right to demand more from life than this.

when in doubt just ask a dog 

Sherry Rusinack - Pee, 2020

My babies for life ꒰⑅ᵕ༚ᵕ꒱˖♡

✧ like or reblog (don’t repost).

Fuckboy: Tolkien–a conservative, Catholic, white man in the early 20th century who has been dead for forty years–would not approve of you shipping his two same sex characters.

Me: 

Reporter accidentally makes half court shot

strawberries

So i’ve been seeing these sort of things on tumblr and I decided I’d do one with my parents. Haha

P.s. my dad thinks he’s tumblr famous because of this post. (x)

How did you become anti-psychiatry? Why should more people become anti-psychiatry?

am i anti-psychiatry lol? i’m a clinical social worker in the making! maybe my aversion to labels applies here too :)

but in seriousness, the more i learned about the colonizing, white supremacist, misogynistic history of psychiatry, and the more experience i had within it, AND the more i listened to people more marginalized than i about their experiences of institutional psychiatry, the less able i was to hold the ahistorical fantasy view of psychiatry that the field itself and much of recovery and mental health ~awareness~ culture peddle.

psychiatry is embedded, contingent, located squarely in an ignominious history–it’s not a hard science (is hard science even hard science some of my physicist followers are thinking). we are truly making this shit up, even as it relates to research on neurobiological processes, which has lately lent an air of legitimacy to the field. psychiatry privatizes the systemic, and gives the impression that there can only be one framework thru which to understand various emotional and cognitive states and their associated behaviors. it makes state agents the “experts,” gives them the power to label and incarcerate, and construes people who actually have the target experiences as deficient populations to be controlled, rather than the experts on and the rightful interpreters of their own experiences. psychiatry has historically been about correcting deviance from norms, which should set off our foucauldian alarm bells. who decides what is normal? to what purpose?

but i am all for people developing skill to support others and themselves in improving their quality of life, and opening up a fuller, kinder existence! for me, therapy will be a practice of solidarity, of witnessing. i’m sick, you’re sick, the world is sick! there are many ways of knowing thru which to understand this, and many possible personal and political paths to greater freedom and connection. they are for us to determine for ourselves and our communities, not for institutions to dictate. 

current mood is playing messenger between an ex-theatre kid and an ex-warrior cats kid trying to decide who would win the most important battle of our generation

Do Aromantics have rings like Aces have black rings?

YES! Aros have white rings worn on the left middle finger! 

Some people get simple bands like this ring from Amazon:

 Others get more decorative rings, like ones with arrows on them, Like this:

(I swear the amazon seller must know ^)

 or jewels and stuff. 

It all depends on what you like. 

My first aro ring was a $7 white band with (fake) rose gold edges and my second was a white crisscrossing thing I found on clearance at a Claire’s. When I get a real job, I want to buy myself a little white wedding ring. :p 

“North Korea has a cult of personality”

big spongebob ruins every song hes on and all of his solo shit is lame

Pinky and the brain