Here’s A Little Bit On Subplots!

As requested! A tutorial on faces will be coming soon as well.

Body Language Is More Revealing Than Words: How to Read People More Clearly

Our bodies can often be more honest than our words when it comes to communicating our thoughts, feelings, and intentions.

When we choose what to say, we’re often using the executive parts of our brains (the “neocortex”). This part of the brain is responsible for conscious attention, language, and thinking, all of which we have a degree of control over with some effort.

Because we have a choice in what we say, this makes it easier to conceal, deceive, and lie with our words.

However, we don’t usually choose our body language, which comes from the automatic parts of our brains (the “limbic system”). This part of the brain is responsible for our emotions, instincts, and gut reactions, all of which we don’t normally have control over.

According to What Every Body Is Saying: An Ex-FBI Agent’s Guide to Speed-Reading People, because our body language is more automatic than our speech, this makes it harder to conceal, deceive, and lie about our true thoughts and feelings through our bodies.

Therefore, if you want to learn how to better read people and understand what’s going on inside their minds, you need to listen more to what their bodies are communicating to you. Especially if it doesn’t match up with what they are saying.

Most of us know how to choose our words carefully. We are taught from an early age how to act polite and kind even when we don’t want to – or how to tell a harmless lie to protect someone’s feelings (“Thanks for the birthday gift! I always wanted socks!”)

However, we don’t often pay attention to what our body language is communicating. And because it happens automatically without us deliberately choosing, it’s harder to override how our body responds to a situation. Our bodies rarely lie.

In this article, I will share basic guidelines on what to look for in body language. This can also be a valuable resource in learning what your own body is communicating to others, perhaps without you even realizing it.

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Do you ever get that sudden outburst of motivation to go and make your life better then after 5 mins you’re like yeah that’s not happening

All About Writing Fight Scenes

@galaxies-are-my-ink asked,

“Do you have any advice on writing fight scenes? The type of scene I’m writing is mostly hand to hand combat between two experts. I’m definitely not an expert so when I try to write it, the scene ends up sounding repetitive and dull.”

Fore note: This post is coauthored by myself and one of my amazing critique partners, Barik S. Smith, who both writes fantastic fight scenes and teaches mixed martial arts, various artistic martial arts, and weapons classes.

I (Bryn) will tell you a secret: I trained MMA for seven years, and when I write authentic hand to hand fight scenes, they sound dull too. 

The problem with fight scenes in books is that trying to describe each punch and kick and movement (especially if it’s the only thing you’re describing) creates a fight that feels like it’s in slow motion. 

I write…

Lowering her center of gravity, she held her right hand tight to her face and threw a jab towards his chin. He shifted his weight, ducking under her punch. His hair brushed against her fist, and he stepped forward, launching a shovel hook into her exposed side.

But your brain can only read so fast. In real life that series of events would take an instant, but I needed a full eight seconds to read and comprehend it, which gave it an inherent lethargic feel. 

So, we have two primary problems:

How do we describe this fight in a way the reader can understand and keep track of? 

How do we maintain a fast paced, interesting fight once we’ve broken down the fight far enough for readers to understand it? 

(We will get back to these, I promise.) But for now, let’s look at…

Different types of “fight scenes:”

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okay so my boyfriend is talking about wanting to eat me out. i’m a virgin and i’m worried i might taste weird. what can i do to taste good for him? also any tips for being in a sexual relationship ? thank you.

This is a fun new step in your relationship! Remember that if you’re not ready it’s ok to say so and wait. And if you are ready then that’s also good.

Tasting better

🌼-Eating the right thingsEating certain foods can make you smell and taste better. The big ones for this are pineapples, cranberries, yogurt, celery, strawberries, apple, and parsnips. But especially cranberries (you can just drink cranberry juice you don’t have to eat them it works the same)

🌹-Drink water!!Drinking water is major. It cleans out your system and removes toxins and just makes you healthier in general

🌼- Change your underwearThis might not apply to you but if you don’t already change your underwear everyday you should start. That way your pussy isn’t sitting in anything from the day before that could make you smell worse, taste worse, and put you on track for a UTI or yeast infection

🌹-Shower!Along the lines of the last one, hygiene is super important if you want to look smell and taste your best. Don’t use any harsh soaps usually just water does the trick or a little gentle body wash (go for unscented it’s better for your skin anyways)

🌼- ShaveThis is a totally optional tip and you by no means have to do it but it can be beneficial if you do it before hand (just be careful and don’t do it all the time because it’s better for your vaginal health to have some bush) even just trimming works that way you can feel better without hair in your way or getting in his mouth

Sexual tips and tricks (specifically for getting eaten out)

🌹-ForeplayNo one wants to just jump right in and get it over with unless it’s a quickie before work or something. If you’re in for a long night and you know it then draw it out make him wait or have him make you wait. It makes is a million times better to be super riled up I p r o m i s e. Best orgasm you’re ever gonna have is when you’ve been building up to it for an hour or two. Seems like a long time but never underestimate the enjoyment of making out and the simple joy of figuring out what each other likes

🌼-Show him some loveYour man is gonna be much more willing to do things with you if you show him how much you want him to and what you want to do with him too. Remember that everyone basically thinks only of themselves most of the time so be sure to focus on him a bit before he goes to town with you. This can be anything from kissing or marking or whatever makes him happy.

🌹-Be VocalTell him what you like and don’t like. Don’t hold it back because you don’t want to embarrass him. Both of you will have a much better time if you’re open and understanding. If you like something don’t hold back. Tell him. If you don’t like something speak up. He’s eating you out because he wants you to feel good so tell him if something needs to change to get there. And above all if you become uncomfortable and don’t want to continue, TELL HIM. It’s ok to stop and it’s ok to wait. You don’t need to take this step if you’re just doing it because you feel like you should. Wait a bit and think it over some more. It’s your body and and only you know when you’re ready.

Hope that helped! Shoot me back an ask or a dm and let me know if you have anymore questions I’m always happy to help :)

– Winners from Crunchyroll’s Anime Awards

The memories I have for some of these shows disturb me

Do the thing. I believe in you.

Motivation. What a thorn in our collective sides, right? You pick something to do and for whatever reason… you don’t do. You do the opposite of do, you don’t and then you get absolutely nowhere and you just blankly stare at the thing and nothing changed because you still haven’t gotten up, you still haven’t started, and eventually it all snowballs. 

So you ignore it. You give up. You think about it from time to time, shaking your head in disgust at yourself because you couldn’t do something as simple as start the thing you wanted to do in the first place – if you would have started it when you originally wanted to, you’d have been done with it by now! The snowball keeps rolling. The frustration and anxiety gets worse. How can you even think about starting it now, because all of a sudden it’s not so simple. You’ve made a metaphorical mountain out of a metaphorical molehill (unless you really are dealing with a molehill, in which case I am sorry for your yard). 

Breathe, friend. 

I have been down this terrible path before, and I’m sure I’ll go down it again. In fact, I’m facing similar thoughts when it came to making this blog. I really wanted to create a blog where I could share my knowledge, and learn more from those around me and generally have a safe space for everyone on their life journey of becoming a better person. It took forever for me to just stop thinking and start doing. I’m still trying to just keep doing. Let me try to help you do the same: Do. 

So you want to do a thing. 

Well that’s the first step. Saying “Hey, I want to organize my room” or “I think it’s time for me to clean the kitchen” is a great way to start. Recognize what it is you want to accomplish in your end game. 

However, don’t get overzealous. “I want to organize my room” can become a daunting task if you try to do it all at once. A good tip is to make it a project – trying to finish it all in one go is a good way to get burnt out before you even start! Instead make a list and check it off as you go. 

Example:

Make the bed

Clear off bookshelves

File away desk papers

Dust the corners

Fold the laundry

Vacuum the floor

A list like this seems a lot more manageable mentally than just saying “Organize the room” and as you check things off you’ll feel accomplished, which helps your motivation to continue on your project. 

Be proud of any bit you get done. Managed to clean off one of your shelves? Good job, you! You’re that much closer to finishing that task! Which means you’re practically almost done with your project! It can be really motivating to feel like you’re getting closer to your end goal. 

Sometimes we all need a little push in the right direction and maybe even a little company. Invite a friend over and tell them what your goal is. They can help by giving you a hand and maybe assist by directing you where to go. Surrounding ourselves with people who have a good directional skill can help lead the effort. 

Putting on entertainment as background noise can also help. I personally like to listen to one of the Crash Course series (Right now I’m on Anatomy and Physiology) or to Mental Floss videos while I work because it gives my brain something other than the ever increasing list of to-dos I face to think about. It’s hard to stress about stuff I don’t think I’ll ever be able to get done when I’m too busy listening to videos and then… what do you know, I’ve completed half my to do list without freaking out about how much I had to do!

It can can be hard to just motivate yourself to get out of bed, let alone take on any other sort of project aside from the act of being alive. Just know that you deserve a gold star for waking up, double gold stars for getting out of bed and triple gold stars for even glancing out the window. Some days are better than others, but no matter what it is you want to accomplish… you can do it. I know you can. 

For other great resources to help with your motivation, check out the following links:

How to Adult – Procrastination/Getting Things Done

Lifehack - Ways to deal with Motivation Loss

WVU Student Wellness - How to Motivate/Do Practically Anything