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The Queen’s Rules

1. 7 days is the maximum amount of time for you to not cum. I will decide whenever you cum. I can extend it as long as I want.

2. My pussy likes to cum often. Make it so. 

3. You may cum only when I give you explicit permission.

4. Savor your denial without breaking character at any time. Never ask to cum, and always express a preference to hold it in.

5. You love every second of being denied. You love the fact that I am in control of your balls. You love it when I say “You’re not going to cum tonight.” I love that you love being denied.

6. If I am in the mood I will tell you to “get on your knees,” and you will proceed to eat me out without any hesitation. 

7. If I am in the mood I will play with your balls by sucking, massaging, spanking, or tugging on them. For as long as I want to and you will enjoy it.

8. If I am in the mood I will perform felatio on you without warning whenever I want, for as long as I want to and you will enjoy it.

9. If I am in the mood I will get you hard and leave without warning and you will enjoy it.

10. When it is time for you to cum, your orgasm will be very intense and you will cum buckets. You will thank me afterwards for allowing you to cum.

How to Open Up Your Husbands Ass.

A few years ago I could only get a 2 inch wide dildo up inside my husband’s ass hole. I had just bought him a new smaller chastity cage with a new thimble type dick head cap lined with spikes. The dick head cover doesn’t allow for any finger massage of his dick head and the spikes lining it don’t allow any unauthorized erections. Basically his 2 inch dick was made even more useless. But any self respecting chaste pussy slave husband should be able to take at least a 3 inch wide plug up his ass. I couldn’t get one wider than 2 inches to fit up his ass no matter how hard I pushed. He always squirmed away and cried. I couldn’t have the other Doms bragging about how big a plug would fit up inside their slaves. What was I to do? A friend of mine told me what to do. I let my husband open his own asshole. One Saturday I had a friend come over. My husband was naked as usual except for his tiny painful cage. I had his hands cuffed behind him. The poor thing thought maybe I was going to take off his cage and edge him or let him come. (He hadn’t come in at least a month then) My friend brought in a special chair that was wood, straight back, no arms, had a ring in the seat, and a special rubber plug that fit into the seat behind the ring. The plug was a big tapered evil looking thing that was at least 8 or 9 inches long but flared out to nearly 3 ½ inches wide near the base but then back down to an inch or so. She also had some more ankle cuffs and chains. We set it down in the bedroom but my husband had already figured out what it was. He started begging and crying and trying to get away from us.  I had thankfully earlier put a leash on his balls and was holding the other end. A hard pull on the leash put a stop to his leaving. We set the chair up in the bedroom. She called it an asshole trainer. We put the well greased plug in the middle of the chair on a shot post, put my husband squating over the plug with it in his ass a few inches, his hands now cuffed to the legs. his ankles cuffed to the legs too. A very short chain hooked to his balls to the ring in the seat so he couldn’t raise up any. Poor baby, we had to gag him with a ball gag. How long could he stand holding his ass off  of the seat? In order to sit down and get relief on his legs he would have to slowly lower his ass on to the giant plug. Did you know that a man’s ass hole will stretch out nicely if he puts his mind to it?  We found that out. My female friend and I laid on the the bed naked, enjoying each others pussies, while we watched just how long it took for my husband to sit down comfortably. He sure grunted, sweated, and moaned a lot but after about 2 hours he made a little shake and a loud grunt, and he was comfortably seated all the way in the chair with the plug securely fitting all the way up his ass. I think he enjoyed it too because his little caged dick was swollen and tight up against the spikes in the tip of his cage. We let him enjoy his seat for a while, and the pain in his dick head while we had drinks and another go at eating each others pussies. I really had to pull later to get the plug out of him but after that day I’m happy to say that he could be easily fist fucked up the ass like the other caged slaves. What a wonderful training aid and a nice day. It’s nice to have good friends.

“These are all BDSM memes that I have seen, and our daily life doesn’t overlap with any of that.” We have been around the block a few times, and our lives don’t look like the memes either. And when we have conventional sex it doesn’t look like a porno. I like the Internet and media but it can screw with expectations. Would you recommend chastity to others?

This is a great question. I don’t know if I would “recommend” it any more than I would recommend buying handcuffs or blindfolds… which means no, I guess I wouldn’t. Both Tom and I are fortunate that this appeals to the both of us, but it’s obviously not for everybody. So, if one of my friends mentioned that her love life was getting dull, I probably wouldn’t suggest this.

However, if one of my friends happened to mention that her husband wanted to try it, well, then I might try to see how interested she is before saying something. I have no idea what I would say, maybe something like “Tom and I tried that, and it was a lot of fun.”

I have a hard time imagining these situations beci know that most of my friends are more straight laced about this than I am. 😅

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I gave her the keys - vowing I’d never touch them.

First she told me she’d keep me caged for at least 3 months. And she did… not one moment of freedom.

Then she told me she was done with letting me touch myself. She told me my masturbation denial was permanent.

Then she told me she didn’t miss my cock. I was hoping she’d want me uncaged occasionally. But she said my mind is more fun to fuck… and she’d rather penetrate me.

She offered to give me permanent orgasm denial. Since I was so enthralled and filled with constant frustrated desire, she determined this was best for me.

She offered permanent chastity. She said she should seal it shut to reach me a lesson about expectations. I believed her when she said she preferred me caged.

I lived for 12 months in enforced chastity.

She had pressed me to accept the real consequences of living out my deepest fantasies. She was giving me the dream.

She encouraged me to float along and accept endless frustration. She was happy I never got used to denial. It was a perpetual motion machine. My balls churned and I drooled precum endlessly.

She reminded me I never needed to cum, and I had been brave enough to get explicit permission - in writing - from a urologist I could stay denied indefinitely.

In the end I twisted and cracked.

Be careful what you wish for.

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BDSM Links And Resources

I thought I would update the list of BDSM links and resources I posted a while ago, as some links were no longer working and I had several new ones to add, including a list of books. These should be particularly helpful to those who are new to BDSM and looking to explore D/s relationships, as the best way to go about that is to first read everything you can and then read even more! Not only will this allow you to educate yourself, help keep you safe and avoid any potential mistakes or regrets, but also the more you understand something, the less intimidating it will seem.

If you have anything to add, please don’t hesitate to let me know and I will update this list, in particular if there any books that a submissive might find helpful or informative, as most of the books I have read or included are intended for Dominants.

Note: For the sake of consistency and readability, I have used capitals throughout this document and have not used lower case when referring to submissives or slaves.

Websites:

Babygirls ‘n’ Daddy Doms: Website dedicated to littles, babygirls and Daddy Doms, with a lot of useful information on the subject.

Collarme: A free BDSM dating website and community, that is probably the most popular and a better option than the commercial alternatives.

DS Arts: Academy of DS Arts, fairly self explanatory.

Evil Monk: Ambrosio’s BDSM Website, featuring many useful articles.

Fetlife: An online BDSM community that I would highly recommend and which is perhaps best described as Facebook for the kinky, allowing users to create a profile, publish photos or writing and join interest groups where you can ask questions.

Kink Academy: An online resource with many educational and instructional videos on various aspects of BDSM, although users must pay a small fee to access all of the content.

Submissive Guide: As the name suggests, this is an online resource for submissives.

The Iron Gate: A general BDSM online resource, with many aticles, essays and even stories on the subject.

Dating and Relationships:

10 Principles For Healthy 24/7 D/s And M/s (Source: sexgeek.wordpress.com)

Difference of Dynamics in BDSM (Source: the-little-kitten.tumblr.com)

Finding Your Dominant (Source: asubmissivesjourney.com)

How To Find A Partner (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Initiating a Discussion About BDSM Interest with a Vanilla Partner Part 3 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

So You Want Your Boyfriend To Dominate You (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

So Your Girlfriend Wants You To Dominate Her (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

The Unfortunate But Common Misconceptions About DD/lg Relationships (Source: a-lolitas-life.tumblr.com)

Play:

Consent Is Mandatory And Non-Negotiable (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

Food Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

How (and Why) To Go Down On Your Submissive (Source: domwithpen.tumblr.com)

Initial Steps Into Orgasm on Command Training (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Rules and Tasks for Building Confidence (Source: themostdangerousplaything.tumblr.com)

Tools of Consent in BDSM (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Training in D/s - Why? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - How? (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Training in D/s - Thoughts And Concerns (Source: her-master.tumblr.com)

Wax Play (Source: bdsmsadomasochism.tumblr.com)

Safety:

Basics Of Safe, Sane And Consensual Power Exchange (Source: Molly Devon / the-iron-gate.com)

Common Sense (Source: Sean R. Powell / the-iron-gate.com)

Emotional Safety (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Offline/Online BDSM Safety Rules (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Ouch Is Not A Safe Word: Safe Words, Limits, and Scene Protocol (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Rules For Meeting Strangers (Source: Jack Rinella / leathernews.com)

Safewords and Safesigns 101 (Source: kinkology.tumblr.com)

S.S.C. VS R.A.C.K. (Source: Justin Medlin / the-iron-gate.com)

Checklists, Communication and Negotiation:

BDSM Play Partner Check List (Source: Sovereign House / the-iron-gate.com)

BDSM Scene Negotiations (Source: daddyvinnie.tumblr.com)

Can I Get That In Writing: Basics of Negotiations (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Communication (Source: submissivesupportgroup.tumblr.com)

If I Ever See Another Checklist I Will Scream: An Extremely Thorough Play Checklist (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Negotiation Forms (Source: Jay Wiseman, SM 101: A Realistic Introduction / greenerypress.com)

What Are Negotiations Good For? (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare:

Aftercare for submissives (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Dominants (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Aftercare for Switches (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Emergency Self-Administered Aftercare (Source: Mistress Abode / brairthornblog.wordpress.com)

Sub Drop (Source: David Williams / subshelpingsubs.tripod.com)

Sub Drop and Aftercare (Source: desires-of-a-domimant-man.tumblr.com)

Dominance and Dominants:

A Dominant is NOT… (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dom (Source: Washington Sexuality University / the-iron-gate.com)

Advice to a Novice Dominant (Source: cherhatton.tumblr.com)

An Open Letter To A Novice Dom (Source: evilmonk.org)

Qualities of A Successful Dominant (Source: Polly Peachum / the-iron-gate.com)

Daddy Doms: They’re Not What You Think (Source: edenfantasys.com)

Domination for Nice Guys (Source: Franklin Veaux / the-iron-gate.com)

How To Spot A Non Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Learning To Be A Dom (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 1 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Run Don’t Walk: Warning Signs of A Predator Dom/me Part 2 (Source: submissiveguide.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts - Part One: Dominants (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

The Dominant (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Daddy Dom? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

What Makes A Good Dominant (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

What Should A Dominant Be (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Submission and Submissives:

10 Considerations For Inexperienced Subs (Source: fortheloveofasub.tumblr.com)

A Submissive Bill of Rights (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Creed (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

A Submissive’s Ethics (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Introduction To Submission (Source: Kim Debron / kimdebron.tripod.com)

Learning to Trust Your Instincts (Source: bewildbetruebekinkybeyou.tumblr.com)

Red Flags, Warning Signs, and Intuition: Learning to Trust You Instincts- Part 2: Submissives/Slaves (Source: the-iron-gate.com)

Some Rules For The Submissive (Source: daddylookingforhisbaby.tumblr.com)

Submissive Owner’s Manual (Source: youmadememe.tumblr.com)

Ten Tips For The Novice, Heterosexual submissive Woman (Source: Jay Wiseman / the-iron-gate.com)

Warning Signs for Submissives (Source: RC Bauer / the-iron-gate.com)

What Is A Babygirl? (Source: babygirlsndaddydoms.webs.com)

Books:

BDSM: The Naked Truth by Dr Charley Ferrer

Dear Raven and Joshua: Questions and Answers About Master/Slave Relationships by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Devil in the Details I: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - The Master, The Slave, The Power by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details II: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Mastery Refine: The Issues, The Skills by LT Morrison

Devil in the Details III: The Art of Mastery, A Mentoring Trilogy - Sustainable Structure and Traning by LT Morrison

Different Loving: The World of Sexual Dominance and Submission by William Brame, Gloria Brame and Jon Jacobs

Living M/s: A Book for Masters, slaves and Their Relationships by Dan and Dawn Williams

Master/slave Relations: Handbook of Theory and Practice by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Communications 401 by Robert Rubel

Master/slave Relations: Solutions 402, Living in Harmony by Robert Rubel

Protocols: A Variety of Views by Robert Rubel

Real Service by Joshua Tenpenny and Raven Kaldera

Screw the Roses, Send Me the Thorns: The Romance and Sexual Sorcery of Sadomasochism by Phillp Miller and Molly Devon

SM101: A Realistic Introduction by Jay Wiseman

The Control Book by Peter Masters

The Loving Dominant by John and Libby Warren

The New Bottoming Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The New Topping Book by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy.

The Ultimate Guide to Kink: BDSM, Role Play and the Erotic Edge by Tristan Taormino

This Curious Human Phenomenon: An Exploration of Some Uncommonly Explored Aspects of BDSM by Peter Masters

Where I Am Led: A Service Exploration Workbook by Christina Parker

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