Shrekboer - Naamloos

Why I Do It

It's been ten years since my husband and I began our sexual exploration, which has resulted in me having a long term sexual relationship with two other men. I know a lot of couples read this blog and are curious. I get your questions. I'll try here to explain a little, as briefly as possible, to answer the question: "Why do you have sex with other men? What do you get out of it after 10 years?"

First, I'll say that the reason has changed. At first, it was almost entirely because it turned my husband on. Turned me on too, of course, but...if it hadn't been a turn on for him, no way it happens.

Once I realized that the way we approached it strengthened our marriage, our communication bonds, and once I understood that I could have sex with another man without "falling in love" with him, then I began doing it for "us", but also for "me".

So, I find myself now ten years in and I can reflect on why I still do it. I love lists, so I'll make a list. It does not have a particular order. I'd place all of these as equal to each other.

Sex is healthy, and having this situation at hand leads to more overall sex.

It makes sex more interesting. Not that sexually monogamous sex can't be interesting, but it really can't be as interesting as when there's a third person involved. AndI don't mean just the physical. The mental/psychological aspect is even more important.

I love the attention from more than one male. I love guys. I love masculinity. The "friendship" I have with Ben and Colin are, outside of my marriage, my favorite relationships. I love talking to guys, getting in their brain. Having sex with them, especially when they know the boundaries, enhances that friendship beyond anything you could have non-sexually. Also, does it need to be said that it's just really super hot to get whisked away for a night or three with a hot man as his "date" or "girlfriend", and escape the reality of life for just a bit? Everyone has an escape--I think this is a very healthy escape. Being in their presence brings out the sensual femininity in me.

It gives me even more motivation to stay in good shape, physically, emotionally, spiritually.

It necessitates better and more communication with my husband. That's what this entire blog is about.

This is a hard one to quantify, but in my experience it makes me look at the world and my existence differently. I see the beauty and sexual appeal in a lot more. Almost like the difference between watching a black and white TV vs. super high def 4k. Even the curves in furniture can be sensual.

Did I mention the sex is good? It's better with my husband, it's better with Ben, than ever before. By that I mean the actual feeling of sex. The orgasm. It's better.

I enjoy giving to Ben (and before, Colin). Giving of my time, my talents, my ears, advice, and of course, my body. I feel like I'm a positive influence and a good friend.

That's a partial list, but everything else I could say about it falls under those general points.

Games of the fall

I made some custom bingo cards / achievement cards for my wife to bring to her friend while they are going to be together for the weekend this fall. These cards specifically are to be filled out / worked on by the guy. Other versions coming soon will be for the hotwife.

These cards specifically only contain non-penetrating sexual acts and other sexual ideas due to the nature of their specific arrangement. I will create more community based cards with full acts, situations and arrangements soon.

Completing a line either horizontally, vertically or diagonally is the goal. Three acts must be completed that match in order to “win” the game.

Version #1

Version #2

Prizes:

Prizes depend on the nature of the situation and must be agreed upon before offering. Some basic stuff might include getting to see her or take her out on a special night such as Valentines day, Her birthday, or His birthday. Something of his request, approved by her and her hubby.

Stacey’s plan had worked out perfectly and she’d never been happier. She’d planned it out every step of the way. A girls trip with all of her best friends to the islands, plus one bottle of Jumbo Gro that she’d been able to get her hands on.

She’d traveled down by herself, arriving a day early, just to get everything ready. The beachside house was cute and had plenty of beds for everyone. She’d also had the chance to portion out reasonably-sized shots of Jumbo Gro for all the girls.

Stacey took hers first, of course, so when the others arrived, she greeted them by slightly ducking out through the front door, placing her new jugs on display, and then standing up to her full 8ft height and doing a little twirl for them all to see, wearing only her overstressed red bikini.

The girls swarmed her, begging for their turn. Everything had been carefully measured, so the girls all ended up nearly equal to each other, all towering 8ft tall amazons.

Maddy enjoyed herself, imagining what life would be like when she got home while also estimating just how far across the living room her legs now reached.

Karen went outside with a huge bottle of sunscreen and occupied herself by using it all up while also groping her new shape.

Amy quickly went down to the beach and began gathering as many free drinks as she could handle.

The sisters, Dori and Layla, swamped their social media profiles and also competitively began measuring each other to see who ended up the biggest.

Gina danced and wobbled for all to see.

Unfortunately, Pam was late, as usual, and while everyone was out by the water, she mistakenly drank from the bottle of Jumbo Gro, instead of her perfectly measured portion.

“Hey shorties!” she boomed, squatting and looming over every building and tree for miles, “I thought I heard there were some BIG girls around here.”

Techniques for Hotwives: by my wife

I absolutely love being a hotwife. One of the best parts for me is driving my husband insane with lust for me by giving him just the right blend of teasing and reassurance. Not only do I get the freedom and variety of choosing my own sexual partners, but I also get a husband who burns with desire for me. For the purpose of this entry I’m going to use the term hotwife for any wife with permission to play, cuckoldress for a hotwife who emphasizes her dominance in the sexual relationship, huband for the hotwife’s primary partner (could easily be a fiance or boyfriend), and lover for the other sex partner who’s not the husband.

Here are some techniques I regularly use that I’ve found hotwives and cuckoldresses can use to make their encounters extra fun for their husbands and for themselves.

When Husband is Watching You with Another Man

Eye Contact* - Nothing will arouse and tease your husband like strong eye contact with him. Eye contact says, “Look at me!” and makes it impossible for either of you to ignore or trivialize what’s going on. Eye contact can be gentle or fierce, depending on your style and the message you’re trying to send. I prefer to lock eyes for a long time, then wink or smile right before I look away. I like to lock eyes with my husband while I’m blowing my lover.

Smile* - Smiling is both a tease and a reassurance. It says both, “Look how much fun I’m having!” and “Everything is OK.” I love to smile at him when I’m riding my lover cowgirl-style.

Say Something* - You don’t have to jabber away, but it’s fun to say things now and then. I love dirty talk with my lover while my husband’s watching. I also like to interact with him, asking, “How are you liking the show?” or “Don’t you wish you were doing this?” I also encourage my lover to talk about how good everything feels and how much fun he’s having. Moaning, screaming, crying, laughing, giggling, etc. are all great things to do, too. It’s also cute to call you husband by terms of endearment like honey, baby, etc. when you’re being fucked by another man.

Dress Up* - High heel shoes, lingerie, nicely done nails, and perfume all say, “I’m putting effort into looking fucking hot for my lover!” You husband will be aroused by your appearance and jealous of the effort to look good for another guy.

When Husband is Listening from Another Room

Go Nuts* - Scream, cry, moan, laugh, beg, talk dirty, giggle, and slurp. Encourage your lover to slap your butt. These sounds will float through the closed door and to your husband’s ears, driving him wild with desire and jealousy.

Emerge, then Vanish* - Take a break from fucking. Go out into the room where your husband is: hair a mess, makeup smeared. Have a glass of water. Say hi to your husband. Then, go back to the bedroom. Close the door. Lock it.

Make a Movie* - Film your bedroom romp. Hook the camera in your room to the TV in the room where he’s sitting so he can watch live feed! He’ll be scratching at the door in no time.

When Husband is Not Around

Call Him* - It’s fun to call him and put the phone on speaker phone while you’re getting railed. Then, husband can listen! Even more fun (for you cuckoldresses) is let your other guy call from his phone instead. It’s more humiliating.

Texts* - Like above, but text dirty things. What you’re doing, feeling, etc. Have your other guy send husband dirty pics of what you’re doing.

Get Caught* - I love having my husband walk in on me when he’s not expecting anything. Just make sure that you know he’d be OK with this, and that your lover is also OK with this. Some people don’t like surprises.

Leave Evidence* - Your lingerie lying around the bed, sex toys on the nightstand, or a condom in the garbage all remind your husband of what you were doing in his absence.

Make a Movie (pt. 2)* - Film your bedroom romp and leave the recording on the nightstand for him.

The many benefits of being a Hotwife!