Things I needed to see last year and the year before that. This is super important.
this isn't something that exclusively affects nonbinary people, but for reasons i'm gonna get into, we're disproportionately and the most obviously affected by this.
whether we'd like to admit it or not: the trans community has a problem with bioessentialism and is at times just as obsessed over genitals at birth as cis people are.
it becomes really obvious when you look at how nonbinary people are grouped into amab and afab, transmasc or transfem. for trans men, everyone assumes they were born with a vagina, for trans women, everyone assumes they were born with a penis. with those terms, it's easy for people to make assumptions about "where they came from", i.e. what genitals they were born with. of course in these ideas, there is no room for intersex experiences.
nonbinary is more vague and doesn't have "built-in" assumptions about AGAB or genitals at birth. and people hate that. i believe it's one of the main reasons why people are obsessed with dividing us into amab and afab.
but many people have realised that this isn't a good look, so instead they divide us into transmasc and transfem. if trans men are assumed to all be afab and have vaginas at birth, then so are all transmascs. of transfems are assumed to all be amab and have penises at birth, then so are all transfems. (note: this is not at all about people self-identifying as transmasc or transfem, but rather about people using them as collective descriptors.) nonbinary people are constantly confronted with questions like "are you transmasc or transfem?" by other trans people, trying to figure out "where we came from". nonbinary people confuse most people, and most people can't sit with that at all. transmasc and transfem as collective terms like this are considered less bad than amab and afab, because at least they don't refer to agab anymore, so we're not allowed to say anything. ignore the fact that these terms are misgendering many of us and painting a linear picture of the gender spectrum.
i'm very sure that this is also why people hate afab transfems and amab transmascs so much. if transmasc no longer automatically means afab, and transfem no longer automatically means amab, then these terms have supposedly "lost all meaning", because whatever will i do if i don't know what genitals someone was born with.
because let's be real, that's what the obsession with AGAB comes down to. you were born with either a vagina or a penis and that will shape all of your trans experiences. once again ignoring intersex people or any sort of diversity in people's upbringing. it's bioessentialism.
and because nonbinary as a label is free from agab assumptions, we're called by these extra terms that we may or may not identify with way more often. not only are we reduced to our bodies, we're also misgendered and/or consistently related back to our agab in the process.
....I...Good to know...
the worst part about ocd and ocd-like tendencies is that you think hyper-analyzing your thoughts and constantly psychoanalyzing yourself will fix you but that's actually part of the disorder. it's the disorder. disordering.
This drawing was a request for @blurgayhero of their Oc
That poor pest control guy did not know what he was getting into, but given the state of my yard i feel like he should have known what he was getting into.
This is very relatable
(from u/Carousel-of-Masks on Reddit)
"Obviously, I’m exaggerating for the point, but holy hell does it piss me off when someone demands to know my AGAB. “It’s important info!”
FOR WHAT? For u to have an expectation of my genitals and internal sex chromosomes? News flash, any trans person will tell u that AGAB does not = typical presentation of that gender.
On top of this, it’s my CHOICE to reveal my AGAB. I like keeping it a mystery because people are all too quick to assign certain expectations of me based on AGAB.
AMAB? Oh trans woman in denial! Man in dress stereotype!
AFAB? Oh trans man in denial! Completely feminine woman-lite stereotype!
Like. No. I’m just me. An extremely dysphoric non-binary person that actually would love to be binary but has to grapple with an internal gender that does not feel like the 2 binary options. I say I am non-binary to escape those expectations in the first place. AGAB just reduces it all back down to the binary.
Now, other non-binary people can do whatever u want. Not like I can control anyone else’s actions. But a part of me does hate how prevalent it is to write “Non-binary (AFAB/AMAB)” every time someone mentions they are non-binary. I’m not talking about specific tips for transitioning, hrt, etc. But everyday conversation, social media posts about nothing to do with gender, etc."
Something about this rant deeply resonated with me, so I decided to crosspost it onto here. You cannot reinvent the binary to include nonbinary people. It will never work.
Can perisex trans bootlickers stop claiming that “sex is real, it’s gender that’s fake” or saying that trans people can’t change our sexes “but we’re still our genders” or arguing that your AGAB is inherently anything beyond a singular event in your past, or whatever?
These beliefs harm all sex variant people. I know some trans people may be comfortable not altering their physical sex, but that doesn’t mean the ones who do aren’t literally changing their sex.
Gender affirming surgeries and care were called “sex change” procedures for a reason. This novel re-definition of “sex” as being strictly chromosomes is a transphobic and intersexist response to the increased visibility of trans people. The line of thought was “well, I don’t want them to be able to change their sex! So I’m going to re-define sex as something we can’t (yet) change,” as well as, “well, I want to enforce the sex binary on intersex people, so I’m going to create a system to be able to force them into binary boxes based on whether or not they have a Y chromosome.”
Stop enforcing the sex binary. It is a bigoted concept and it hurts people. Stand by your intersex and transsexual siblings and don’t let us be erased.
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lsusanna:
tolkien-in-beleriand:
earlgraytay:
You know, Tolkien just said elves have leaf-shaped ears. He didn’t see what kind of leaf.
I need a Fëanor with one of these
or any elf actually
you rang
please let this post be a giant pile-on with like 20 different artists
there's a fine line between being wary of manipulation and becoming completely paranoid because you get very close to the realisation that pretty much all human interaction involves doing things we hope will lead to a result we like
🌹🦇🌹 Look out your window, I can see his light. if we can sparkle, he may land tonight. dont tell your papa or he'll get us locked up in fright.
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