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word-vomit on depression and seeking treatment for it:

I was asked about seeking treatment for depression.  I don’t want to out anyone or share somebody else’s story, so I replied privately.  Here’s what I told them, just in case anyone else is thinking of asking but not sure how:

I would definitely recommend therapy as a first step.  Finding someone that you can talk to who is IMPARTIAL and TRAINED is really freaking great BUT - you’ve gotta find someone you can click with.  I have spoken to a handful of therapists over the years and in my experience when you walk out of the office of a good therapist, you feel 10,000x better than you did when you walked in.  Conversely, I left the office of a bad therapist (she might not have been bad at her job, but she was bad for ME) and basically cried for the next hour.

SO!  Finding a therapist (I’ma walk you through all the steps I took to get my mental health on track, bear with me)!  I’m going to assume that you are over 18, so you can go looking for health things on your own.  Look in your local area for free clinics/places that refer.  Most areas with a semi-decent population will have some sort of free mental health clinic or at least a good starting off point for you.  When you find one, be specific about who you are and what you’re looking for in a therapist.  I said that I wanted a woman, someone who was used to talking to people about LGBT issues, etc.  The first couple of meetings are odd because you’re telling all these personal things to a STRANGER but luckily (hah!) for me, I tend to be word-vomity when nervous and therapy is the IDEAL PLACE for word-vomit, so that worked out well.  You should never feel 1) pressured, 2) judged, 3) patronized by, or 4) UNCOMFORTABLE with your therapist.  If you experience ANY of those things with a person, then don’t see them again.  Just don’t.  This is about YOU and YOUR health.

As far as having a parent who is potentially in denial about their child’s mental wellbeing goes?  OH HONEY, LET ME HUG YOU!  IDK if you’ve seen my other depression posts but yeah, I FEEL YOU.  Here’s the thing though: your parent will never be able to remove themself from the situation (ie: BEING YOUR PARENT) enough to judge this accurately.  There’s a massive conflict of interest there.  There’s also the fact that no parent WANTS their child to be depressed.  People who know what depression is want it even LESS.  Do not let their opinion stand in the way of you seeking answers FOR yourself ABOUT yourself.  This is your body, your brain, and YOUR LIFE.  You’re the one who’s living it.  YOU DO YOU.

Finally, the big thing everybody talks about: medication.  Not everyone needs it.  Not everyone goes on it.  Currently, I need it to remain functional and healthy.  You may not need it at all, it’s really up to you (and your doctor).  You will, obviously, need a diagnosis before you get medication.  You can either go to your GP, or - if you go to a clinic - there will likely be someone on staff in the same building as the therapist who can prescribe meds.

Personally, when I started on my treatment, I went in this order: 1) GP for basic prescription of antidepressants, 2) referral to free clinic, 3) therapy, 4) started seeing a psych nurse at the clinic to deal with my meds, 5) continued with therapy for over a year - basically until I moved away from the area.

The reason I went in that order is because I was suicidal.  I had plans, I was actively thinking about it every day, and I finally got to a point where I realized that was either going to get help or I was going to die.  As you can see, I went for help.  I do not recommend the MEDS FIRST route to ANYONE, but I was desperate, and I needed to feel like I was doing SOMETHING while I got all the therapy shit together so I could talk shit out.

For me, one of the best things therapy did was it detached my depression from my daily thought processes, so instead of going “you didn’t do that assignment, which was bad, and you did a bad thing because you are fundamentally a bad person, and because you are a bad person you deserve to feel awful and be treated like shit” I was finally able to sort out ME from my ILLNESS.  All of the negative feelings that I had always attributed to being a shitty person who sucked at life and deserved all the bad things were/are actually my depression.  Think of depression as being like a big sticky ball of taffy that floats somewhere over your left shoulder.  A bad day, a mistake, anxiety, all of the things you don’t like about yourself: depression latches onto that and feeds it.  Therapy can cut those cords.  I’m not saying it’ll cure your depression, but MAN is it a lot easier to ignore that freaking ball of taffy when it’s just floating there and not actually wrapping itself around you.

Gee, can you tell from my overuse of analogies that I was an English major?

ANYWAYS, sorry if this wasn’t helpful.  Please let me know if there’s anything I haven’t addressed or answered that you’re curious about!   TL;DR

1.  Look up free clinics in your local area.  Focus on ones that offer counseling as well as medication if possible.  Consider going through your GP, if you have one, for a referral.

2.  Finding a therapist/counselor - it might take a while but it’s worth it.  If you’ve ben bullied or abused then it will DEFINITELY be worth it.  You may, if you’re anything like me, find that you’ve been misdirecting a lot of your negative feelings inwards and getting to shed that is like losing twenty pounds of emotional baggage and GOD is it good.

3.  Medication - NOT PART OF EVERYONE’S JOURNEY.  Do not feel pressured to go on meds.  Conversely, do not feel guilty for needing or wanting them.  If meds take you from “surviving” to “thriving” then they’re FUCKING WORTH IT.

I don’t know if I answered all of your questions, but please feel free to ask me follow-ups.  I’m sending you all the karma/good vibrations I can.  *hugs*

i’m so fucking tired. we keep dying in real life and on screen, that’s how much they hate us. we are getting murdered in our safe spaces and they don’t even let the friends of the injured donate blood. they tell trans people to pee in the bushes, they tell suicidal teens who watch themselves die on screen every other week to calm down. they literally fucking kill us and make us afraid of holding hands in public and then ask why we need pride when pride is still an act of bravery, because if we’re openly ourselves we are putting ourselves in danger

Rejection

Um. So I’m probably one of the few folks who doesn’t think this is adorable. At all.

I think it’s fucking scary how this little boy keep pushing himself on her after she CLEARLY doesn’t want to be bothered with his ass.

And the adult behind the camera doesn’t intervene at all because it’s ‘cute.’

And how analogous it is to when grown ass men don’t take fucking no for an answer, no matter how much we push and shove and say no.

This is not cute. This is an absolute disregard of this little girl’s boundaries.

In the very bottom left gif you can see he’s smiling/laughing. Like this is some kind of game.

I would bet money that the person filming this is laughing and encouraging him.

This is how we teach boys not to respect women’s spaces.

No, people aren’t “More sensitive” now. People aren’t too “Politically Correct” now. Nor are people “Just looking for a reason to be offended” now.

We, as a people, know better now. Therefore we, as a people, are trying to do better now.

People now are like, “Your right to free speech doesn’t mean you can express an offensive opinion” Like what the fuck does right to free speech mean, then?

Happy Star Wars Day!

Yes, this, exactly. 

According to evolutionary doctrine (I personally don't believe in this, but I assume this is the logic you are using), the needs of the offspring outweigh the needs of the current generation. In light of this particular fact this particular fact, is it still right to terminate a pregnancy of a healthy child in the name of the mother's, who may well never reproduce again or may be permanently emotionally damaged in light of her choice, "bodily autonomy? "Are the burdens of pregnancy that serious?

The rights of a sentient person supersedes the fetus. A fetus has no rights, no sense of perception, cannot form thoughts or feel pain while a pregnant person does. If a pregnant person is choosing to remain pregnant, all is well but it’s disgusting and ridiculous to impose a parental argument when you’re talking about pregnancy. Pregnancy and parenthood are not synonyms.

But, of course, you could’ve utilised our FAQ and our asks or abortion tag.

-Allie