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When I was a freshman, my sister was in eighth grade. There was a boy in two of her periods who would ask her out every single day. (Third and seventh period, if I remember correctly.) All day during third and seventh she would repeatedly tell him no. She didn’t beat around the bush, she didn’t lie and say she was taken—she just said no. One day, in third period, after being rejected several times, he said; “I have a gun in my locker. If you don’t say yes, I am going to shoot you in seventh.” She refused again, but right after class she went to the principal’s office and told them what happened. They searched his locker and there was a gun in his backpack. When he was arrested, some of my sister’s friends (some female, even) told her that she was selfish for saying no so many times. That because of her, the entire school was in jeopardy. That it wouldn’t have killed her to say yes and give it a try, but because she was so mean to him, he lost his temper. Many of her male friends said it was “girls like her” that made all women seem like cockteases. Wouldn’t have killed her to say yes? If a man is willing to shoot someone for saying no, what happens to the poor soul who says yes? What happens the first time they disagree? What happens the first time she says she doesn’t want to have sex? That she isn’t in the mood? When they break up? Years later, when I was a senior, I was the only girl in my Criminal Justice class. The teacher, who used to be a sergeant in the police force, told us a story of something that had happened to a girl he knew when she was in high school. There was a guy who obviously had a crush on her and he made her uncomfortable. One day he finally gathered up the courage to ask her out, and she said no. The next day, during an assembly, he pulled a gun on her in front of everyone and threatened to kill her if she didn’t date him. He was tackled to the ground and the gun was taken from him. When my teacher asked the class who was at fault for the crime, I was the only person who said the boy was. All the other kids in the class (who were all boys) said that the girl was, that if she had said yes he would’ve never lost it and brought a gun and tried to kill her. When my teacher said that they were wrong and that this is what is wrong with society, that whenever a white boy commits a crime it’s someone else’s fault (music, television, video games, the victim) one boy raised his hand and literally said; “But if someone were to punch me and I punched him back, who is at fault for the fight? He is, not me. It’s self-defence. She started it, so anything that happens to her is in reaction to her actions .It’s simple cause and effect.” Even though he spent the rest of the calss period ripping into the boys and saying that you are always responsible for your own actions, and that women are allowed to say no and do not have to date them, they left class laughing about how idiotic he was and that he clearly had no idea how much it hurt to be rejected. So now we have a new school shooting, based solely on the fact some guy couldn’t get laid, and I see men, boys, applaudin him, or if they’re not applauding him, they’re laying blame on women as a whole. Just like my sister’s friends did. Just like the boys in my Criminal Justice class did. This isn’t something that’s rare. This isn’t something that never happens, or that a select group of men feel as if they are so entitled to women that saying no is not only the worst possible thing a woman can do, but is considered a form of “defence” when they commit a crime upon them (whether it be rape or murder-as-a-reaction-towards-rejection). Girls are being killed for saying no to prom invites. Girls are being killed for saying no to men. They are creating an atmosphere where women are too scared to say no, and the worst part is? They are doing it intentionally. They want society to be that way, they want women to say yes entirely out of fear. Even the boys and men who aren’t showing up to schools with guns are saying; “Well, you know, I wouldn’t do that, but you have to admit that if she had just said yes …” If you are a man and you defend this guys’ actions or try to find an excuse for it, or you denounce what really happened, or in any way lay blame on women, every girl you know, every woman you love, has just now thought to themselves that you might lose your shit and kill them someday for saying no. You have just lost their trust. And you know what? You deserve to lose it.

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“Wouldn’t have killed her to say yes? If a man is willing to shoot someone for saying no, what happens to the poor soul who says yes? What happens the first time they disagree? What happens the first time she says she doesn’t want to have sex? That she isn’t in the mood? When they break up?” -vampmissedith.tumblr.com

THIS IS MANDATORY READING!

(via feminist-space)

EVERYONE STOP WHAT YOU’RE DOING AND READ THIS.

(via stfueverything)

If you reject a man and he becomes violent, it’s your own fault for not giving him a chance. If you date him and he becomes violent, it’s your own fault for choosing to date an asshole.

Either way, if you’re a woman, everything men do is your fault.

That’s literally what these douchebags are saying, but somehow male privilege doesn’t exist.

(via theconcealedweapon)

the commentary is always better than anything I can add. I will reblog this EVERY TIME I SEE IT.

(And guys - GOD DAMN IT GROW UP AND TAKE RESPONSIBILITY FOR YOURSELVES.)

Okay, but imagine the first time Steve and Bucky hear the term “feminazi.” Some dudebro at a convention or public event the team is forced to go to calls a woman a feminazi, and Steve and Bucky just lose it and start yelling at the guy because they’ve lost friends to actual Nazis, and a woman standing up for her rights as a human being is not comparable to slaughtering millions of people.

“be the bigger person” no?? im 5"1 and bitter u be the bigger person???

at what point in history do you think americans stopped having british accents

mars: i’m wet

earth: i’m coming over

Reasons abortion should be fully covered on all insurance plans:

If you can’t afford an abortion, you definitely can’t afford a pregnancy

If you can’t afford an abortion, and are forced to carry a pregnancy to term anyway, you sure as hell can’t afford a child

Who the fuck do you think you’re really protecting here?

I just wanted everyone to see how scary having an eating disorder is, especially coming from someone who struggled with it for several years.

Time for a giveaway, no? 

So I hit some really cool milestones in the past few weeks. Here on tumblr and on Etsy as well and I figure, lets celebrate with a giveaway! 

What’s in it? 

One of my Japanese knot bags for on the go knitting or crocheting 

It’s fully reversible, 100% cotton, with a sturdy bottom and… it’s Avengers themed! 

2 balls of Knit Picks Galileo in Quartz 

sport weight, 50% merino, 50% bamboo, 131 yrds

and I’ll throw in some stickers and some other goodies too :) 

How to enter? 

Must be following me! It is a follower giveaway, after all! If you want to start following me, that’s cool too. My blog is about 80% my own projects, and yarn is a dominant theme… :) 

reblog = 1 entry 

like = 1 entry 

please do NOT tag this post as a giveaway. Tumblr has a tendency to take those posts down. It also draws attention to giveaway blogs that skew the numbers.

must be OK with giving me your address so I can send you the goods (international is totally OK and pls be over the age of 18) 

this giveaway is in no way associated with tumblr 

I will pick a name via random number generator on August 31st 2016 at 11:59pm PST 

Any questions, feel free to hit up my inbox. 

And if you dont want to wait, or want to purchase a bag of your own, you can find all the styles in my etsy shop: www.kaynoxx.com 

Good luck!!