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So like. Jesus was a young brown man, born to a poor teenage mother who was shunned for having premarital sex. He did physically demanding manual labor His whole life, hung out with prostitutes, wayfarers, and outcasts whilst giving away free food and healthcare before being brutalized and murdered by the police.
But please, tell me how he would be a capitalism-supporting Republican Conservative.
When your daughter asks you if she’s pretty, looking like the universe is weighing down her little bones with insecurity, resist the urge to say “Ofcourse, darling, Ofcourse you are.” Tell her instead: “Everyday, I bless the stars that fell apart to allow your body’s embers to glow to come to life.” Tell her instead: “In the 7 billion that exist on this planet you are the only one of your kind.” Tell her instead: “You are so much more than pretty. The stars that gave you to me made you to be like the sun. You are their best ever masterpiece. You aren’t pretty. You are inspiring.”
Nikita Gill (via meanwhilepoetry)
The trope of the “crazy” girlfriend is so prevalent and joked about now, that girls getting into relationships are so worried about seeming imposing, that they do not speak out about things that make them uncomfortable, and are forced to let their boyfriends emotionally manipulate them into normalizing otherwise inappropriate behavior. They do not speak up, and then are faced with dealing with an uncomfortable situation for so long, which can really affect their self esteem and emotional health. “Jokes” aren’t always jokes, especially at the expense of women. They are usually integrated into people’s thinking to the extent that they truly affect people’s opinions of women and the way they see them.
DAESH (ISIS/ISIL) kills Muslims in the second holiest city in the Muslim faith at the end of Ramadan, the holiest month, near Eid, a holy day, and people still think DAESH represents all Muslims?
to repair the metaphor it’ll need to be “cars invented specifically to kill people”
they’re called tanks and they’re…frowned upon
I fucking hate it when you’re in such a fantastically giddy mood and then you see one simple little thing that makes you think, “oh” and then you just get this empty feeling in your chest and you get nauseous and the world just crumbles and you want to just lay under a blanket and close your eyes and fall asleep and never wake up.
I recently saw a video of a young woman talking about all of the reasons our generation, the Millennials, sucks and that’s she’s sorry for what we’ve become. Here is my, a fellow Millennial, response:
You say we’re just ‘existing’ and not ‘contributing anything to society.’ The oldest Millennial is 34, the youngest is 12, we haven’t had time to contribute anything yet. We’re trying to survive in a world that no other generation has had to grow up in, with a tanked economy and most of our childhood hearing nothing but war in the Middle East on the news while also being profoundly connected. We didn’t do that.
You say we’re no longer polite, we don’t say ‘no, sir’ or ‘no ma’am’ anymore and we no longer hold the door open for our elders or women. We also don’t expect low-paid workers to break their backs for us, or at yell at them when they make a mistake, like my 60-year-old grandfather does. We say ‘no problem’ when there’s a mistake in order, and politely stand by while the 40-something-year-old soccer mom huffs and rolls her eyes as the new girl struggles to punch in the correct code.
You say our music objectifies women and glorifies drugs and criminals. There has been no significant change from the songs that were once sung or the singers who sang them. Many of the 50’s, 60’s, 70’s, and 80’s performers were drug addicts, womanizers, and criminals in their own right. Elvis Presley was child abuser, John Lennon raped his many girlfriends and most of the music I grew up listening, which was 80’s rock, were performed by habitual drug abusers. Let’s not pretend like human nature took a drastic turn when 1983 rolled around.
You say we cuss to prove a point. We, as a generation, have learned it’s not the words we fucking use, it’s the passion in them that we care about. As a generation, we’ve become more interested in politics and the world around us, cursing is minor problem when we consider the political climate the older generation has plunged us into.
You say we use ‘bae’ to describe the ones we love. Bae, originally, means ‘before anyone else’ which is incredibly romantic in my opinion. Bae is also hardly ever taken seriously, it’s a jokey way to talk about someone you love. Language changes, I doubt people were happy when we changed ‘wherefore’ into ‘why.’ The greatest injustice we can do to our language and culture is not allow it to evolve and grow with us.
You say we idolize people like Kim Kardashian and shame people like Tim Tebow. Kim Kardashian is a business woman who had a private video she made with a lover illegally revealed. Instead of fading into obscurity, she stood tall and did not let the sexual shaming she endured stop her and now runs a multi-million dollar industry, is married to one of the richest men in the world, and had two beautiful children. Tim Tebow is a Christian who was criticized by a few people for praying in an open stadium while most people just wanted to see a game.
You say we’re lazy and entitled, we want to make a lot of money and get a free education but we’re not willing to put in the work. We are not lazy. I cannot tell you how many people I meet who have gone to school full time while working a part or even full-time job just to make ends meet. We’re not entitled, we’re bitter. In the 70’s, you could work a part time job over the summer and pay your way through four years of school because tuition was $400, now just to walk in the door of your local community college you need to drop $14,000. We have kids who aren’t even old enough to drink, yet are already $20,000 deep in debt. Debt that won’t go away because even filing for bankruptcy won’t erase it. And even with that education, there’s no guarantee you’ll find something in your field. I have a friend who has a degree in microbiology and she’s making $9 an hour selling $15 candles. I have another friend who has a masters in Sport Psychology and Counseling. She’s a bartender. My parents bought a three bedroom house in the suburbs in the late 90’s while my generation is imagining apartments with breezy windows and trying to get enough money to get food while we scrounge up less than $8 a week.
You say we spend more time online making friends and less time building relationships and our relationship’s appearance on Facebook is more important than building the foundation that relationship is based on. We are a generation that is profoundly connected and no other generation has seen this before. We have more opportunities to meet people from all over the world and better chances to understand other worldviews and lifestyles. Being able to stay home and talk to people over the internet is cheaper and more relaxing than having to force yourself to interact with people in public settings after a long day of minimum wage labor. The people I talk to more over the internet are people I have been friends with for years. It’s easier to talk about the day’s events over Skype or Facebook Messenger than arrange a day to meet in person when you have conflicting schedules. I truly don’t believe most people care what others think of their friendship or how their relationships ‘look’ on social media. Most often what you are calling ‘our relationship’s appearance on Facebook’ are documented and searchable memories.
You say our idea of what we believe in is going on Facebook and posting a status on Facebook. Not everyone can join in with the crowds of protesters. It’s easy to see what others have to say through the comments and argue back without the threat of violence. And when this generation does organize events to stand up for ourselves, it’s met with childish name-calling or being reduced to a ‘riot.’
You say we believe the number of follows we have reflects who we are as a person. It’s nice knowing there’s 20 or 50 or maybe even 100 people who care what you have to say or think. We live in an age where we can and will be heard.
You say we don’t respect our elders, that we don’t respect our country. Our elders grew up in one of the greatest economic booms in history and in turn made it the worst economic situation since the 1930’s all while blaming kids who were only five at the time for it. We stand on our flag because it means nothing, it’s a pretty banner for an ugly lie. We’re a country that says you can make it if you just work hard enough while, in the end, that will almost never happen. We’re a country that becomes irate at the idea of 20-something college kids standing on some canvas dyed red, white, and blue but seem to shrug off the millions of homeless, disabled veterans.
You say we’re more divided than ever before. Ever before what? When black folk couldn’t drink from the same fountain as white folk? When women couldn’t vote? When white southerners fought for the idea that they could keep black people as slaves? We’re a generation that is done with injustice and when you fight for social change, you will divide people.
You say everything that was frowned up is celebrated. What does that mean? We frowned up gay marriage. We frowned upon wives being able to say no to sex with their husbands. We frowned up interracial marriage. We frowned up black folk being allowed to go to school with white folk. We frowned upon women being allowed to vote. Are those things not worth celebrating?
You say nothing has value in our generation, that we take advantage of everything. We value friendship more, we value the fists of change, we value social justice and family and the right to marry those we love. We value the right to be yourself, wholly and fully. We value the right to choose and we value the idea of fighting what you believe in, even when everyone older than you is telling you you’re what’s wrong with the country.
You say we have more opportunities to succeed than those before but we don’t ‘appreciate’ them. We are a bitter generation. You can finance a boat for 3.9% but you have to pay back college tuition plus 8.9%. We may have more opportunities but those opportunities cost money we don’t have.
You say you can see why we’re called ‘Generation,’ but we’re not Generation Y, we’re Millennials and we do feel entitled. We were promised a strong economy and inexpensive education. We had the world in our hands and we were going to make it better. And it was ripped away from us because of incompetent rulers, illegal wars, and greedy corporations and we get blamed for it. Crime has gone down, abortion and unintended pregnancy has lowered, people are living longer, people are more educated, people are less likely to die from violent crime or diseases, yet my generation is touted as the worst generation and for what? Crimes that we’re accused of that happened before we could even wipe our own ass? We were raised better, and we were raised in a society that treated, and continues to treat, us like garbage. And we are done. We are not sorry, we did nothing wrong.
i guess you could call this
a moist owlet
is 2016 over yet
Anonymous asks:
Imagine a world where one’s DNA, blood, and tissue samples were on file. Everyone is on file. Whenever someone with a compatibility to you fell deathly ill, you could be compelled to give them blood, marrow, a kidney, a portion of intestine or pancreas or liver or lung. There are no donor waiting lists. Countless lives are saved. So why does it sound like a dystopian novel? Oh right, because treating every human organ as if it were a uterus would be terrifying.
^^^^YUP
I say this a lot but they insist it’s not the same thing. It really is the same though.
If it really was about ‘all life is sacred’ they would be 100% with the idea of everyone being a registered donor and not having a choice when it came to giving up something, so long as there was a reasonable chance they would survive the procedure. Sure, some people would die after giving a kidney or lung, but most don’t so no one should have a choice.
And it is for a stranger when it involves pregnancy too. You’ve never actually met it, you don’t know it. It’s a stranger that happens to share your DNA. Sharing DNA doesn’t make you not strangers either. I share DNA with my maternal grandfather, but I’ve never met him. He’s a stranger. I share DNA with my paternal uncle and cousin, but I’ve met one of them only once, and the other never. They’re strangers who I happen to share DNA with. Same with a fetus. It’s a stranger I would happen to share DNA with should one ever exist.
Ok but wage gaps are real???? Like at least in Canada they are. Females make 70 cents for every dollar a male makes for the same job. Like that person is poorly educated. I've done my research.
I saw this summed up really well one time by @fandomsandfeminism:Let’s talk about the wage gap, and PAY GAPS.
People often fail to appreciate the difference between pay gaps and wage gaps. You are asking for specific examples of wage gaps, but pay gaps are often an even bigger problem.
Wage gaps, where people’s actual SALARIES for equal work show a disparity, (which is what you are looking for examples of) can and do still happen, of course, we know that they do, but pay gaps are even more insidious. In 2010 the median income of Full time Year Round workers was $42,800 for men, compared to $34,700 for women. The reasons for this are varied, and when you factor in race, disability, trans identity, and sexual orientation the numbers can become even more startling.
For example: A study by sociologists Shelley Correll, Stephan Benard, and In Paik found that, when comparing equally qualified women job candidates, women who were mothers were recommended for significantly lower starting salaries, perceived as less competent, and less likely to be recommended for hire than non-mothers. The effects for fathers in the study were the opposite: fathers were actually recommended for significantly higher pay and were perceived as more committed to their jobs than non-fathers.[source] [source]
But just looking at gender, even ignoring employers that do break the law and pay their female employees less (and yes, you can TRY to bring that to court and pay all those court fees. Never mind that not all women have the resources to DO THAT), there are many other factors that come into play: Women have less success in gaining promotions than their male counter parts (and other Glass Ceiling effects), women are dissuaded from higher paying fields (such as STEM fields) through institutional hostility, women are expected to take unpaid maternity leave for child care when men are not (regardless of whether or not they will), women are less successful at salary negotiations and are sometimes even penalized by employers for trying at MUCH higher rates than men, work that is traditionally female dominated being undervalued on a cultural level (women might be cooks, but not chefs; nurses, not doctors; etc.) and a myriad of others.
We know, for example, women need an additional degree in order to make as much as men with a lower degree over the course of a lifetime. A woman would need a doctoral degree, for instance, to earn the same as a man with a bachelor’s degree, and a man with a high school education would earn approximately the same amount as a woman with a bachelor’s degree.
The fact is that women, on average, DO make less than men, and the issue isn’t always direct illegal wage imbalance. The issues are often far more wide reaching and speak to a cultural misogyny that has to be confronted beyond just legislation.
This is a really good article to read for more information:Explaining the Wage Gap“-V
Just remember. There is no such thing as a fake geek girl. There are only fake geek boys. Science fiction was invented by a woman.
you cannot be a feminist and be pro-life/anti-choice
This is because your views, if effected in legislation, would result in: - Unsafe abortions (because legislation against safe abortion always does) - Forced pregnancy (which is abuse and illegal when an individual does it) - The death and suffering of many women in childbirth - Infanticide (especially by poor women who cannot provide for their child) - The forced pregnancy of minors (mostly victims of incest/rape) - The forced pregnancy of rape victims - Rapists having custody over children (because that happens) - Suicides of pregnant women - More power for abusive men over the women in their lives - The treatment of women’s bodies as state property
Beautiful tribute to Antony Yelchin.
it’s really fucked up that we assume love has to be romantic. there are so many girls out there that are upset because they’ve never been in a relationship and so that means no one will ever love them. when in reality, most of those girls are very deeply loved by their family and friends but does it count? no because obviously love only counts if it’s romantic
You want to talk about terrorist attacks in the U.S. by misogynistic groups? Okay.
Anti-abortion terrorists have as of 1977 committed the following:
11 murders
17 attempted murders
153 incidents of assault/battery
383 death threats
655 anthrax threats
619 bomb threats
41 bombings
3 kidnappings
173 arsons
91 attempted bombings/arsons
1264 incidents of vandalism
And this is just against clinics that provide abortion services. This also doesn’t include the daily intimidation campaigns against these clinics and anyone who even comes near them.
“Angels” block the Westboro Baptist Church from protesting Orlando victim’s funeral
When a handful of Westboro Baptist Church members showed up Saturday at the funeral of Orlando shooting victim Christopher Leinonen, counterprotesters donning large, white angel wings were there to shield mourners. Members of the Orlando Shakespeare Theater put together the wings as a symbolic but also literal screen between the WBC and funeral attendees. An Orlando Police tweet later proved the efforts to stop the WBC worked.
if you see someone being interrupted in a conversation, acknowledge them, don’t let them be pushed to the side. if you see someone lagging behind, walk beside them. if someone is being ignored, take the step to include them. always remind people of their worth. it hurts when it feels like you’re being forgotten. that small gesture can mean a lot.
Sean O'Connell still has the best weigh-in stare downs
Only 3 out of 133 mass shootings in the US in the past year were perpetrated by Muslims. That means 130 non-Muslims killed at least 4 people. But yeah, it’s the Muslims we gotta worry about, not the white Christian dude with a bad haircut.
“Prosecutors say a former Vanderbilt football player encouraged his team-mates to rape an unconscious woman whom he had been dating.
During opening statements Monday in the retrial of Brandon Vandenburg, a prosecutor said the former player even passed out condoms to three team-mates before the woman was raped.
But one of Vandenburg’s attorneys blamed the three other players, saying that maybe Vandenburg could have stopped the June 2013 attack but he shouldn’t be held responsible for what others did to her.
The defense attorney said Vandenburg had been drinking all day, and the 19-year-old new recruit had asked players he didn’t know to help him carry the unconscious woman to his dorm. He said the others were on her as soon as they got her in the room.”
Horrific.
Hello, I’m a lazy Millennial.
In other words, I’m from a generation that has worked more hours for less money than any generation before me, but occasionally I eat a granola bar for breakfast instead of pouring myself a bowl of cereal. According to some, including many writers of online thinkpieces, that’s enough to make me “lazy.”
But the problem isn’t me, or young people in general, or any group that’s historically been decried for its idleness. Like Millennials, groups that are called “lazy” are often the hardest-working people around. They’re just subject to ableism, racism, classism, and other bigotry that codes exploitation or exhaustion as “unwillingness to work.”
I myself have had a very confusing relationship with “laziness” from a young age, often being called “lazy” for enjoying reading and video games by the same parents who praised me for always getting my homework done on time.
Needless to say, I became rather confused about the quality of my work ethic. Was I lazy or not? In my teens, I developed an anxiety disorder and a perfectionism that made academic shirking impossible, but the constant state of worry disrupted my sleep and left me so exhausted that I would often come home from school and go straight to bed for a nap. Sometimes, all I could do was lay in bed, awake, ruminating on everything I could possibly worry about.
But because I was in bed, this was called “laziness.”
I worked so little at that office job, I couldn’t believe it. I could spend multiple hours each day scrolling through Tumblr or playing on social media. My “work” time involved reading articles vaguely related to my work — mostly because there wasn’t much work for me to do. Compared to being on my feet all day, being expected to work every moment on the clock, it was nothing.
I worked three times as hard at my food and customer service jobs as I did at any of my digital marketing positions. And yet contemptuous thinkpiecers keep on describing people who work in those industries as “lazy.” Why don’t you get a REAL job? Like reading Tumblr while sitting at a desk, instead of busting your ass at McDonald’s.
According to Dr. Alison Munoff, a licensed clinical psychologist, “laziness” is nothing more than a value judgement.
“‘Laziness’ is not a personality trait, it is simply a matter of a lack of proper motivation and reinforcement, as it is a behavioral pattern rather than a part of who we are,” says Dr. Munoff. “The ability to actively approach a task in a time-effective manner changes depending on the task and its value in our lives. For example, in a situation of obtaining limited resources, people find themselves quite motivated and resourceful, meaning that this task is simply a priority based on its value and necessity, and has little to do with someone’s personality. Unfortunately I find that when asked about the first time people were told they were being ‘lazy,’ it was from a parent or caregiver who was unsuccessfully attempting to motivate the child without a good understanding of the way this idea would be carried forward.”
In nature, animals spend a lot of their time being idle. Most of the footage shot of big cats like lions are of them lazing around. Part of this is because many of them are nocturnal, but it’s also because animals will hunt, forage, and eat until they’re full, and then most of the rest of their time is spent conserving energy. Laying around doing pretty much nothing is completely natural. It’s adaptive. Yet laziness has this negative connotation in many human societies. And that negative connotation is often deployed in ableist, racist, and classist ways.
Today, we can all enjoy reasonably priced produce thanks to the many exploited Latin undocumented immigrant workers picking our fruit and vegetables — labor that is so intensive that we “non-lazy” white people simply can’t handle it. And let’s not forget that all of this land was stolen from the Indigenous tribes that were here before we floated over and laid claim to it all. Isn’t stealing other people’s hard work supposed to be lazy?
Or is it just that it’s easier to call people lazy than admit that you exploited them?
Even if you’re not racist, you’ve probably used the idea of laziness in a way that hurts a lot of people. I still struggle with an anxiety disorder and go through bouts of depression, and a lot of what’s involved in these mental illnesses looks like what people call “laziness.” Depression saps your energy and makes everything seem pointless. Anxiety is paralyzing, making even some of the simplest tasks (like calling people on the phone) seem daunting, so I avoid them.
Combine the two and you’ve got me huddled into a ball on the bed, unable to do anything but listen to Netflix playing in the background. It looks like laziness, but I’m actually engaged in an exhausting war in my own head. Anxiety is like pushing a giant boulder in front of you wherever you go, and depression is like dragging a giant boulder attached to your legs by chains.
People with physical illness and disability are also prone to being accused of laziness, especially if that illness or disability is not visible to others. There are people who are nearly constantly in pain or constantly fatigued, but you would never know by looking at them. These individuals work much harder than able-bodied and “healthy” people. Not only do they often have to work to survive because disability payments (if they can get them) are not nearly enough, they have to navigate a world that caters to able-bodied people, and they have to navigate that world while their bodies work against them. But article after article decries the “laziness” of people who use motorized carts or take elevators up one floor instead of using the stairs, not for a second thinking that there are people who wouldn’t be able to shop or go up floors at all without these “conveniences.”
It’s easier to think of someone as “lazy” than to face the fact that school costs too much, that better jobs are inaccessible, that childcare is unaffordable, that people are forced to work so hard for so little that there’s no way they could have enough energy to attempt schooling or finding better work, and that what we give to people who can’t work is insufficient to the point of being shameful. I could say that calling people lazy is, in itself, lazy, but it’s not just an intellectual shortcut. It’s a defense mechanism.
Everyone has a finite amount of energy. Some of us have greater drains on our pool of energy than others, whether it comes from the stress of racial microaggressions, the stress of poverty, or mental or physical illness. Needing more time to recover isn’t laziness. Having less time or energy to make breakfast than the previous generation isn’t laziness. When you take a second to look into the reasons behind the behavior, you’ll never end up finding laziness. Because laziness isn’t real.
^^^ THIS
Rejection
Um. So I’m probably one of the few folks who doesn’t think this is adorable. At all.
I think it’s fucking scary how this little boy keep pushing himself on her after she CLEARLY doesn’t want to be bothered with his ass.
And the adult behind the camera doesn’t intervene at all because it’s ‘cute.’
And how analogous it is to when grown ass men don’t take fucking no for an answer, no matter how much we push and shove and say no.
This is not cute. This is an absolute disregard of this little girl’s boundaries.
In the very bottom left gif you can see he’s smiling/laughing. Like this is some kind of game.
I would bet money that the person filming this is laughing and encouraging him.
This is how we teach boys not to respect women’s spaces.
at what point in history do you think americans stopped having british accents
– This Was Never Supposed to Happen To You
i’m so fucking tired. we keep dying in real life and on screen, that’s how much they hate us. we are getting murdered in our safe spaces and they don’t even let the friends of the injured donate blood. they tell trans people to pee in the bushes, they tell suicidal teens who watch themselves die on screen every other week to calm down. they literally fucking kill us and make us afraid of holding hands in public and then ask why we need pride when pride is still an act of bravery, because if we’re openly ourselves we are putting ourselves in danger