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Reminder that this is where F1 is racing this week. Nobody has said anything about it yet.

And I still don't see half as many posts about human rights in Florida as I see when it's the Middle East or anywhere that's not a so called western country tbh.

Edit to add :

I’m about to save you thousands of dollars in therapy by teaching you what I learned paying thousands of dollars for therapy:

It may sound woo woo but it’s an important skill capitalism and hyper individualism have robbed us of as human beings.

Learn to process your emotions. It will improve your mental health and quality of life. Emotions serve a biological purpose, they aren’t just things that happen for no reason.

1. Pause and notice you’re having a big feeling or reaching for a distraction to maybe avoid a feeling. Notice what triggered the feeling or need for a distraction without judgement. Just note that it’s there. Don’t label it as good or bad.

2. Find it in your body. Where do you feel it? Your chest? Your head? Your stomach? Does it feel like a weight everywhere? Does it feel like you’re vibrating? Does it feel like you’re numb all over?

3. Name the feeling. Look up an emotion chart if you need to. Find the feeling that resonates the most with what you’re feeling. Is it disappointment? Heartbreak? Anxiety? Anger? Humiliation?

4. Validate the feeling. Sometimes feelings misfire or are disproportionately big, but they’re still valid. You don’t have to justify what you’re feeling, it’s just valid. Tell yourself “yeah it makes sense that you feel that right now.” Or something as simple as “I hear you.” For example: If I get really big feelings of humiliation when I lose at a game of chess, the feeling may not be necessary, but it is valid and makes sense if I grew up with parents who berated me every time I did something wrong. So I could say “Yeah I understand why we are feeling that way given how we were treated growing up. That’s valid.”

5. Do something with your body that’s not a mental distraction from the feeling. Something where you can still think. Go on a walk. Do something with your hands like art or crochet or baking. Journal. Clean a room. Figure out what works best for you.

6. Repeat, it takes practice but is a skill you can learn :)

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Petitions - UK Government and Parliament

Petition: Legally enshrine the right of adults to physically transition using NHS services

Introduce a law to legally protect the right of those aged 18 and over to transition using NHS services. This should specifically cover phys

Uk peeps!! Let’s get this going! 🏳️‍⚧️🇬🇧

tw; mentions and descriptions of sexual assault, sexual harassment, rape, post traumatic stress disorder

as someone who has quite the CV of sexual assault experience, i feel horrible about everything that is happening right now.

we're not going to talk about christian horner's guilt/innocence on this post, because i think i've talked about that so much on my asks tag (though you'll have to scroll a bit to find the relevant asks coz it's been a few days).

instead, i just wanted to vent about how fucking disappointed i am in the drivers right now.

i've been undergoing treatment and therapy for post traumatic stress disorder for years because i was raped by a close friend, in my own home, which i welcomed him into with so much trust. i want to vomit at the way that this is being handled.

i don't even know why i'm so surprised. they're rich, privileged white men. why did i expect better responses from them instead of calling sexual harassment allegations "noise" or "not about me" or "a distraction from racing"???? maybe because f1 preached about inclusivity so much. maybe because there are literally women working in the sport. maybe because all of them have wives/mothers/sisters/friends/colleagues that are women. or maybe because i just expected being angry at sexual harassment to be more of a normal thing.

i love this sport, and i love my drivers, and it's just been such an upsetting experience to hear how they're addressing this. when i was hit, choked, raped, or mentally abused (i am trying not to get too graphic on main), the other men in my life were so supportive. listening to my rants, telling people why what happened to me was wrong, being righteously outraged at the harm that comes to women for just being women.

it's not that fucking hard to want women to be protected??? or so i thought.

f1 was something that i would watch on late nights, when i needed to distract myself from the memory of my pants being forced off while i was napping on my own couch. watching driver interviews and giggling at their humor was something that i looked forward to when i felt my brain go numb. writing fics about these drivers, who i found so comforting, was a way for me to escape the flashbacks of the bar's bathroom door's lock being broken down while i was vomiting and having someone shove their fingers inside me. watching races helped me take my mind off someone at work calling me a whore just because i didn't overtime at work because i had a date.

now, i don't know how to feel. i don't want to hate this sport, because i think that women deserve our place in f1. i just want better for women. i want to hold my drivers accountable. i want them to grow and change for the better. i want these stupid white men to learn.

some people are making the argument that the drivers were told what to say by PR. if that's the case then these teams should fire their entire PR teams because the statements or takes of the majority have been absolute shit. aside from that though, these are GROWN-ASS MEN. do they need to be told that sexual harassment is bad, and should not be tolerated???? i would have thought that went without saying.

the media is also asking shitty leading questions. like, use your fucking platforms for good.

i saw people irl deal with similar issues better than this. maybe that's why it's so disappointing.