One Of The Reasons That Many Autistic Women Get Turned Away From A Diagnosis Is That They Are In A Romantic

One of the reasons that many autistic women get turned away from a diagnosis is that they are in a romantic relationship. how could she possibly have a disability related to social dysfunction? she was socially skillful enough to attain one of the primary goals of a woman's life, she has a partner! what this ignores is that for women, especially autistic women, getting into a relationship is something that can just straight up be done to you without you taking any action at all or even really consenting to it. Men approach women, involve themselves in women's lives, push women to give them attention and spend time with them, begin forming expectations around the woman's availability to them based simply on having been around her a lot before, and every individual in the woman's life will typically encourage her to grant the man a chance and get into a relationship with him, and will begin asking her questions and forming assumptions that push that relationship further along. when are you two going to move in together? surely you want to have kids! well of course he wants to spend a lot of time with you, you're dating! and so in fact a person who is disempowered due to misogyny and who is also extremely passive and socially confused due to autism can actually be even more likely to wind up into a relationship or always to be in one. hell a great many autistics say that they didn't even choose their friendships at all, those friendships just happened to them by virtue of proximity and sufficient pushiness (or interest) on the part of the friends! so it's actually very easy for an autistic woman, no matter her degree of social skills or ability to neuro conform, to wind up in a relationship.