100%. It's not the fault of mean feminists that men fall down these pipelines, but if we want to counter it effectively, there's no point in throwing more fuel on the fire. These pipelines depend on the opposing forces playing their part as they do and warping the perspective around it to confirm their own biases. Woman rightfully angry about interpersonal mistreatment uses cruel language in her own defense = see they ARE mean bitches who hate you and don't care about you. It sucks to have to care about it but if we want to make progress, we have to pay attention to the consequences of our language because it doesn't exist in a vacuum and is being both anticipated and accounted for by these pipelines.
And that doesn't even mean putting up with bullshit behavior from misogynistic assholes, it just means changing tactics for responding or disengaging with their game entirely if its not comfortable. They're expecting a mean shouting match to confirm what they already believe. In my experience, people usually thrown off entirely when you respond to their provocations with kindness or another subversive response.
Name-calling or yelling back is just part of the self-hating game to them. We don't have to play the game.
“maybe men wouldn’t fall down the alt right pipeline so easily if feminists were nicer” yesss women famously got our rights by saying “pretty please? 🥺 with a cherry on top? 🥺🥺🥺” and the men were really nice and said “omg yes of course 🫰🏻”
rb to give it up for laura hall and linda taylor
"ohh 00s diet culture isn't back because of ozempic, you're overreacting"
idk i keep seeing previously size-inclusive brands remove plus-sized versions of their clothes from their catalogues entirely, even lines specifically aimed at bigger sizes are cutting their size range down and chopping the bigger ones. i keep seeing mean skinny tiktokers get famous because they said something rude about fat people. when i ask my doctor about weight loss (which my country's gender treatment clinic requires before i can access even preliminary talks about hrt), i'm immediately offered drugs about it - drugs which, according to the doctor, we don't know the long-term effects of. but surely! surely it can't be worse than being fat!
like why are people acting surprised? we've made being extremely wealthy the aspirational aesthetic to strive for, made 'being skinny and having a lot of time and money to stay beautiful' a not only viable but lucrative carreer for people, and then released a drug that is wildly expensive and will make people thin.
of course people are gonna make being thin the ultimate status symbol again - it more than ever before signals wealth and leisure-time.
like, do you think it's a coincidence that people are back to constantly spouting 'nothing tastes as good as skinny feels' again? and pretending being fat is a matter of lacking self-control around cake or whatever? as if people haven't spent decades trying to get these fucks to understand that actually healthy produce and the time to maintain your body are extreme luxuries in our society?
anyway my broke fat ass can't find pants i like and can afford because the size-inclusive lines i'd have shopped at previously have axed anything over a size xl
and like. i'm not even that fat. what the fuck do people bigger than me do. it's really heinous right now for fat peeps.
We talk a lot about autistic food avoidance like autistic people who are super picky eaters and need bland or uniformly textured food, but it can work in the other direction too. Some of us are sensory seeking when it comes to taste, and will eat plain raw onion, entire lemons (peel and all), drink hot sauce or eat entire packets of breath mints for lunch when left to our own devices. And it’s possible to be both too! I have some foods that are sensory nightmares for me, but many of the foods I do eat are extremely strong tasting (raw onion with horseradish my beloved). People often aren’t just sensory seeking or just sensory avoidant! Fuck diet culture, fuck anti autistic ableism, and let us eat a jar of pickled lemons!
Everyone joking about “scaring off the twitters” and “firing shots into the air to keep rent low” but few doing their part. Post homestuck.
The "kids are on their damn phones all the time" conversation has changed in an extremely significant way and I'm not sure people realize it. When kids had flip phones, and even in the early days of smartphones, kids were using their phones to text each other. It was part of an active social life. Now they're using their phones more and more to consume content from influencers or other accounts. It's more passive and it's increasingly what people are doing instead of socializing with each other. This applies to adults too, I just keep thinking about high school students.
remember kids, the moral of "Irish and Italians weren't even considered White yet!" isn't "because in those times people were so ignorant they didn't think the Irish were white". the moral is "because white is an unreal category created to justify slavery and ongoing hoarding of power and wealth". It's not that you know better about Italians. It's that the boundaries of the higher caste have changed.
unfortunately no eclipse photography can ever outdo the waffle house one from 2017
It should 100% be illegal for companies to make you give them your payment information when you sign up for a free trial version of their product. It is not necessary and there is no good fucking reason for them to do it. It’s blatantly just so they can steal forgetful customers’ money.