"I Don't Know What I'd Have Become Without Her."

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Look at this stupid meme I found, I love it- 😭

he thinks he's gonna eat him

fawwwk they’re gonna get me in trouble

Who Are We To Judge?

My opinions on the #whiteboyofthemonth trend and toxic parasocial relationship, celebrity and internet culture

The obsessive fan culture surrounding "white boy of the month" is often VERY toxic. Every time like clockwork, people all over the world will decide to obsess over, a white (usually an actor) celebrity (currently Nicholas Alexander Chavez). Fans sexually objectify these individuals, writing obscene fanfictions example “Nicholas Alexander Chavez (notice; not the character he plays) × the reader" fanfiction while knowing he's in a whole relationship (which is disrespectful, not only to his girlfriend but to their relationship. If we witnessed a woman hitting on a man, knowing he was in a relationship, would we not all turn our noses up at her behaviour?)

People found out who Nicholas was dating, and proceeded to harass her on social media, drudging up whatever they could find about her (usually negative) and ripped her appearance apart.

I saw people saying that Victoria (Nick's girlfriend was had an issue with Taby (his previous co-star) and forced Nicholas to unfollow all his previous female co-stars from following him. Like were you in the room when that conversation took place? I saw people saying that she wore a matching shirt Nick and Taby had on Taby's birthday as almost like a dig at her. Like, y'all don't know these people AT ALL. He could have had his own reasons for doing so. You don't know Nicholas, and you don't know Victoria.

People are basing a lot of their 'evidence' on what they've found on social media and then making their minds up. People will infer things based on their own biases and not off of any definitive facts. Voicing your biased opinions on social media as fact is damaging, and unsuspecting individuals will take it as fact.

Then due to their obsession, ‘fans’ will then proceed to start digging up, and ripping apart anything they can find about the celebrity's past, being highly critical of every decision they've ever made in their lives and judgmental about situations they don't know nearly enough about to comment on, like people can't grow from who they've been or like they know the person and the thinking that went into every decision he's ever made.

My final opinions in regards to Parasocial Relationships

Having expressed my grievances about how inappropriate parasocial relationships are, I have to say, I'm not all too surprised they've reached the precipice that they have. Our society has always regarded celebrities and socialites (now influencers) as public property, collectively agreeing that is perfectly acceptable to invade the personal and private lives of actors, musicians and influencers just because they are in the spotlight. Why would someone having fame mean they are no longer entitled to privacy. Even thinking back to an argument I saw being had online about individuals wanting influencers to be 'real' and relatable. On the one side, some of those individuals were imploring that influencers stop peddling unrealistic standards to the public through the use of facetuning and passing off plastic surgery as the results of hard work in the gym and genetics. But some people want influencers to go deeper and talk about topics such as their relationship issues, both platonic and romantic, which respectfully, is NONE of our BUSINESSES. There is nothing wrong with people treating social media as a highlight reel and keeping their personal life PERSONAL.

My final opinions in regards to social media culture

Social media may not exist in the real world but we're interacting with real people, so why would our morals go out the window when interacting with a stranger online when we would treat the stranger on the street with for more curtesy and respect? Why do we feel comfortable ripping people apart just because we're not saying these cruel things directly to their faces? Why do we recognise ourselves as complex individuals, with feelings and sensitivities and not think to afford the person on the other side of the screen the same considerations? We've had these conversations before, where both celebrities and influencers have come out and explained that they see the hurtful things people write about them. I know some of you may say, "oh, those are just usually trolls", but they're not. They're everyone. We've created a culture where everyone wants to voice their opinions on everything in order to connect with likeminded people across the world, not realising that they don't just exist in an echo chamber, other people are going to see what you say about someone, some people might even take what you say about that person seriously, especially if you say it with conviction despite it being a simple opinion. But most importantly, the people you talk about might see what you have to say about them online.

After witnessing how the 80's media wrote and spoke about the Menendez's brothers abuse, how defense lawyers and prosecutors presented their cases in the two separate trials, and how it definitively affected the overall outcome and ruling of both cases

Versus

How the youth of today perceives the case after assessing the SAME cases, by accessing archival evidence through the internet and learning from each other (while also, of course, having different generational moral values to previous generations), we can recognise that there is difference in public perception of two completely different generations looking at the same case, and that difference comes down to words and the narratives that are circulated.

The Gen Z generation has had far more quick access to information due to the accessibility of the internet, and subsequently each other, where we can share our knowledge but also opinions with one another. Our perspectives on the world are shaped by each other, including the individual on the other side of the world. With globalisation, translation AI and global languages, we CAN learn about worldviews that exist outside of our physical locations/communities, therefore, we are far less suseptible to the hive-mind that could have impacted the rationales and opinions of prior generations.

We can't afford to act like words are mere flippant expressions of one's thoughts, opinions or intelligences. Your words have weight. We should be far wiser and more considerate with what we put online, what we say about each other and how we communicate with each other.

the girlies reading

*★ Jasper Whitlock-Hale Incorrect quotes pt.3 ★*

Nicholas at InStyle Imagemaker Awards, tonight 24th October, 2024.

I saw that and instantly heard Sloppy Seconds by Lay Bankz playing in my head. Holy shit that's 🥵🥵