Your Purpose In Life Is Not To Love Yourself But To Love Being Yourself.

“Suddenly she realized that what she was regretting was not the lost past but the lost future, not what had not been but what would never be.”

— F. Scott Fitzgerald, A Nice Quiet Place

How do you guess someone’s ascendant?

First of all, it can always be hard and confusing, especially if someone has planets in 1st House. (example: Pluto in 1st House can bring a certain kind of intensity to someone, sometimes even a “dark” presence, deep eyes, even if they are light in colour)

Fire Risings: Talkative, in some cases confrontational, they speak their mind and that can cause some people to dislike them, because of their bold rawness. Usually smile/laugh a lot and have strong charisma. People either adore them or dislike them from the start.

Aries rising: Bold, brave, independent. That’s what they portray. Could have a “loud” voice and sometimes swear a lot. They don’t care what people will think and they’re very blunt. Likes attention, could seem child-like(competitive, pout when someone does something better than them)

Leo rising: Very charming and have a warm presence. Love to make jokes and are the ones that try to make others feel comfortable. Very approachable and can easily make friends, unless they appear conceited(which can happen in some cases). 

Sagittarius rising: Easygoing, likeable, humorous. The kind of people that everyone loves. Very sociable and treat everyone equally. Enthusiastic and almost always positive. Always have an opinion, no matter what the topic is. Can appear wise and mature.

Water risings: A lot quieter than the rest, can even appear shy. Don’t like to be the center of attention. Could appear isolated and distant, even lost. Wouldn’t be the type to talk to someone unless the person approaches them first.

Cancer: Something about them appears soft, whether that’s physically or their manners, the way they treat people. Although they aren’t the most talkative and are usually shy, they are very kind. Soft smile, could often cling onto their friends.

Scorpio: Likely to wear dark colours! They could appear scary or unapproachable even if they don’t want to. They like to stay alone, apart from the crowd and don’t smile a lot. Could have a very intense gaze, you feel like they see your soul.

Pisces: Could be social but not the one to lead conversations or talk to people first. They daydream a lot and look like they’re somewhere else/look disoriented. Very soft, breathy voice. The ones to always play with animals when they see them.

Earth risings: Have something very calming about them. The types to always appear composed, no matter what the situations is. Aren’t the most talkative and can appear judgemental at times(even if they don’t want to)

Taurus: Very chill,have a very slow, pleasant voice. They always make their atmosphere comfortable no matter where they are. Bring coffee, adjust their seats, sometimes almost lie when they seat on a sofa(if the situation is appropriate). Easygoing and appear approachable. 

Virgo: Might seem judgemental even if they don’t want to(it’s usually because they’re nervous). Always try to look put-together and composed. They might seem colder when you talk to them(at first). The ones that bring a lot of things in their bag “just in case”. Always willing to help.

Capricorn: They don’t smile and can appear too serious. Not the ones to approach others, but they aren’t nervous when they socialize. Confident(appear to, when they aren’t), will never look messy or out of place. 

Air risings: They are talkative and friendly, easily adjust to social situations. Might be the ones to do most talking. Sometimes playful, sometimes appear distant. They are the ones that get blamed for “flirting” when they are just too nice.

Gemini: Might move a lot. Fast voice, usually higher. They are often the ones to approach others to make friends or just small talk. Joke a lot, laugh a lot, have a child-like quality to them. Always curious and ask questions. Can be flirtacious but it’s almost always in a joking manner. 

Libra: Lovely! They are the ones that are calm yet social. They are easy to make contact with others and are very charming in the way they do it. Best manners, a soft speaking voice(even men), always try to look good. Love to flatter others and get that in return.

Aquarius: Very friendly but they keep their distance from people. Not afraid to socialize but they prefer not to. Could isolate themselves from the crowds and do their own thing. Their style is very eccentric or they wear dark clothes. Might make the jokes that not everyone get/refer to things most people won’t understand. 

“what’s your five year plan” bro i wake up every day confused by the fact that i’m even alive

Mermaid’s Guide for the Astrological Aspects

ˏˋ°•*⁀➷ Aspects 101

Planets Aspects

Sun Aspects

When it comes to the Sun and its aspects, it's all about the inner you, your personality and your ego.

Conjunct: Your self is emphasized

Opposition: Focus on self-perception and others

Square: Tension and challenge with your personality

Trine: Harmony and ease with your personality

Sextile: Help in expressing your ego.

Sun/Moon: Inner needs and feelings intertwined with self-expression

Sun/Mercury: Self-expression and creativity intertwined with information processing and idea exchange

Sun/Venus: Self-worth and creativity intertwined with partnerships and social activities

Sun/Mars: Purpose and creative expression intertwined with drive for action and assertion

Sun/Jupiter: Creativity and self-expression intertwined with philosophical and spiritual beliefs

Sun/Saturn: Creativity and self-expression intertwined with hard work and perseverance

Sun/Uranus: Creativity and self-expression intertwined with freedom and individuality

Sun/Neptune: Creativity and self-expression intertwined with sensitivity to the inner world and imagination

Sun/Pluto: Creativity and self-expression intertwined with embracing change and inner depths.

Moon Aspects

When it comes to the Moon in astrology, any aspect it makes accentuates your emotions.

Conjunction: Emotions are at the forefront

Opposition: Awareness of both your and others' emotional states

Square: Emotional challenges and tension

Trine: Transform the energy of negative and positive feelings into productive things

Sextile: Opportunity for positive emotional expression, boosted confidence.

Moon/Mercury: Feelings and instincts intertwined with information processing and self-expression in words

Moon/Venus: Feelings and instincts intertwined with appreciation and creation of art, beauty, and pleasure

Moon/Mars: Feelings and instincts intertwined with pursuit of desires and passions

Moon/Jupiter: Feelings and instincts intertwined with seeking knowledge, finding meaning, and connecting with purpose

Moon/Saturn: Feelings and instincts intertwined with responsibility, perseverance, and learning from challenges

Moon/Uranus: Feelings and instincts intertwined with embracing change, taking risks, and thinking outside the box

Moon/Neptune: Feelings and instincts intertwined with empathy, creation, and accessing deeper aspects of psyche

Moon/Pluto: Feelings and instincts intertwined with facing the shadow self, navigating intense emotions, and undergoing personal growth.

Mercury Aspects

When it comes to Mercury, any aspect you see is all about the mind.

Conjunction: Mind is front and center

Opposition: Can mess with the head or give a new perspective

Square: Mental gears grind and cause tension

Trine or sextile: Easy, flowing mental vibe.

Mercury/Venus: Seeks to harmonize mental processes and communication with social and creative expressions.

Mercury/Mars: Strong drive to assert ideas and communicate effectively, but may struggle with impulsiveness and argumentative tendencies.

Mercury/Jupiter: Mental abilities and communication skills influenced by exploration and intellectual pursuits.

Mercury/Saturn: Mental abilities and communication skills influenced by a disciplined and strategic approach to thinking.

Mercury/Uranus: Communication style marked by need for intellectual stimulation and innovation.

Mercury/Neptune: Communication style influenced by sensitivity and intuition.

Mercury/Pluto: Communication style marked by ability to uncover hidden truths and depths.

Venus Aspects

When Venus is in the picture, it's all about love, siren!

Conjunct: highlights your loving nature.

Opposition: brings a wake-up call about your feelings towards others.

Square: challenges your ability to love.

Trine/sextile: make love easy and flowing.

Venus/Mars - values, love and beauty align with drive and action-oriented nature.

Venus/Jupiter - values, love and beauty align with life philosophies.

Venus/Saturn - values, love and beauty linked to a sense of responsibility.

Venus/Uranus - value, love and beauty linked to individuality and differentiation.

Venus/Neptune - value, love and beauty aligned with dreams and aspirations.

Venus/Pluto - value, love and beauty marked by intensity and desire for emotional connection and transformation.

Mars Aspects

When Mars gets involved, it's all about energy and aggression.

Conjunction: intense energy and drive.

Opposition: reveals motivations, either your own or others'.

Square: a challenging aspect that brings out aggression.

Trine: smooth flow of motivation and energy.

Sextile: positive energy that can be channeled into something great.

Mars/Jupiter - drive and action-oriented nature amplified by sense of expansion and optimism.

Mars/Saturn - drive and action-oriented nature molded by discipline and focus.

Mars/Uranus - drive and action-oriented nature inspired by innovations and revolutions.

Mars/Neptune - drive and action-oriented nature inspired by dreams, sensitivity, and intuition.

Mars/Pluto -drive and action-oriented nature marked by intensity and desire for power and transformation.

Jupiter Aspects

Any aspect to Jupiter accentuates expansion, philosophical reasoning and protection.

Conjunction: emphasizes growth, expansion, and optimism.

Square/opposition: create tension between desire for more and the reality of the situation.

Trine: indicates natural talent or ability for growth.

Sextile: provides opportunities for positive growth.

Jupiter/Saturn - desire for growth is grounded by practicality.

Jupiter/Uranus - desire for growth is inspired by innovation and revolution.

Jupiter/Neptune - desire for growth is inspired by dreams, intuition.

Jupiter/Pluto - desire for growth is marked by intensity and desire for transformation.

Saturn Aspects

So, when it comes to Saturn, you're gonna wanna pay attention because there's probably a lesson in there for you. This planet is all about concentration, discipline, and getting your life together in a tangible way.

Conjunction: the above principles are important to you.

Square or opposition: challenge in taking responsibility.

Trine or sextile: provide smoother opportunities to learn and concentrate with Saturn.

Saturn/Uranus: balance structure and stability with change and innovation.

Saturn/Neptune: links structure and stability with spiritual and emotional grounding.

Saturn/Pluto: transforming and intensifying the need for structure and stability through personal growth.

Uranus Aspects

Alright, so any aspect to Uranus is like a wake-up call that shakes things up, frees you from the norm, and brings surprises.

Conjunction: it brings out your creative drive.

Square or opposition: make you more independent and rebellious.

Trine or sextile: let your inventive side shine and make it easy for you to do your own thing.

Uranus/Neptune - the need for change and innovation is challenged and inspired by creative and visionary thinking.

Uranus/Pluto - the need for change and innovation is transformed and intensified by personal transformation.

Neptune Aspects

Any aspect to Neptune should be seen as a connection to the spiritual realm and the imagination.

Conjunction: emphasizes the power of imagination and creative potential.

Square or opposition: challenge you to deal with illusions and confusion in your life.

Trine or sextile: provide opportunities to connect with the spiritual realm and use your imagination in a positive way.

Neptune/Pluto - the need for spiritual and emotional connection is transformed and intensified by their transformative experience of personal growth and evolution.

Pluto Aspects

When it comes to any aspect of Pluto, you can expect some deep transformation, power struggles, and revelations.

Conjunction: highlights a sense of intensity and depth.

Opposition: may bring power struggles and bring awareness to your innermost desires and fears.

Square: where you may face challenges and obstacles that test your strength and character, and it can help you transform into a stronger and more self-aware person.

Trine or sextile: provide opportunities to channel the transformative energy of Pluto into positive action, making it easier to connect with your inner power and personal growth.

Signs Aspects

Sign that Conjunct

Aries/Aries - highlights initiative, assertiveness, and confidence.

Taurus/Taurus - highlights grounding, stability, and a focus on material and sensory pleasures.

Gemini/Gemini - emphasizes communication, learning, adaptability, and versatility.

Cancer/Cancer - emphasizes emotional sensitivity, nurturing, and instincts.

Leo/Leo - highlights themes of self-expression, creativity, confidence, and leadership potential.

Virgo/Virgo - emphasizes practicality, attention to detail, analytical thinking, and a focus on health and self-improvement.

Libra/Libra - emphasizes themes of balance, harmony, diplomacy, and a focus on relationships and aesthetics.

Scorpio/Scorpio - highlights themes of intensity, secrecy, and a focus on emotional depth.

Sagittarius/Sagittarius - emphasizes themes of adventure, exploration, optimism, and a focus on expanding one's horizons through knowledge and experience.

Capricorn/Capricorn - emphasizes themes of ambition, discipline, responsibility, and a focus on achieving long-term goals through hard work and perseverance.

Aquarius/Aquarius - highlights themes of innovation, individuality, eccentricity, and a focus on progress and social change.

Pisces/Pisces - emphasizes creativity, compassion, and spiritual awareness.

Sign that Sextile

Aries/Gemini - emphasizes quick thinking, adaptability, and a desire for new experiences

Taurus/Cancer - emphasizes the importance of security and comfort in life.

Gemini/Leo - emphasizes communication, self-expression, and creativity.

Cancer/Virgo - emphasizes the need for emotional security and stability to create a practical, efficient, and nurturing environment.

Leo/Libra - emphasizes the need to balance self-expression and harmony in relationships.

Virgo/Scorpio - brings a focus on analysis and depth, leading to a drive for self-improvement and transformation.

Libra/Sagittarius - combines the urge for harmony and balance with the desire for expansion and exploration.

Scorpio/Capricorn - highlights the need to balance emotional intensity and power with practicality and responsibility.

Sagittarius/Aquarius - emphasizes a focus on individuality and personal freedom within a social context.

Capricorn/Pisces - emphasizes the balance between practicality and spirituality in achieving one's goals.

Aquarius/Aries - emphasizes a need for individuality and progressive action in pursuing one's goals.

Pisces/Taurus - is about balancing practicality and creativity in order to bring about tangible and meaningful results.

Sign that Square

Aries/Cancer - represents a dynamic tension between the assertive, independent energy of Aries and the nurturing, emotionally sensitive energy of Cancer.

Cancer/Libra - emphasizes finding balance between emotional needs and interpersonal relationships.

Libra/Capricorn - emphasizes finding balance between relationships and ambition, and learning to prioritize responsibilities while maintaining harmony with others.

Capricorn/Aries - emphasizes the tension between ambition and action.

Taurus/Leo - emphasizes the balance between material stability and creative self-expression.

Leo/Scorpio - highlights the tension between the desire for recognition and the need for personal transformation.

Scorpio/Aquarius - emphasizes the tension and integration between deep emotional intensity and the need for intellectual detachment and individuality.

Aquarius/Taurus - emphasizes the tension between unconventional, innovative ideas and practical, reliable approaches.

Gemini/Virgo - emphasizes the practicality of communication and the ability to analyze and synthesize information by yourself.

Virgo/Sagittarius - highlights the balance between attention to detail and the bigger picture perspective.

Sagittarius/Pisces - emphasizes the connection between faith and spirituality in both an expansive and mystical way.

Pisces/Gemini - emphasizes the need to balance intuition and logic.

Sign that Trine

Aries/Leo - is an explosive and dynamic combination that encourages bold self-expression and a desire for attention and recognition.

Leo/Sagittarius - signifies a strong desire for self-expression and a passionate pursuit of one's beliefs and ideals.

Sagittarius/Aries - can be summed up as a combination of fiery independence, adventurous spirit, and a desire to explore and expand one's horizons.

Taurus/Virgo - indicates a practical and hardworking approach to life with a focus on material stability and a desire for perfection in all of life.

Virgo/Capricorn - emphasizes the practical application of skills, hard work, and attention to detail in achieving long-term goals.

Capricorn/Taurus - emphasizes the practical and material of life, encouraging stability and persistence in pursuing financial and career goals.

Gemini/Libra - emphasizes communication and harmonious relationships.

Libra/Aquarius - involves a strong desire for balance, justice and fairness in society, as well as the need for intellectual stimulation and unconventional social connections.

Aquarius/Gemini - brings a dynamic and intellectual energy that stimulates communication, innovation and originality.

Cancer/Scorpio - brings intense emotional depth and psychic sensitivity to the forefront of one's experience.

Scorpio/Pisces - can bring intense emotions and powerful intuition, making it good for deep inner work and spiritual exploration.

Pisces/Cancer - highlights emotional depth and sensitivity, nurturing and empathy.

Sign that Oppose

Aries/Libra - highlights the need to balance independence with cooperation and to find harmony between personal desires and the needs of others.

Taurus/Scorpio - creates a dynamic tension between the desire for having everything for yourself or being free of anything that can give you problems.

Gemini/Sagittarius - is characterized by a tension between the desire of a little bit of everything or everything of a little bit.

Cancer/Capricorn - is the fight between what your inner child wants and your super-ego order.

Leo/Aquarius - highlight what your rights and duties are.

Virgo/Pisces - is a fight between being perfect or complete.

Houses Aspects

Houses that Conjunct

1st house/1st house - emphasis on self-expression, identity, and personal power, potentially leading to an increased sense of confidence and self-awareness.

2nd house/2nd house - emphasis on material possessions, resources, and values, potentially leading to a deeper understanding of one's relationship with money and financial stability.

3rd house/3rd house - emphasis on communication, learning, and mental activity, potentially leading to heightened intellectual curiosity and a strong desire for knowledge.

4th house/4th house - emphasis on emotional, familial, and domestic energies, potentially leading to a strong sense of rootedness and emotional security.

5th house/5th house - emphasis on creativity, self-expression, and pleasure-seeking energies, potentially leading to an increased desire for fun and enjoyment in life.

6th house/6th house - emphasis on health, work, and service-related activities, potentially leading to a heightened sense of responsibility and a focus on practical matters.

7th house/7th house - emphasis on partnership, harmony, and balance-seeking energies, potentially leading to a strong desire for meaningful connections and relationships with others.

8th house/8th house - emphasis on transformation, shared resources, and intimate connections, potentially leading to a heightened awareness of deep emotional and psychological patterns in oneself and others.

9th house/9th house - emphasis on expansive, philosophical, and travel-seeking energies, potentially leading to a strong desire for adventure and a deeper understanding of the world and one's place in it.

10th house/10th house - emphasis on career, ambition, and public image-related energies, potentially leading to a strong desire for recognition and success in one's professional life.

11th house/11th house - emphasis on social, community, and friendship-oriented energies, potentially leading to a strong desire for camaraderie and a sense of belonging in a larger group or organization.

12th house/12th house - emphasis on spiritual, subconscious, and hidden energies, potentially leading to a heightened awareness of the inner self and a strong desire for solitude and introspection.

Houses that Sextile

1st house/3rd house - represents a harmonious flow of energy between self-expression and communication, potentially leading to a strong ability to articulate oneself and a desire to explore new intellectual pursuits.

2nd house/ 4th house - signifies harmonious connection between material possessions and emotional security, potentially leading to a strong sense of comfort and stability in one's home environment.

3rd house/ 5th house - represents a harmonious flow of energy between communication and creativity, potentially leading to a strong ability to express oneself artistically and a desire to share one's ideas with others.

4th house/ 6th house - signifies a harmonious connection between emotional security and practical responsibilities, potentially leading to a strong ability to balance self-care with work and service-related activities.

5th house/7th house - represents a harmonious flow of energy between creative self-expression and partnership, potentially leading to a strong desire for romance and a tendency to seek out relationships with those who share similar creative interests.

6th house/8th house - signifies a harmonious connection between practical work-related activities and transformative, psychological energies, potentially leading to a strong ability to facilitate change in oneself and others through service-oriented work.

7th house/ 9th house - represents a harmonious flow of energy between partnership and higher learning, potentially leading to a strong desire for connections who share similar intellectual and philosophical interests.

8th house/10th house - signifies a harmonious connection between deep transformation and professional ambitions, potentially leading to a strong ability to use one's personal power and resources to achieve success in one's career.

9th house/11th house - represents a harmonious flow of energy between higher learning and social connection, potentially leading to a strong desire to connect with like-minded individuals and expand one's intellectual horizons through group activities or networking.

10th house/12th house - signifies a harmonious connection between professional ambitions and spiritual exploration, potentially leading to a strong ability to incorporate one's spiritual values into one's career and public image.

11th house/1st house - represents a harmonious flow of energy between social connection and personal identity, potentially leading to a strong desire to express oneself within a larger community or group and a sense of belonging.

12th house/2nd house - signifies a harmonious connection between spiritual pursuits and material possessions, potentially leading to a strong ability to find value in non-materialistic experiences and incorporate spiritual practices into one's daily life.

Houses that Square

1st house/4th house - indicates a strong challenge between one's sense of self-identity, self-expression, and personal style with their family roots and upbringing.

4th house/7th house - indicates conflicts between one's desire for emotional security and stability within their family life and their need for harmony and balance in their partnerships and relationships.

7th house/10th house - indicates challenges and conflicts between one's need for harmonious relationships and their ambition, career goals, and public image.

10th house/1st house - indicates conflicts between one's public image, career goals, and social status with their personal identity, self-expression, and independence.

2nd house/5th house - indicates conflicts between one's personal values, material possessions, and financial security with their creative self-expression, hobbies, and romantic pursuits.

5th house/8th house - indicates conflicts between one's desire for creative self-expression, romance, and pleasure with their need for intimacy, shared resources, and transformational experiences.

8th house/11th house - indicates conflicts between one's need for intimacy, shared resources, and transformative experiences with their desire for social change, group involvement, and future-oriented goals.

11th house/2nd house - indicates conflicts between one's desire for social change, group involvement, and future-oriented goals with their personal values, material possessions, and financial security.

3rd house/6h house - indicates conflicts between one's desire for intellectual stimulation, communication, and short-term goals with their daily routine, work environment, and health habits.

6th house/9th house - indicates conflicts between one's daily routine, work environment, and health habits with their beliefs, higher education, and spiritual or philosophical pursuits.

9th house/12th house - indicate conflicts between one's beliefs, higher education, and spiritual or philosophical pursuits with their unconscious patterns, spiritual transcendence, and self-sabotage tendencies.

12th house/ 3rd house - conflicts between one's unconscious patterns, spiritual transcendence, and self-sabotage tendencies with their desire for intellectual stimulation, communication, and short-term goals.

Houses that Trine

1st house/5th house - the individual's personal identity and sense of self are intertwined with their ability to creatively express themselves and enjoy leisurely activities.

5th house/9th house - the individual explores new horizons through creative pursuits, where artistic and playful expression is intertwined with a desire for philosophical and intellectual expansion.

9th house/1st house - the individual's personal growth and expansion through the pursuit of knowledge and understanding, where the individual's sense of self is intertwined with their philosophical and spiritual beliefs.

2nd house/6th house - the individual focuses on practicality and productivity, where the individual's financial and material stability is intertwined with their work ethic and ability to provide service to others.

6th house/10th house - the individual career and professional success through hard work and dedication, where the individual's daily routines and work ethic are intertwined with their ambitions and aspirations for success in the public sphere.

10th house/2nd house - the individual financial success and stability through a fulfilling career, where the individual's professional aspirations and public image are intertwined with their ability to generate income and accumulate material possessions.

3rd house/7th house - the individual's ability to express themselves and gather information is intertwined with their relationships with others, particularly in one-on-one interactions.

7th house/11th house - the individual's ability to engage in harmonious relationships is intertwined with their aspirations for social and community involvement.

11th house/3rd house - the individual's ideas and communication skills are intertwined with their aspirations for involvement in groups and organizations.

4th house/8th house - the individual's sense of security and roots are intertwined with their ability to delve into the mysteries of life and navigate transformative experiences.

8th house/12th house - the individual's ability to face their fears and embrace the unknown is intertwined with their spiritual and psychological growth.

12th house/4th house - the individual's innermost feelings and psychological well-being are intertwined with their need for seclusion and introspection.

Houses that Oppose

1st house/7th house - the individual's sense of self is intertwined with their ability to form partnerships and engage in one-on-one interactions with others.

2nd house/8th house - the individual's ability to accumulate wealth and possessions is intertwined with their capacity to navigate intense psychological and emotional experiences.

3rd house/9th house - the individual's ability to gather information and exchange ideas is intertwined with their philosophical and spiritual growth.

4th house/10th house - the individual's sense of security and home life is intertwined with their public image and career goals.

5th house/11th house - the individual's ability to manifest their unique talents and interests is intertwined with their aspirations for involvement in groups and organizations.

6th house/12th house - the individual's daily work routines and health habits are intertwined with their need for seclusion and introspection.

Sources:

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"You can't be a lurker on tumblr." Yes, you absolutely can. I've been quietly reblogging things since 2014 and I haven't interacted with anyone in years.

TV Executives: “if the strike goes on, you won’t get new episodes of your favorite shows! You won’t get new movies you were looking forward to! Isn’t that terrible, what the writers are doing to you?”

Me: Bitch, that might have been an effective threat in 2007, but we have since survived a Covid shutdown and discovered ways to amuse ourselves while we waited, we can outwait this shit, too. I got a pile of shows saved I haven’t even watched yet, and a Mt. TBR waiting for me.

Compensate (and respect) your writers for their work, assholes.

I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe. 

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Distractions;

Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts. 

-Draw something

-This website translates the time into colours.

-Create your own galaxy.

-Play flowing.

-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like. 

-Listen to music.

-Calm.

-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.

Sleep issues; 

- 8 hour sleep music.

-Rainy mood. 

-Meditation.

-Coping with nightmares.

-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.

-Calm

-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively. 

 Uncomfortable with silence; 

-Rainy mood.

-10 hours of rain and thunder.

-3 hours of rain and thunder.

-Human heartbeat.

-Rainforest.

-Sound of rain on a tin roof.

-Autumn wind.

-Rain on a tent

-Traffic in the rain.

-Soft traffic. 

-Fan.

-Train.

-Simply noise.

-My noise.

-Rainy cafe.

Anxiety; 

-How to stop worrying. 

-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.

-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques. 

-Self-help strategies for anxiety. 

-Helping a friend with anxiety. 

-All about worrying.

-8 myths about anxiety. 

Sad, angry and depressed/depression; 

-“I’m always sad”

-Feeling sad.

-Going through trauma.

-“I’m always angry”.

-Anger management. 

-All about anger.

-National helplines and websites.

-Self-help strategies for depression.

-Dealing with depression at work.

-Dealing with depression at school.

Isolation and loneliness; 

-Pets and mental health.

-All about loneliness. 

-“I feel so alone”

-10 more ideas to help with loneliness. 

-How to deal with loneliness.

 Self-harm;

-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.

-146 things to do besides self-harm.

-More alternatives to self-harm.

-Self-harm alternatives.

-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.

-Getting rid of scars.  

Addiction; 

-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.

-What is addiction?

-All about alcohol and addiction.

-The facts about drug addiction.

 Eating disorders; 

-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.

-Eating disorder treatments. 

-Support services for eating disorders. 

-Self-help tips with eating disorders.

-Eating disorder recovery. 

-Recovering from an eating disorder. 

-100+ reasons to recover. 

-Understanding and managing eating disorders. 

 Dealing with self-hatred;  

-3 ways to ease self-loathing. 

-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.

-Self-hatred resources.

-10 step plan to deal with self-hate. 

 Suicidal; 

-International suicide hotlines (1)  (2)

-Preventing suicide. 

-Reasons to stay alive.

-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.

-Coping with suicidal ideation.  

 Schizophrenia;

-All about schizophrenia.  

-Helping a person with schizophrenia.  

-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.  

-Delusions and hallucinations.  

OCD;

-Managing your OCD at home. 

-Overcoming OCD.

-How to cope with OCD. 

-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments. 

Borderline personality disorder; 

-Helping someone with BPD. 

-All about personality disorders.

-Treatment for BPD.

Abuse; 

-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships. 

-Emotional abuse

-Overcoming sexual abuse. 

-Hotlines services. 

-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship. 

-Domestic violence support. 

-Signs of an abusive relationship. 

-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship. 

-Surviving abuse. 

-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed. 

-Sexual assault support.

-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused. 

 Bullying;

-How to stand up against bullying.

-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.

-How to help stop people bullying you. 

 Loss and grief; 

-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.

-Grieving for a stranger. 

-Common reactions to death. 

-Working through grief.

(Other loss and grief)

-Moving away from friends and family. 

-Coping with a breakup.

 Getting help; 

-Seeking help early. 

-All about psychological treatments. 

-Types of help.

-All about age and confidentiality. 

Things you need to remember; 

- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.

-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not. 

- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this. 

-You are not alone. 

-You are enough. 

-You are important. 

-You are worth it. 

-You are strong. 

-You are not a failure, 

-Good people exist. 

-Reaching out shows strength. 

-Breathe. 

-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you. 

-Give yourself credit. 

-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones. 

-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend. 

-Focus on the things you can change. 

-Let go of toxic people. 

-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do. 

-Try not to beat yourself up. 

-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next. 

-You are not a bother.

-Your existence is more than your appearance. 

-You are smart. 

-You are loved. 

-You are wanted. 

-You are needed. 

-Better days are coming. 

-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright. 

-You have more potential than you think. 

- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.

Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x

A powerful individual with an unbreakable aura whose gaze reflects the most sensitive of hearts and the most resilient of souls.

Aries Rising: The Survivor

Many of these natives have a clear vision of life: "Things don't happen magically. Do them yourself." They are people with a confident appearance, often considered attractive or sexy thanks to Mars ruling over there. Mars energy not only influences your breath-taking appearance, but also your attitude, independent, authentic and will never take bad treatment from others. They have created a strong appearance to face life, projecting themselves as self-sufficient people who recognize their value and will not be afraid to fight if necessary or if they are threatened. Wary, observant and with an initiative and desire to get what they want and achieve many things. Tension in their early environment is likely, so they grew up learning to navigate the chaos or at least not to easily falter over what they consider to be just the tip of the iceberg. There is nothing they do not defend with more passion than themselves and their dignity. They will constantly seek to know themselves more, give themselves the satisfaction of being able to grow more and more, and do what they consider correct or necessary to preserve their well-being. Once they trust and feel comfortable with someone, they can be fun, outgoing, and more communicative. They will not be afraid to enter new environments, meet new people or appear confident, but entering their hearts and close circles can be a complicated task.

When Taurus falls in the 2nd house, natives highly value security in every sense, clearly including financial security. Many of them may have the belief that they have to work on their own to achieve this security, making them highly independent. These people place a great value on comfort and pleasure, they will not hesitate to stay away from places or people that are another headache in their lives. They are very selective people with what they want to keep in their lives. Their self-esteem is usually linked to what they have, and not only in material terms, but also skills, achievements, people. They know how to give themselves their place and will not think twice about moving away from environments or people who do not appreciate them as they are. They constantly work on ways to improve their self-esteem, whether it's taking care of their body, pampering themselves, or doing activities that make them feel better. One of the values ​​for which they stand out is their devotion and perseverance. When they focus their minds on something they want, they do not rest until they achieve it. Many of them tend to use this tough and strong exterior to face life, because they feel better after knowing that they have been able to handle whatever life has thrown at them. Their value system is strong and stable, so they will rarely act against them. This means that although they understand that people may be different from them, they will not allow someone to try to tell them what is right or wrong, or if their values ​​are correct. They have clear priorities and adhere firmly to their principles. Many of them may feel a strong need to be self-sufficient and not financially dependent on others. They are very careful when it comes to managing their money or what their possessions are concerned, they are not careless with what they value or what they have a hard time getting. Possessive tendencies may exist, especially if the ruler is making tense aspects with Sun, Moon, Neptune or Pluto.

One of the best overlays of this rising is Gemini in the 3rd house, as it makes them eloquent, versatile and adaptable people in their way of expressing themselves. They can be good speakers, writers or have talent for any activity that requires effective, clear and, why not, entertaining communication. These individuals are constantly seeking new information and knowledge, although it should be added that they may quickly become interested in topics only to later drop them if they have already learned everything that was available or if they lose passion or interest. They love to learn and share what they know with others, and as a result of their interests they can form important bonds. These natives usually have a wide range of interests and can be multitasking due to their energy level or demand. These natives like to learn about many different topics and may prefer to learn on their own. They process information quickly and have a natural ability to connect ideas and concepts, and even find patterns where it might go unnoticed. Their multitasking skills allow them to be very efficient and productive in their daily lives. Their mind is always active and looking for new intellectual challenges. They may prefer short trips and need a change of scenery from time to time, as monotony can overwhelm and bore them. This need for movement can manifest itself in your daily life, with frequent trips and changes in routine.

With Cancer in the 4th house, these natives have a need for security since childhood. They give a lot of importance to the issue of protection, whether due to lack of care and/or attention in childhood or exaggeration of it. They are emotionally deep people who hide their emotions perfectly, because they know that it is something that is not given to just anyone. They prefer to deal with their emotions independently, especially those they perceive as vulnerable or tense. In childhood they could be very emotional, and from that stage of their life they experienced situations that forced them not to leave anyone in, to reserve their thoughts and emotions. Despite being strong people, emotional security is crucial for them, and they can seek environments where they feel protected and understood. They have a strong instinct to care for others, especially those to whom they themselves provide the family title. They may take on caregiver roles and seek to ensure the emotional well-being of their loved ones. They can find home and security with what seems familiar, comfort food, movies or things that remind them of happy memories from the past. Memories and experiences from childhood home can have a lasting impact on their adult life, this is due to their great memory to remember their experiences in detail, good or bad. They like their space to reflect warmth and security, and may have a penchant for homey decor and the details that make a house truly be and feel like a home. Many of them built a strong armor not only that others decide not to mess with, but that the most vulnerable can count on. Behind this strong, unwavering appearance that has experienced all kinds of situations, there is a gentle, warm heart that longs for that tenderness, comfort and softness.

Leo in the 5th house usually grants strong self-esteem and confidence. They are proud of their abilities and very aware of them. They are usually charismatic and magnetic, attracting the romantic interest of others with ease. They stand out for their sensuality and that authentic way of projecting themselves, they do not like to wear masks and pretend to be what they are not and they have the idea that if someone is going to love them, they must know and accept their real selves. Intrigue, joy and excitement are crucial in their love relationships and they enjoy courtship and seduction, both being the one who initiates it and being the target of it. Pleasure and fun are important aspects for these natives and they will never feign interest in things in which they genuinely have no interest. They like to enjoy life to the fullest, seeking experiences that bring them joy and satisfaction. They may have occasional bursts of energy and hyperactivity where they want to do many things at the same time. They enjoy activities that allow them to express themselves freely and entertain themselves. They are people who enjoy expressing themselves artistically and creatively, whether through art, music, acting, or any other form of self-expression. They like to excel at whatever they do and, whether they are aware of it or not, they may have perfectionist inclinations. They easily stand out from the crowd and can easily gain recognition, both in close circles and on a large scale.  They can be loving, protective parents who enjoy spending time with their children and encouraging their creativity and self-expression. They tend to be a source of inspiration and leadership for children, encouraging them to be themselves and follow their passions. They can be seen as role models and guides who help children develop their confidence and self-esteem. Extroverted, independent children with strong self-confidence.

Many of them are dedicated and reliable workers thanks to the presence of Virgo in the 6th house. They have a strong sense of duty and are very responsible in their approach towards daily tasks or what they consider to be their duty. Although they appear confident and have a high opinion of themselves and their abilities, they can be perfectionists, always seeking to improve and perfect everything they do. It is likely that just because they are aware of what they are capable of, they easily feel that they can do a better job even if they have already done it, since they may judge themselves very harshly, especially if they have made a mistake that they consider very serious. obvious. They can be conscious of their diet, exercise, and daily habits, always looking for ways to keep their body and mind in optimal condition. They are likely to feel hyperactive at times, and the fact that Mercury rules this house can make them tend to overthink things or be very nervous. They are very disciplined when it comes to work or carrying out tasks that they consider very important to them, and many of these individuals can have a strong sense of self-discipline, managing to finish things before deadlines.  They set very high standards and many of them are likely to push themselves to work or be productive even when they are feeling bad emotionally. They have an analytical mind and are excellent at solving problems of any kind. Many people tend to rely on them precisely for this reason, because they advise objectively and their blunt way of being can make others put their feet on the ground. For them there is nothing more rewarding than seeing the results of their hard work. In fact, it is very likely that after finishing a job they feel relief instead of pride. Actions and tangibles are what are important to them.

The presence of Libra in the 7th house makes these natives very focused on creating healthy relationships that bring them happiness. They, in turn, are capable of giving a lot in a relationship in a selfless and selfish way. It is crucial for them that both they and their partner feel comfortable, satisfied and loved, for them neither has to dominate or control the other, being a couple they seek that balance, that they both help each other to cover those points in which they They may find difficulty, someone with whom they form a strong, loving and lasting team, a person to support unconditionally and who will help them in return. Despite this independent and strong personality they have, they are loving people, dedicated to their relationships and very emotional. They put a lot of emphasis on building lasting relationships in which there is not only love or affection, but common goals and intellectual connection. These people have learned to be independent since they were young, but in them lies the fear of falling to extremes in relation to others, that is, they fear feeling overwhelmed by loneliness while they fear showing their most vulnerable sides due to the possibility of being hurt or being hurt. take advantage of them, that is where Libra energy aims to guide them to balance these ideas, finding the middle point in which they gradually open their heart. These natives have the lesson of allowing themselves to be loved and understanding that they do not have to be different to be loved, just as they are they deserve love. Their future spouse may be a loving person they can rely on, someone calmer and grounded. They will have both beautiful physical attractiveness and heart. It is a great indicator of a loving marriage in which both feel trust and affection for each other.

One of the things that is not talked about in such detail about this rising is how secretive they can be, their secretive nature is usually one of the least talked about aspects of them, and we attribute that to Scorpio in the 8th house. This overlay that demonstrates this tendency that they have to keep to themselves aspects that they consider important in their life, also activates the focus of others on the intense nature of the natives. They are people who do things in a dedicated manner, putting in all their energy and motivation, and they not only show this intensity when carrying out their plans, defending their individuality or standing up for themselves. They are lovers who keep you on the edge of your seat, who intoxicate you with sensations that at first surprise you, but at the same time you find yourself wanting more and more. For them, sex is a way to unite with their partner, to become oneself and completely immerse themselves in them and their feelings. They make sex an unforgettable experience for others, because despite that fiery approach that devours you inside and out, they take care of really connecting with you through sex, they make it seem like an art in which they are especially good. They look for emotional and sexual connections that are not superficial, but that touch the deepest part of their being. However, in addition to being those lovers who will have you thinking about them and who know exactly what they are doing, they contain someone who has gone through a lot in their lives, from tough situations, betrayals or in general, a set of events that has built those walls between others and themselves. Many of them may fear being very intimate with someone, because they know perfectly well that they are capable of loving someone madly and totally, and they fear placing all that love and affection on the wrong person, on someone who is like the rest. They are resilient and brave people who are not afraid to stand up for themselves no matter what problem awaits. They have faced life, many times on their own, which has made them very aware of the strength of will and spirit they have. Although they are not the biggest fans of change, they know how to adapt to it very well. These people often go through crises that force them to reinvent themselves and transform. They often emerge from these crises stronger and wiser, with a greater understanding of themselves and life.

When Sagittarius is in the 9th house, natives have an innate desire to learn and explore the world. They are motivated by a relentless pursuit of truth and knowledge in their highest forms, whether through formal education, philosophy, or self-study. Many of them are in constant search for truth and seek to understand the deeper meaning of existence. They may be attracted to foreign cultures, and it is common for them to develop a deep interest in the languages, customs, and traditions of other countries. They stand out for the wisdom they acquire thanks to their experiences in life; they can eventually become sources of wisdom for others, offering teachings that come from their own experience and understanding of the world. This placement also tells us about someone who is very likely to be influential or a source of inspiration for others. They live in a constant search to discover who they are and it is very likely that from a young age they feel interest in ways to get to know themselves better. They need to feel like they have the space to explore, learn and grow at their own pace and in their own way. They hate restrictions that limit their pursuit of knowledge or their ability to explore and be themselves. With Jupiter ruling this house, natives can have beautiful, memorable and enlightening experiences on trips, feeling “renewed” when traveling. Likewise, university time can bring many opportunities for growth for these natives.

With Capricorn in the 10th house we find a combination of ambition and discipline. These people are willing to work hard to achieve their goals and build a solid reputation. Although they may face challenges related to self-criticism and fear of failure, their perseverance and ability to overcome adversity often leads to success, especially in adulthood. Reputation is very important for these people and not only from a superficial perspective, but many of them like to be seen just as they consciously want to project themselves: independent, strong and capable of achieving everything they set their minds to. They dislike being seen as weak, as someone who others can take advantage of or even think about playing tricks on. They take themselves seriously and hate not being taken seriously by others. They can become very successful after a while and patience and perseverance can take them to the tops of those mountains they seek to conquer. They have the ability to make difficult decisions and handle important responsibilities, and it is very likely that from a very young age they have had to take on responsibilities that people their age did not have or should have. Many of them project this aura of power, people can see them as unattainable and, depending on the aspects of Saturn, even unreachable or demanding. Likewise, these natives give the impression of being very clear people with what they think, skilled in everything related to their profession or hobbies, and people can feel that they are reliable, righteous and honest. They have excellent ability to manage resources, time and people. Their ability to organize and plan is one of their greatest advantages in the professional world, all of which makes them very suitable for leadership roles in their work or even for starting businesses/being their own bosses.

With Aquarius in the 11th house, they highly value freedom within their friendships, as they prefer relationships that are not possessive and allow for a lot of personal space and freedom of expression. Their friends tend to be independent, original, and often people they consider unique. This can be an indicator of a wide network of contacts and social connections. They enjoy interacting with people from diverse backgrounds and, although they may have many acquaintances, the title friend is not given to many. People with this placement tend to be very very focused on the future, which may lead to anxiety or stressing too much over what’s going to happen. They are interested in innovative ideas and may be in social or political movements that seek change and improvement of society. They have a strong desire to contribute to social change and improve people's lives. These natives are likely motivated by a sense of social justice and a desire to make the world a better place. They find it difficult to conform to what is conventional or what is socially expected, and there is nothing that bothers them more than people placing expectations on them. They prefer to follow their own path and associate with people who share this mentality. While they can be excellent friends, they don't mind being on their own or having hobbies that only they participate in. Many of them give this vibe of being relaxed and rational to their friends and this does not mean that they are not affectionate, but rather that they prefer to maintain an objective perspective and avoid emotional dramas. They value equality and justice in their relationships, preferring connections where everyone is treated with the same respect and consideration.

You look up and stare in that mirror... What do you see, Pisces in the 12th house? Why do you look away? Because it seems that only you see the pain of your gaze? Or those wounds deep inside you that you don't let anyone else see. You know you isolate yourself, you learned to deal with everything yourself. You thought it was the right thing to do, to not be a burden, to not be perceived as weak or dependent, but even the strongest can break at times. You find peace in solitude, but at the same time you can feel drowned in it. A kind of relationship with her where it seems like you just got used to it while you understand that it is necessary. Nothing in excess is good, neither depending too much on others, nor carrying everything on your own. You fear returning to tense emotions, those of fear and uncertainty that forced you to face life on your own, believe me, that already makes you strong. Within you lies an emotional person, intuitive and perceptive of what is happening around them. Someone with a strong sense of empathy, someone who is the support of others that they would like to have, although they do not know how to verbalize it. Even when you look for that time of retreat in which to be immersed, to search for the truth within you, to find inspiration and reconnect with what allows you to feel better after hits of reality. You may be very hard on yourself, hating the idea of ​​victimizing yourself or not taking responsibility for your own affairs... but you no longer need to take responsibility for others either. Free yourself from those burdens that do not belong to you and that others have placed on you, free yourself from guilt for situations in which you did not have control. Within you there is a beautiful world that deserves to be not only explored, but cherished and appreciated, an honest and empathic soul with the capacity to love unconditionally, to create great things from dust, to inspire others to dream. A spark of curiosity in an immense universe full of things to understand, one more star in the cosmos that shines in a singular and unique way. Your mind is a palace full of ideas, questions and occurrences that could captivate anyone. Your heart, guarded by walls that protect it from getting hurt, being fooled, or allowing others to walk all over you, is full of warmth and kindness.

“It was all she ever wanted: to dwell in peace, without the shadow of her past hunting her.”

— Sarah J. Maas, Kingdom of Ash