SHOW. UP. AS. HER. Not Next Week, Not Next Month. Not Next Year. In Real-time, In The Present Moment

discipline goes a long way

How to make life a little better

(I’m looking for something prettier to name this so if u have ideas spill!!)

Stop trying to impress people you don’t even like

Stop caring about being judged by the most boring, lame human beings ever (there’s 8 billion people on earth)

It’s immature to keep hating on yourself or others. Like what’s the point? It’s just making u miserable

Always give kindness and love.

It’s the small choices and actions you take everyday that make huge differences

Try to get into the flow state more

Get a diary and write all ur girly nonsense in it

Stop wondering if you’re good enough for others and start wondering if they’re good enough for you

You shouldn’t assume someone doesn’t like you unless they’ve directly told you.

Learn to observe and not absorb

Remember you don’t need to accomplish something in one sitting- whether it’s learning the guitar, crocheting, let yourself take time.

Even if you think ur life is boring and there’s nothing exciting abt it: would u rather mope and sulk or get unreasonably happy about the small mini things?

Life is 20% what happens to you and 80% how you react to it.

Be your own best friend! Push yourself on, cheer for yourself, be there when you cry.

Consciousness if everything.

You may be more inclined to reach your goals if you know someone else is depending on them.

If you don’t want to dwell on things, have things that get ur mind of it. Be busy.

i'm just a kid

i never use my brain

i only use my heart

and my imagination

ultimate IT girl guide

a guide to looking effortlessly perfect

"You’ve got the false narrative of a girl who spends 30 seconds on her appearance, when, in fact, you probably spent hours.”

1. basic hygiene:

having clean teeth and good breath

smelling good 24/7. i highly recommend finding a signature scent as a scent is associated with memory, id suggest something sweet yet not too overpowering like vanilla.

being clean in general. regularly shaving and exfoliating your skin to get rid of bodily hair and dirt that accumulates on your skin to make your skin glow.

clean nails. having clean and maintained nails (with a simple design if you wish) looks better than having acrylics that are wayyy too long and appear tacky.

2. hair :

having smooth healthy hair looks much better than dry and damaged hair. take care of your hair by finding the best products for your natural hair. get rid of your split ends as they make the hair appear really damaged.

in my opinion, loose waves look the most effortless yet pretty. but don’t ruin your natural hair by applying too much heat! you can try heatless styling methods to achieve this look.

3. diet and exercise :

being toned is the way to go to fit this aesthetic

avoid oily foods or sugary foods that damage your skin. don’t completely get rid of these as we all have our cravings, but try your best to avoid it

find a workout plan that works best for you, keeps you healthy but doesn’t burn you out! moreover exercise releases endorphins that improve your mood.

4. makeup and skin care :

natural makeup on clear skin fits this effortless aesthetic perfectly!

take care of your skin by finding a routine that fits you the best, consult with a dermatologist for the best results.

having smooth, blended makeup creates an illusion that you aren’t wearing any at all! this appears much effortless than a full face. also try to avoid those really huge false lashes that make you look tacky.

maintain your eyebrows and find a shape that fits you best!

5. outfits :

having a signature style which suits your body type is essential. experiment until you can find what suits you best! you can use a body analysis app for this.

wearing outfits you’re confident in, hot but not too revealing goes a long way. confidence is key. wearing overly revealing clothing might seem like one is trying too hard, but if you can carry it with confidence then that’s great!

jewellery : having dainty, signature pieces is key! find out which suits you better (gold or silver) through an ai analysis and invest in timeless pieces. personally, i think minimalistic pieces such as solitaires, simple pendants, classic hoops etc. look much more effortless.

6. personality :

don’t be too judgemental towards anyone as you don’t know what they’re going through and this makes you seem unapproachable

don’t talk too much or overshare! this creates a mysterious aura which draws people to you more

confidence is key! posture is very important too, carry yourself with confidence and walk with your head held up high.

7. examples and references :

serena van der woodsen (gossip girl)

mia thermopolis (the princess diaries)

cher (clueless)

elle woods (legally blonde)

rory gilmore (gilmore girls)

robin scherbatsky (how i met your mother)

gigi hadid

How I get whatever I want.

- Journal. It’s important to plot out what you want before you begin doing anything new. Sit down, concentrate, and take the time to visualize what you want for yourself. Journaling is an extremely effective tool, and it’s important to be able to write about what you want instead of creating a concept in your mind. 

- Make goals less abstract: Find or make a path to the goal, then zone out (networking, reading, research). Your goals should not be abstract or difficult for you to understand. They should be clear, planned out to the best of your ability, and reasonable enough to achieve in 90 days. If you have a long-term goal, set up a series of short-term goals that will set you on the right path. 

- 3 month hiatus and just fixate on work. Be strict with time and money, keep a schedule, don’t allow minor distractions to sway you from your path, and use the next 90 days to bring yourself closer to the finish line. Can your hiatus be longer than 3 months? Yes, but if it becomes necessary to extend it, be sure that you’re engaging with the real world and not isolating yourself.

- You have to be sure of what waiting and a little bit of luck will do for you. So much of it is a waiting game, and while I believe that it’s important to work hard instead of being hard on yourself, knowing that luck plays into your success is imperative. If you don’t see immediate results, keep going until things fall into line. 

Plan, prepare, and then put your whole soul into action.

8 Rules for Self-Respect

Keep your standards high. For yourself, your relationships, your career, and everything. Don't settle for less; know your worth. <3

Don't tolerate people who put you down, lie to you, or try to take advantage of you. The more you allow people to mistreat you, the less they will respect you. Stand up for yourself!!

Don't chase. What belongs to you will find you, and the people who care for you will stay by your side. So don't make a fool out of yourself by chasing something that's running away from you.

No more people pleasing. Learn to say "no". You don't have to apologise or explain yourself; saying no is completely fine.

Figure out which people in your circle make you feel good and who is draining your energy. Don't surround yourself with those who waste your energy.

Take care of yourself. How are you going to be confident and respect yourself if you don't care for yourself?? Invest time, energy, discipline, money and love into becoming the best version of yourself. <3

Be mindful and selective of who you trust. Don't take criticism from people who you wouldn't take advice from.

Your boundaries are non-negotiable. Boundaries are about how you respect yourself. If someone oversteps them, cut them off!

2025 is our year of self-growth, what better place to start than setting boundaries and learning to respect ourselves?

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩

⋆⁺₊❅. an angels guide: winter beauty tips for inside and out ⋆˚𝜗𝜚˚⋆

hi angels! here is a short list of all of my favourite tips for beauty and self care this winter. this is a fairly broad list so feel free to add your own or ask for more specifics! enjoy.

apply sudacrem or a thick cream to your face before bed (perfect for preventing redness and acne).

wear suncream daily still (winter sun is harsher than you realise!).

use a skin oil after moisturiser.

drink hot teas.

apply vaseline and body lotion to your feet then wear thick socks to bed.

use a silk pillowcase.

apply cuticle oil and hand cream.

use a hair mask weekly.

get sunlight every day.

use a humidifier.

drink green tea with honey and lemon (helps skin and immune system).

find some good vitamins that will help you in colder, wintery months!

eat more omega three fats.

ice face daily.

apply more moisturiser/switch to a thicker kind.

take warm baths.

exfoliate lips more regularly.

invest in a lip mask.

find a simple winter makeup routine.

eat warm meals and seasonal produce.

find a slow morning yoga routine.

find glowy products for that winter angel look.

wake up earlier to get more outdoor/sun time.

find a slow workout routine that targets every part of your body.

drink water with lemon and a pinch of salt every morning.

invest in adorable accessories to make your winter outfits cuter!

use thicker body lotions to prevent skin drying out.

oil pull weekly at least.

create a winter pinterest mood board!!

paint your nails weekly, try out clear coats or winter themed colours. Or if you are an acrylics person get them done every few weeks!

thank you for reading angels! happy winter <3

love, m.

A cosy guide to a cosy December ‧͙*̩̩͙❆ ͙͛ ˚₊⋆

Have a Christmas movie marathon. I will post a must-watch list soon!! <3

Cinnamon oatmeal... or just oatmeal in general... winter is oatmeal season... make it cute, though!! :)

Having hot Chocolate by the fireplace

Bows. Bows. Bows.

Visiting Christmas markets and going ice skating

Cute Knitted sweaters and uggs

Baking cute Christmas cookies and decorating them with your friends

Spending hours making your wish list

Writing cute Christmas cards to friends and family who live far away :)

Start working on your 2024 vision board

Buying cute ornaments for the Christmas tree

Fluffy socks and fuzzy blankets <3

Experiment with your coffee order!! I've been OBSESSED with mochas; cinnamon is also a MUST.

Trying. a different make-up style. I always love the frosty/blushy look for winter <3

Planning your Christmas outfit

Buy some cute Christmas-themed pyjamas (Victoria's Secret always has cute ones!!)

Scented candles to set the mood. My current fav is the salted caramel one from ZARA Home!! <3

Go see the Nutcracker

A good Christmas playlist is a MUST. I already made mine; feel free to check it out:

I've been completely swept up by the Christmas spirit, so get ready for many, many, many cosy Christmas posts!! ⋆ ⁺₊❆⋆

As always, please feel free to add your own suggestions and tips in the comments!! •̩̩͙❅*̩̩͙‧͙♡*̩̩͙❆ ͙͛

❆‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧౨ৎ

7 Rituals That Got Me From Tired to Toned

by Soleau Club

If you’ve ever felt like your body is running on airplane mode—always on, but not actually doing anything—same. I was constantly fatigued, inflamed, and lowkey resenting anyone who had the energy to “love their morning workouts.” I knew something had to shift, and spoiler: it wasn’t another 5 a.m. alarm or over-caffeinated cardio class.

These are the actual rituals that took me from tired and puffy to toned, glowy, and genuinely energized.

1. I Ditched the “Toxic Grind” Workouts

I swapped cortisol-spiking HIIT for Pilates, walking, and sculpt-style flows. My body leaned out, my nervous system calmed down, and I actually wanted to move. Your body isn’t lazy—it’s probably just overstressed.

2. I Learned How to Actually Hydrate

Water alone wasn’t cutting it. I added minerals and electrolytes every morning (especially after wine or crying). It rebalanced everything—my mood, my bloat, and my skin.

3. I Romanticized My Morning Protein

I used to skip breakfast or live off iced coffee until noon. Now I do 30g of protein within an hour of waking up. It flipped a switch in my energy, hunger, and metabolism. Protein first = fewer cravings and way more hot girl focus.

4. I Started Doing “Lymph Love”

Lymphatic drainage changed the game. I do gua sha, dry brushing, and bouncing on a mini trampoline (yes, really). It keeps me de-puffed, snatched, and mentally clear. If you’ve been stuck in a bloated slump, your lymph is probably begging for attention.

5. I Cut the Caffeine-Sugar-Crash Loop

I replaced that desperate second coffee with adaptogens, matcha, or mushroom coffee. Less jittery, more glowy. My energy went from chaotic to steady, and my stress-induced belly weight? Deflating.

6. I Moved for Energy, Not Burnout

I started asking myself, “What would feel good to move through right now?” Sometimes it’s a stretch. Sometimes it’s a dance break. Movement became sacred instead of punishment—and my body rewarded me.

7. I Committed to Real Rest

Not just scrolling in bed. I created actual rituals for sleep—red light, mouth tape, magnesium, wind-down playlists. Deep sleep = faster recovery, flatter tummy, better mood. Sleep is the unsung queen of body recomposition.

Toning your body doesn’t have to mean torturing it. These rituals gave me the glow-up without the burnout, and made wellness feel like a vibe—not a chore.

Follow @soleauclub for more glow girl rituals that fuel your dream body and your dream life.

december book journal

books read:

1. ‘the bell jar’ by sylvia plath

rating: 4.2 ⭐️

2. ‘and then there were none’ by agatha christie

rating: 3.0 ⭐️

3. ‘just like home’ by sarah gailey

rating: 4.75 ⭐️

4. ‘none of this is true’ by lisa jewell

rating: EASY 5 ⭐️

5. ‘the final girl support group’ by grady hendrix

rating: 3.35 ⭐️

6. ‘the whisper man’ by alex north

rating: 4.1 ⭐️

7. ‘fight club’ by chuck palahniuk

rating: 3.3 ⭐️

8. ‘ripe’ by sarah rose etter

rating: 5 ⭐️

9. ‘watching you’ by lisa jewell

rating: 4.45 ⭐️

10. ‘death in her hands’ by ottessa moshfegh

rating: 4 ⭐️

11. ‘my dark vanessa’ by kate elizabeth russell

rating: the most depressing 5 ⭐️ i’ve ever given

12. ‘verity’ by colleen hoover

rating: 4.95 ⭐️ (only .05 off because it’s colleen hoover, the book itself was amazing)

dnf:

‘fruit of the dead’ by rachel lyon

‘leave the world behind’ by rumaan alam