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2025: #5 CONFIDENCE ISN'T GIVEN

You’re not born confident. Confidence is forged. It’s earned when you decide—and I mean decide—to stop caring about what people think. You want to know why you don’t feel confident? It’s because you’ve spent your whole life chasing validation. You want people to like you. You want people to approve of you. You’re scared someone might have something bad to say about you. But FOR REAL nobody cares as much as you think they do. They’re too busy worrying about their own STOP GIVING SHIT

..✒️So why are you holding yourself back? Why are you giving other people the power to control how you see yourself? Let me tell you something—if you keep waiting for someone to tell you you’re good enough, you’ll be waiting forever. Confidence starts the moment you stop asking for permission to be yourself. You’ve got to walk into every room like you own it, even if you feel like a fraud. You think everyone who looks confident actually is? Hell no. They’re just better at pretending. And guess what? The more you pretend, the more real it becomes.

HOW TO BUILD CONFIDENCE

Own Your Flaws Let’s get this straight—confidence isn’t about being perfect. It’s about being real. Stop trying to hide the parts of yourself you don’t like. Everyone has insecurities. Everyone has doubts. But the difference between confident people and insecure people? Confident people say, “Yeah, I’ve got flaws. So what?” They own it. They wear their imperfections like armor.You’ve got to stop being afraid of judgment. You think your flaws are holding you back, but the truth is, it’s your fear of them that’s holding you back. Confidence isn’t about eliminating insecurities cuz we allllll have ones it’s about walking into a room and saying, “Here I am, take it or leave it.”

Get Uncomfortable You know what kills confidence? Comfort zones. You’ve built this little bubble around yourself, and you’re too scared to step out of it. You avoid challenges. You avoid risks. And then you wonder why you don’t feel confident. Confidence grows when you do hard things. When you push yourself. When you fail and get back up. You’ve got to start chasing discomfort like your life depends on it—because it does.Start small if you have to, but start. Speak up in a meeting. Wear the outfit you’re scared people will judge. Say no when you mean no. Every time you push through fear, you prove to yourself that you’re stronger than you think. And that’s where confidence comes from—action, not thinking about it, not talking about it.

Stop Comparing Comparison is the thief of confidence. You’re scrolling through social media, looking at people who seem like they have it all together, and you’re sitting there feeling like trash. Let me tell you something—nobody’s posting their failures. Nobody’s showing you their breakdowns. Stop comparing your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s highlight reel.You don’t need to be like them. You don’t need to have what they have. What you need is to look in the mirror and realize you’re the damn prize. You’ve got your own path, your own strengths, your own story. Own it. Stop trying to fit into someone else’s mold.

Take Care of Yourself and Let’s be real .. If you don’t take care of yourself, you’re sending a message to the world—and to yourself—that you don’t value you. You want to feel confident? Start showing up for yourself. Eat like you care about your body. Move like you want to be strong. Dress like you give a damn. When you look good, you feel good. And when you feel good, you carry yourself differently. That’s not shallow—it’s self-respect.

Talk to Yourself Like You Matter You’re your own worst critic. You say things to yourself you’d never say to someone else. “I’m not good enough.” “I’m so stupid.” “I’ll never be as good as them.” Stop. Stop talking to yourself like you’re worthless. Start hyping yourself up like you’re your own biggest fan. Look in the mirror and say, “I’ve got this. I’m unstoppable. I’m the one they need to watch out for.” It feels weird at first, but fake it until it’s real.

CONFIDENCE IS A MINDSET

Confidence isn’t about never doubting yourself LET ME EXPLAIN .. It’s about showing up in spite of the doubt. It’s about walking into every situation and saying, “I might not have all the answers, but I belong here.”

Stop overthinking. Stop waiting for permission. Stop letting fear dictate your life. People will always have something to say—'That hairstyle doesn’t suit you,' 'Why are you wearing that?' Who cares? Their opinions don’t define you. You like it? That’s all that matters. Stop living for their approval and start living for yourself.You’ve got everything you need to be confident—you just have to decide to use it. So, stop sitting on the sidelines of your own life. Get up. Take action. Be bold. Be loud. Be unapologetically you.

the world doesn’t need another copy. It needs you. And if you’re too scared to show up as yourself, you’re robbing the world of something incredible. Confidence isn’t given—it’s taken. So, take it. !

@bloomzone 📇

20 NIGHT JOURNAL PROMPTS TO CLEAR YOUR MIND BEFORE BEDTIME

1. what's on my mind right now?

2. how am i feeling right now?

3. write down one word to describe my day (calm or hectic, productive or unproductive, etc.) and write a sentence about it (today was calm because i did my morning routine and that helped me stay in the present moment)

4. what am i grateful for today?

5. emotions i felt today include...

6. what did i do today to make myself proud?

7. what did i learn about myself today?

8. what is something I accomplished today, big or small, and how did it make me feel?

9. something that bothered me today was...

10. how did I handle any stress or anxiety that came up today?

11. have i done anything to make someone else happy today?

12. write one thing that made me feel loved today.

13. what do i want to take from today into tomorrow?

14. what's my word for tomorrow?

15. what would i like tomorrow to bring me?

16. if i could change one thing about my behavior today, what would it be?

17. what is a meaningful conversation I had today and why did it stand out?

18. what are my top three priorities for tomorrow?

19. what's one thing I can do to improve tomorrow based on today's experiences?

20. how do i want to feel when i wake up tomorrow morning?

´ It girl ` guide magazine 🎀☕️

# It girl habits

hiii💋 if you want to start your journey of becoming the best version of yourself, you have to create habits for your daily life. in this part of the ´ It girl ` guide magazine i will tell you all about habits and how they will improve your life.

# How do i create habits?

1. optimize habits you see on social media to your life. in the age where social media is part of our daily life’s, we are constantly trying to be influenced. try to optimize habits you see on the internet to what you need and to what you think would help you.

2. start small. if you want to include new habits into your life, you have to start small. let´s say you want to read 50 pages per day but normally don’t read a lot. try starting with ten pages and increase the amount over the span of a few weeks.

3. reward yourself. find a way to reward yourself after you stick to habits an amount of time. what worked for me are check lists. it´s not only a ay to stay organized, but also the feeling of checking every habit off is so satisfying to me.

# 8 Healthy It girl habits

1. don’t go on your phone for 2 hours after you wake up. our brain is constantly confronted with information. if the first thing we do is go on our phone, our brain will be overwhelmed. it will not only change the first few hours of your day, but also the whole day, because your brain won’t have the continuous urge to go on your phone. (the same thing works at night - 2 hour before bed, no social media,)

2. wake up earlier. this will give you more time to ge ready for the day and leave you more time to start the day calm and relaxed and not in a hurry.

3. move your body daily. you don’t need to go to the gym or do hard exercises. it can be something light, like going on a walk, stretching, yoga, running.

4. plan your day. planning your days, weeks or months can help you get an overview of what you have to do. it will also improve your time management a lot!!!

5. clean your room. a clean room helps you have a clear mind. if you clean your room everyday for a few minutes will prevent your room to get so messy that you have to do a very big deep clean.

6. reading books. and with reading books i also challenge you to not only read fiction but also non-fiction and classics. this will improve your vocabulary and your knowledge, wich can also help you at school.

7. get 8-10 hours of sleep. i know for some people this sounds impossible, especially during school, but try sticking to this for a few weeks and you will see and feel the differences.

8. do your homework or assignments done as soon as you get them and don’t procrastinate. this will improve your time management a lot.

xoxo 💋

ps. one of the next parts will be about time management🤫

7 Rituals That Got Me From Tired to Toned

by Soleau Club

If you’ve ever felt like your body is running on airplane mode—always on, but not actually doing anything—same. I was constantly fatigued, inflamed, and lowkey resenting anyone who had the energy to “love their morning workouts.” I knew something had to shift, and spoiler: it wasn’t another 5 a.m. alarm or over-caffeinated cardio class.

These are the actual rituals that took me from tired and puffy to toned, glowy, and genuinely energized.

1. I Ditched the “Toxic Grind” Workouts

I swapped cortisol-spiking HIIT for Pilates, walking, and sculpt-style flows. My body leaned out, my nervous system calmed down, and I actually wanted to move. Your body isn’t lazy—it’s probably just overstressed.

2. I Learned How to Actually Hydrate

Water alone wasn’t cutting it. I added minerals and electrolytes every morning (especially after wine or crying). It rebalanced everything—my mood, my bloat, and my skin.

3. I Romanticized My Morning Protein

I used to skip breakfast or live off iced coffee until noon. Now I do 30g of protein within an hour of waking up. It flipped a switch in my energy, hunger, and metabolism. Protein first = fewer cravings and way more hot girl focus.

4. I Started Doing “Lymph Love”

Lymphatic drainage changed the game. I do gua sha, dry brushing, and bouncing on a mini trampoline (yes, really). It keeps me de-puffed, snatched, and mentally clear. If you’ve been stuck in a bloated slump, your lymph is probably begging for attention.

5. I Cut the Caffeine-Sugar-Crash Loop

I replaced that desperate second coffee with adaptogens, matcha, or mushroom coffee. Less jittery, more glowy. My energy went from chaotic to steady, and my stress-induced belly weight? Deflating.

6. I Moved for Energy, Not Burnout

I started asking myself, “What would feel good to move through right now?” Sometimes it’s a stretch. Sometimes it’s a dance break. Movement became sacred instead of punishment—and my body rewarded me.

7. I Committed to Real Rest

Not just scrolling in bed. I created actual rituals for sleep—red light, mouth tape, magnesium, wind-down playlists. Deep sleep = faster recovery, flatter tummy, better mood. Sleep is the unsung queen of body recomposition.

Toning your body doesn’t have to mean torturing it. These rituals gave me the glow-up without the burnout, and made wellness feel like a vibe—not a chore.

Follow @soleauclub for more glow girl rituals that fuel your dream body and your dream life.

How to change your personality in simple steps

• Remind yourself that you can literally just change whatever you want about yourself

• Make a plan: How can I achieve this? Which steps should I make? How long does it take to achieve this?

• Ask yourself why you want to change your personality: Are you doing it for career opportunities? Do you seek validation in others?

• Remind yourself that you can literally change any thoughts, feeling and emotion. You can decide to not be angry or sad anymore. You can decide to not overthink anymore.

• Inner mind first: You can change your style, makeup or hair all you want, but if you don't work on your triggers, trauma or insecurities, you will still be the same person. Work on your mind first, then the rest will follow.

Be high maintenance to be low maintenance: a checklist

daily

- AM and PM skincare

- shower (cold shower for the last 3 minutes)

- moisturize !!!

- floss, mouthwash, brush teeth, clean your tounge

- walk 6-10k steps

- 7-9 hours of sleep

- take your supplements

- drink 1,5-2 liters of water

weekly

- shape eyebrows

- wash hair 2-3 times

- exfoliate your body

- face, hair, feet and hand masks

- hair oiling

- full body shave (face and body)

- change bedding

- clean your room

monthly

- deep clean your room

- everything shower

- mani and pedi

- hair trim (every 3 months)

- teeth withening

- hair glossing

- laser hair removal

annually

- dentist appointments

- doctor checkups

- clean out your closet

- set goals for yourself

i'm just a kid

i never use my brain

i only use my heart

and my imagination

Unpopular opinion —

Cute but overpriced skincare products, trendy supplements, and aesthetic workout gear won’t be the key to your glow up.

Taking retinol but not eating your vegetables will not make your skin age less

Hydration isn’t just about serums; it’s about drinking water

Collage production isn’t just about fancy creams, it’s about eating nutrient rich foods like leafy greens and berries

Glow doesn’t come from overpriced skincare, it comes from balanced meals, less sugar, and good sleep

Moving your body consistently, even if it’s walking is better than bying every workout set you’ve seen on instagram

Don’t give in to the trap of consumerism disguised as self-care. Your glow up isn’t for the sale. It’s in the basics.

Wake up in your dream body ♕ ᴏᴠᴇʀɴɪɢʜᴛ ᴛʀᴀɴꜱꜰᴏʀᴍᴀᴛɪᴏɴ ɪꜱ ᴘᴏꜱꜱɪʙʟᴇ.(ɴᴏ ᴀꜰꜰɪʀᴍᴀᴛɪᴏɴꜱ, ɴᴏ ꜱᴛʀᴜɢɢʟᴇ, ɴᴏ ꜰɪxɪɴɢ ʀᴇQᴜɪʀᴇᴅ)ೃ࿔ ͙ㅤㅤ

Do you want to change your appearance? Your voice, energy, beauty, and entire perception of yourself?

You wake up one morning...and

You have the body you feel is yours.

The voice you love.

The skin that glows.

The energy that conquers.

➥You can do it. But not by changing your body. By changing who you are inside when you look at it.

➥The truth they don't tell you: The body you see now is not real. It's just a form held by your attention, your "I am this way." As long as you observe it as true → you confirm it. Even if you hate it. Even if you want to change it.

🍒How to break free:🍒

➥Stop trying to improve. Don't say "I'm becoming beautiful." Say: "I'm stunning. It's obvious." And live like that.

➥Stop reacting to what you see. The mirror, photos, your voice? They're no longer "you." They're just echoes of the old version you're leaving behind.

Treat your new body as already yours. Move like it's already yours. Breathe like it's already yours. Don't wait to see it. Just be. Let go of all struggle. If you're still thinking "but why hasn't it changed yet?" → you're still stuck in the version that's waiting. Stop it. Don't give it any more attention. No explanations. No justifications.

Thoughts don't manifest. It's the state you think from that creates. "I have the perfect body" said by someone who still feels insecure = doesn't work. But said by someone who no longer doubts, who already lives like it's true = BOOM. Reality bends.

Because it's already yours. You're just not waiting for it anymore. You're living it.

Your reality is just a reflection of your perception, so change your perspective and your life will change.

Kisses kisses beauties ♡

Birthday Resolutions:

get an actual diet (stop eating so much sugar and carbs, eat more fruits/veg, etc)

do 30 mins of pilates daily

do skincare every day

get a guitar and actually learn how to play it

journal every day and practice self love

affirm and pray daily

read at least 50 pages of a book daily

get a solid sleep schedule ( go to sleep 11-12 wake up 7-8)

actually become more social and get out of my damn house

study and pay attention more in class

better myself