The Thing That First Got Me Questioning Things Was Trans Women Who Were Super Early In Their Transition

the thing that first got me questioning things was trans women who were super early in their transition and not even close to passing insisting on using women’s restrooms and locker rooms. i was like if they’re women, wouldn’t they know how unsafe they could/would make the women in those spaces feel? wouldn’t they understand that many, many women have been victimized by men and that they currently look like a man? wouldn’t they care? but they didn’t and they don’t. and it just got worse and worse. now there’s popular messaging about women’s spaces being antithetical to the trans movement and how lesbians should be open to dick.

it got harder and harder to force myself to agree until eventually i realized why the movement’s progress has increasingly come at women’s expense: male entitlement. like as soon as you free yourself from the fear of committing thought crimes and recognize that these people were at the very least socialized as males, it becomes so clear. they believe their entitlement to womanhood, women’s spaces, and women themselves is an unquestionable right. and on top of that, they have no allegiance to women. they’ll use women to validate themselves but the second we disagree, suddenly they’re okay with reminding us that they’re men and can hurt us.

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