We Shouldn’t Be Needing This, But We Do. So Please, Stay Safe, Girls!

we shouldn’t be needing this, but we do. So please, stay safe, girls!

THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

Slowly falling in love with Peter

okay, sometimes I like to think what it would be like and I write in my fanfictions (but they are in portuguese) and I wanted to share with you guys, so here we are

i’m sorry that i don’t know how to write fluff. I’m used to be a drama queen but hey! its always time to try new things, right?

hope you like it

(crappy english ahead)

You can see my other pieces here: Starstruck au! and 13 Going on 30 au!

i think it would be like you two study in Midtown but never crossed paths

you have heard of Peter but you never thought deeply about him

you might have one or two classes together

detail: he always lived in the building across the street

the train you ride to go to school would be the same as his

but again you’ve never noticed him

mostly ‘cause the train was always full

until one day

it was a raining day and you woke up late for school

you just threw on a hoodie and forgot to wear proper pants, keeping the captain america pajama pants

and you got very wet on the way into and out the train, running like never before

when you got to the class soaked and feeling dizzy you looked for your seat

you spent the whole Chemistry class sneezing and feeling cold

“hey, are you alright?”

you looked beside you where the voice came from and surprised yourself

there was that boy that you’ve never talked before

what you heard about Peter Parker was that he was the sweetest and smartest boy in Midtown

you tried to sound fine but your mouth kept shaking while you answered

“y-yeah, j-just feeling a l-little cold” “you’re soaking wet, are you sure?” “uh-hu. It’s fine”

but Peter being Peter didn’t let it go that easily

when the period was over he ran into you and touched you lightly in the shoulder

you turned around to find him wearing the sweetest smile you’ve ever seen

“um… I have some gym clothes in my locker that you could wear. I-If you want to, of course!”

you never paid attention to him before and he was now helping you

“it’s okay, Peter. I-I’m fine” “it would be just a minute!”

before you could say anything, he ran through the corridor and back with clothes in his hand

you smiled at him and thought to yourself: nobody has ever done anything like this for me

“i’ll go and change”

you ran into the bathroom and changed your wet clothes to Peter’s gym clothes and dried yourself with some papertowels

when you left the bathroom you found Peter waiting for you and he just smiled again melting your heart

“as much as I liked your Cap’s pants, I prefer my gym shorts”

he just stared for a moment and then took off his hoodie, giving it to you

“here, take it” “no, Peter, it’s okay” “I insist”

and you took it

and you never forgot his scent again

after that you started noticing Peter everywhere you went

and you realized that you never saw him in Delmar’s or some classes or by the window sitting in his desk studying or in the train

it was crazy how you never really saw Peter Parker before that

you started to get closer one day when the train ride was almost empty and you sat by his side, watching him taking one of his earbuds off to hear what you had to say

“hey, I never thanked you for that day so… thank you for helping me. And I’m bringing your clothes tomorrow!”

he just molded his lips in that shape that you thought for hours and hours never leaving your mind

“it’s f-fine, Y/N. If you need anything, y-you can call me… or…” “maybe we should hang out some time”

at first, he was surprised by your offer

but he smiled again and offered you one of his earbuds

“do you like music?” “of course! I’m human, right?”

he mentally slaped himself and blushed hard

so you two started to talk more and more

your boring train ride turned into a laugh session with him that you wished that would never end

History and Chem would be way more fun with him sitting by your side and passing notes about how Iron Man was better than Cap

and you would laugh for hours

lunches would be shorter when you passed by his side

he even introduced you to his friends!

you and Ned clicked right away and Michelle… well, Michelle is Michelle

friday nights would be busy with movie marathons in Neds

and it was all good until one day

you were having a Star Wars marathon in Neds and Peter sat by your side in the couch

Ned was sitting on the floor and slowly falling asleep

and you and Peter were the only ones awake

but it was a stressful day for the boy ‘cause he had a Spanish quiz and had to do lots of Chem homework

it all led him to be the epitome of tiredness

and in a blink, he was laying on the free space on the couch and looked so comfortable that you couldn’t just not stare

when Episode III was almost in the end you found yourself yawning and your eyes closing more and more

you didn’t remember how you fell asleep

but you remembered very well to wake up laying on his chest

it was awkward when you woke up from the flash of Neds cellphone sound

Peter immediatly got up and you just sat there blushing h a r d

after that day you and Peter didn’t really talk for a couple of days

not because you didn’t want to, but because you couldn’t

not after you realized

you liked Peter. A lot.

so you started to watch him from your window

often he would be in his desk studying or trying to fix pieces that he would collect from the streets

it was all normal until

“what’s that climbing onto Peters window?”

HOLY SHIT

Spider-man

and then you saw spider-man taking off his mask

and surprise again, it was peter fucking parker.

you tried your best to ignore him in school, Delmars, the train, everywhere basically

but

it was inevitable to not talk to him one morning when the train was empty and you and him were the only ones there

“why are you ignoring me? Is that because you slept in my chest? ‘Cause it’s alright, i kinda liked and…” “when were you gonna tell me you’re spider-man? And… wait, you liked? “WHAT?”

he tried his best to deny that he was spider-man, but after a lot of invalid arguments he just gave up

and he literally begged on his knees to you keep it as a secret

your friendship was back again and now built in trust and love

he even invited you to study sessions in his apartament

and you met May and she loved you

“Peter has a pretty girl friend and never told me?”

hard blushing

one night you were reading a book and heard something in your window

you looked for something to use as a weapon and found your shoe

when you came closer to the window you found Peter leaning on and looking terrible

“oh fuck, what happened to you?” “I was fighting bad guys and didn’t end very well. Wait… were you going to hit me with your shoe?” “Forget about that. Sit on the bed now”

he did as told to and you looked for something to fix his wounds and bruises

when you got back with a first-aid kit you started to clean his fresh wounds and clean the blood while he tried to maintain his composure

“ok Peter, I found really cool that you were spider-man at first but now I’m scared as shit” “how come?” “you never showed up with open-up wounds. I used to ignore the bruises but now I’m worried about you” “you… you worry about me?”

his face was so precious. it looked like he had stars in his eyes

“of course I do, silly. I care a lot about you” “I never thought so” “now you know so.”

that night, when he left, you couldn’t stop smiling at the warmth of his body and how much you would like to have that moment again and again

after that he would always show up in your apartament looking for help with his wounds and bruises and of course, you would always help him

night after night he would spend more time in your room just looking for a talk to distract him and you would laugh for hours

one day at lunch you sat at the usual table and found Ned already sitting there

when you asked where was Peter he didn’t know how to answer

but you found the answer when you looked at the cafeteria entrance and found Peter not alone, but in the company of Liz Allan

he was wearing the same sweet smile that he used to give to you and made you feel special and now you felt awful

maybe he didn’t like you that way

oh, that’s okay. I didn’t expect to

but you did

that night you were laying on your bed with your tears burning your cheeks while you tried to sleep

you totally forgot about Peter until he jumped inside your room, bringing snacks on his other arm

when you saw him you immediatly tried to wipe the tears away

“Y/N? What’s wrong?”

you couldn’t bring yourself to ask him, so you just smiled and breathed slowly

“nothing. Just allergies.” “oh, okay. I brought some snacks for us…” “if you don’t mind, I’m a little tired tonight and tomorrow will be a long day, so…” “uh, alright. If you need me…” “yeah, I know”

the next day you asked Ned if Peter and Liz were a thing

Ned tried to keep it to himself but he couldn’t not tell you.

“Peter kinda likes her”

it broke you entirely

you feld your legs go numb and your body trying to float away but you just stood there smiling again, reassuring him that you were okay

then you started to avoid Peter again

you would just give him excuses about not feeling well or being late for something or even busy

you just couldn’t look at his face when his star-eyes weren’t meant for you

he even stopped coming in your room at night

it was like that until one day you were trying to sleep and heard a sound and sat up right away

you saw Peter climbing into your room and looking at you with worry

“Y/N? Sorry to wake you up.” “what are you doing here, Peter?” “shit, I’m… Why are you avoiding me? Did I do something wrong?” “do you like Liz?”

your question caught him off guard and you felt stupid

“what?” “do you care about me at all?” “why would you say that? Of course I do!” “then why don’t you show that? I know Liz is way more pretty and smart than I am but I’m still your friend!” “shit, Y/N. What’s going on?” “admit it!” “admit what?” “admit that you like her. Please finish this so I can live in peace and not in the dark again.” “I used to like Liz. But now I don’t”

you felt your chest getting smaller at every sentence

Peter sat right next to you and watched your face

even in the dark you could see his beautiful features and your heart was racing the time with anxiety

“then why would you come here every night? If you were looking for a friend, why wouldn’t you come to Ned’s or Michelle’s?” “because I wasn’t.”

he got even closer and looked you in your eyes.

again, you could see the stars in it and felt a warmth spreading over your chest and your cold hand got warm

he was holding it

“I care about you. I like you or… or even m-more.”

with that he pecked your lips in a fast and sweet kiss that left the taste of his soft ones lingering there

that’s when you realized

you were slowly falling in love with Peter Parker

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supernovaspidey

5 years ago

Im a bit drunk, its 3;00am. But Why does Bebe yoda give the uppy arms.. Why does mister mandalorian immediately pick him up .. why does no one involved with this production car e about my well being

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supernovaspidey

5 years ago