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In this post i will be coining a new term for the aromantic community;;

Somewharo

First Flag: [START ID: a rectangular flag with 6 equally-sized horizontal stripes, going from a dark teal to yellow :END ID]

Second Flag: [START ID: a rectangular flag with 9 equally-sized horizontal stripes. the first four stripes are a gradient from light blue-green to dark blue-green, the middle stripe is off-white, and the last four stripes are a gradient from dark green to soft yellow-green :END ID]

Somewharo is a term for those on the aromantic spectrum who feel like they are somehwere on it and just can place where. They either don’t fit into any of the pre-existing arospec labels, or fluctuate a lot on the aro spectrum, or can’t place where due to neurodivergency.

People who use this term may or may not use aroflux alongside it.

Shout out to @arokill for the white stripe flag!

(will have image IDs soon)

Please RB it helps a lot!!!

If you don’t live in Texas it’s probably easy to forget that our state department of family and protective services is still under a directive from our fucking evil state officials to treat trans affirming parents as abusers.

It’s so vile. I have friends who work for other state departments who just told me at someone’s bday last weekend that TDFPS is a dumpster fire of horrific proportions.

THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from

Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

Not a dream

I signed a new contract and it takes a while for it to be processed so I have been without paycheck for 47 days and I feel like Mr. Struggle

At least I have cans and crackers at home, so I am not starving, so that's good

hi, hello, hey there, i’m elio:)

i’m a queer trans guy of color and i’ve been struggling with money recently (as in can barely afford food kind of struggling), so, if you like gay fiction and have 5 bucks to spare, you can commission any short story you’d like, be that sfw or nsfw* (the price might go up if you want a longer work). you will receive it as soon as possible, which honestly probably means within 24 hours.

in other ‘news’, i’ll also be selling my 25 pound gc2b gift card for 20-22 pounds. you can use it in the uk/international store (it hasn’t been used at all, btw)

if you are interested in either or have questions, send me a message:)

regardless, thank you for taking the time to read this and it’d be amazing if you could help me spread the post, i’d appreciate that a lot:)

have an awesome day, stay hydrated<3

*don’t forget you have to be 18+ for nsfw content

please help us !

remaking my last post since we still really need help

im jet, 24 yr old trans dude. i live with my spouse and our pet family and ive had this account since 2014, for the info on our situation, me any my partner were recently kicked out by homophobic family after tricking us into moving states to caretake for them, and we are still recovering after losing all belongings to them and being made homeless for months. we now live in a more expensive apartment than before as it was the only available option until we can move, i am looking for work currently and am already a full time student and caretaker

we are currently short for our rent for feb, as we have lost income and savings, and after the rent increasing we will have no way to pay. i also have a painful dental issue requiring root canal which my insurance wont cover and would do anything to figure that out eventually. anything helps, even a couple cents. it adds up and would help us afford to stay here as we were cut off from our only support in a different state trying to get on our feet.

i am trying to find work so i wont have to do this again but really need help, nothing has come through yet. i know everyone is going through a lot, but if you have any extra, anything does really directly affect us and help us survive, and boosting means a lot

p*ypal: ptcustomcomp@yahoo.com

v*nmo: @tobler707

For one of my classes, I'm creating a zine on showcasing the importance of transgender stories that focuses on the positive experiences of being transgender and rejecting the notion that transness is an inherently negative experience.

Since this is a website in which I see a lot of transgender positivity, I felt that here would be a good source of information as to how other people experience transgender joy.

Google Docs

Experiences of Transgender Joy

This is a survey asking transgender people as to what they define transgender joy as for themselves.

This is normally when people ask to "reblog to spread the word so I can gather a large sample size," but I hate it when people tell me that I have to reblog things and I tend to not reblog out of spite. However, be aware that if you follow me, this will be on your dash several times for the next week or two, as I want to collect a lot of information. Just be warned that I can and will be mildly obnoxious about this.

"don't stop me now 'cuz I'm murdering children"

Help a disabled woman from becoming homeless!

**URGENT: PLEASE READ/SIGNAL BOOST**

Monday, May 15th: Hello everyone, I’m Gemma, a bi, mentally ill, and disabled woman in desperate need of help, as I'm still struggling to pay my rent which is two weeks overdue.

As most of you are already aware from my previous posts, I have been struggling financially these past few years due to Covid-19 and my welfare benefit (Universal Credit) being under continuous reviews, which is due to my worsening mental/physical health and the UK’s controversial changes to how benefits are assessed and assigned. And after a lengthy health assessment, I have been declared not to be fit for work, however, I am still waiting for the outcome of my Adult Disability application, which I applied for back in January.

To be quite honest, these past few months have been absolute hell for me, and with no other income, I've been relying on the kindness of others to get by. However, due to my outstanding debt, my benefit last month was taken and I wasn't able to pay my rent or utilities, and the funds that I received to pay off everything were recently taken by more overdue bills and fees. (I missed a council tax payment and was charged for the full years amount.)

If anyone could spare any amount to help me, even if it’s just £1/$1/€1, it would save my life, and sharing definitely helps just as much. Thank you so much for all your help!! ❤

£0/£250!!

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