Tess-tickles79 - MILLSAP

The ending of relationships

We tend to jump into relationships and friendships with the thought of it being forever. We want our relationships to last as long as possible and it’s good that we are willing to commit to other people and the connection we have with them. But some people aren’t meant to stay in your life forever. And that is ok. It can be hard to accept that, but we need to learn to let go of something that isn’t going anywhere, something that’s not healthy for you anymore, something that is holding you back from living your own life. Sometimes that “something” is a certain person or even a group of people in your life. Don’t let other people drag you down. If a relationship/friendship is tearing you apart in whatever way - you need to step back, distance yourself from it and let go. You want to be surrounded by things and people that make you feel good, who accept and respect your needs and wishes, who want only the best FOR you - not the best OF you. The same goes for people who are trying to distance themselves from you. It’s their good right to do so. Try not to be offended or sad over the fact that they need to move on without you. You probably won’t understand why they think that way especially if you don’t feel like ending your connection to that person, but they most certainly thought it through and are in no way trying to hurt you. Sometimes you just need to do what you think is best for you even though it’s not an easy thing to do. You don’t need to be happy about it, but it’s your responsibility to accept and respect their decision/ needs & wishes. Don’t pressure them in any way - it’s hard enough for them - trust me.

There is no reason to be bitter about the end of any kind of relationship - it just takes time to realise that. You can take away so much from any realtionship that ended. Good or bad - relationship or friendship - long-lasting or not - it doesn’t matter. You learn from every connection/interaction you have with another human being and you grow from it. So try to see it from the positive side of things because the ending of one thing is the beginning of another one.

Some people aren’t meant to stay in your life forever. And that’s ok.

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tess-tickles79

9 years ago