May You Find The Courage To Let Yourself Be Vulnerable Long Enough To Be Truly Seen, Held, Healed And

i want to climb through the clouds and exist there all by myself i want to hold hands with heaven sing sweet melodies to the moon i want to be unafraid and full of overflowing lust for life wave stars and galaxies into my bones and ribs i want to understand life and death but all i do is waste my youth to the endless sadness of my heart

It’s okay to be bad at things. If you like drawing, but none of your art is aesthetically pleasing to anyone, keep doing it. If you like singing, but you can’t hit any of the right notes, keep doing it. If you like dancing, but you don’t have a good feel of the music, keep doing it. Don’t stop doing the things that you love just because you aren’t good at them and don’t ever let anyone shame you for it. 

i think the funniest and realist thing i’ve realized lately is how troubling idealization can be. every person is just… a person. the very people you want to impress or be apart of are just people. even if they seem wildly intimidating because of the way they look or because of their reputation, every one is just a person. human. as embarrassing, as remorseful and they are going through stages of growth just like you are. we only see what we want to see and then drown ourselves further in our own depression and we don’t have to.

READ CHIMAMANDA NGOZI ADICHIE'S ESSAY. READ IT READ IT READ IT SHE CAPTURES EVERYTHING SO WELL

chimamanda.com <- should take you right to it

i made a quiz that tells you what art style you are

the idea that all coping mechanisms are valid and completely immune to criticism is honestly one of the worst things on nd/mentally ill tumblr.

just because you’re doing something to cope doesn’t mean it’s not hurting you, or that it isn’t hurting others.

sometimes, coping mechanisms hurt other people, like compulsive lying or constantly expecting your partner to give you reassurance every second of the day. sometimes, your coping mechanisms harm your recovery even though they feel good at the time. sometimes, your coping mechanisms just further entrench you in whatever you’re struggling with.

stop defending unhealthy behavior with the justification of “oh it’s just me coping”. you’re not permanently chained to whatever harmful bullshit you do.

As you write, you will naturally improve. Do not wait until you think you are good enough to start. You are always good enough to start improving.