A young Buddha story I always liked (you might have heard it). When the Buddha was a young prince he was sitting in the garden one day when suddenly out of the sky a swan came crashing down, blood spurting everywhere, an arrow firmly lodged in it’s neck. It flailed on the ground piteously. The Buddha had not yet Awakened, so he ran over and panicked, started calling to his servants to come help him.
From around the corner comes his infamous cousin Devadatta with a big smile on his face. He says ‘don’t take it away! That’s the best shot I’ve made yet. That’s my spoils’. The Buddha is horrified, Devadatta is proud. ‘The bird needs help’, the young Buddha said. ‘The bird is my trophy,’ says Devadatta. The advisors aren’t really sure what to do, and the two boys can’t agree. So they go to the court room where the king and the ministers are gathered, and the court decides to hear the case between the two boys as a kind of break.
Devadatta makes his argument clear: ‘I shot the bird. By doing so, I claimed it. This is how everything works, every stone in this palace and each place of land one owns.’
The Buddha, young and bashful, says ‘Everyone agrees that things that hate each other belong apart, and that those who love each other belong together. Devadatta showed violence to the bird, who will not leave my lap, so you have to understand it as hate; I cared for the bird, who will not leave my lap, so it is clearly love. Hence the bird is under my care.’
The council weighs the arguments after the boys have spoken, admiring Devadatta’s maturity and a little embarassed by the Buddha’s emotional plea. Just as they’re about to make their judgement in favor of Devadatta, the king gives a small cough, and the courtiers remember themself: The Buddha is in the right, the bird belongs to him. Devadatta is outraged, screams injustice, storms out of the room.
Telling this story later in life, the Buddha says ‘Do you know? Devadatta had the better argument, of course. I only won because I was the king’s son—-pure privilege. In a sense, it wasn’t right. But I did care for that bird, and a week later it flew away squawking and happy.’
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Can we normalise ‘I’m willing to work on that’ instead of ‘that’s just how I am’
“Diplomat’s Son” - Vampire Weekend
“Electric Love” - BØRNS
“Underachiever” - NOAHFINNCE
“Honey” - Johnny Balik
“LA Devotee” - Panic! at the disco
“Out of My League” - Fitz and the Tantrums
“Devil Town” - Cavetown
“Marlboro Nights” - Lonely God
“Sweater Weather” - The Neighborhood
“Anthropocene” - Samsa
“Like Lovers Do” - Hey Violet
“Tongue Tied” - Grouplove
“Love Die Young” - Eric Nam
“Come along” - Cosmo Sheldrake
“Campus” - Vampire Weekend
I made a baby blanket for a pregnant woman at work and I went back and forth about it like “is this weird? To like hand make something for someone when we’re like friendly acquaintances not like bffs. God why are you so fucking awkward.” Anyway I gave it to her and she said she loved it and in the back of my head I’m like yea she’s nice and probably just humoring the weirdo. Well she texted me a picture this weekend of a scrunchy faced newborn at the hospital wrapped in the blanket I made her. And I’m like. Wow. She loved it so much she took it with her! To the hospital! To give birth! She wrapped her newborn it! I am just so filled with love and joy right now.
People will love the things you make them. Because you thought of them and you cared.
The fact that someone on this site thinks the word femicide is some terf word shows a lot of you are deeply stupid, call anything they don't like terfy and do not engage with anything that isn't your parasocial idol pre-chewing ideas for you so no effort or extra reading is involved
The level of laziness it takes to talk about misogyny but you've never heard the word femicide, the level of disconnect you'd need to have from the news or reading about alot of countries to have never heard the word before. If this person is American ( they likely are ) it's worse cause Mexico has a femicide crisis and it's been in the news, on Vice and viral videos have been spread in non-feminist circles about mother's being angry about their daughters being murdered.
The real misogyny isn't women being murdered in a consistent pattern but calling it femicide cause why can't you just say people? + People I don't like said a word so word has the lurgies and I refuse to Google anything about it.
How are some of you not embarrassed by the depth of your ignorance ? But you're so loud
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“Study me as much as you like, you will never know me. For I differ a hundred ways from what you see me to be. Put yourself behind my eyes, and see me as I see myself. Because I have chosen to dwell in a place you can’t see.”
— Rumi (via purplebuddhaquotes)
It’s okay to be bad at things. If you like drawing, but none of your art is aesthetically pleasing to anyone, keep doing it. If you like singing, but you can’t hit any of the right notes, keep doing it. If you like dancing, but you don’t have a good feel of the music, keep doing it. Don’t stop doing the things that you love just because you aren’t good at them and don’t ever let anyone shame you for it.
“To achieve perfection in writing while retaining naturalness it was important to write a great deal, to write fluently, as the pianist practices the piano, rather than to correct constantly one page until it withers. To write continuously, to try over and over again to capture a certain mood, a certain experience. Intensive correcting may lead to monotony, to working on dead matter, whereas continuing to write and to write until perfection is achieved through repetition is a way to elude this monotony, to avoid performing an autopsy. Sheer playing of scales, practice, repetition — then by the time one is ready to write a story or a novel a great deal of natural distillation and softing has been accomplished.”
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Anaïs Nin, On Writing