"انتبه للمسرّات الصغيرة خلال اليوم، كن شخصًا شاكرًا ومُمتنًا لكل النعم حتى تلك التي تبدو كأنها جزء من اليوم، أصوات عائلتك وضحكاتهم، تلذذك بطعامك، قدرتك على رسم أهدافٍ جديدة، حواراتك الحنونة مع الأصدقاء، الشعور المُريح عند استعدادك للنوم، صحتك، كُن شاكرًا لأن أيامك مُحاطة بالنعم."
babe is acting like a babygirl, i want to bite your cheeks so badly
Jennifer Saunders, from “When the Guest Speaker Told Us“
Ilya Kaminsky, from "While the Child Sleeps, Sonya Undresses", Deaf Republic
Admit to yourself that you want things.
Admit to yourself that you're hungry and then don't settle for less than your fill of life.
It's a lot healthier to go for a daily walk than to sign up for a gym membership you won't be using because you hate that kind of exercise. It's a lot healthier to eat a frozen meal than to skip a meal because you were too tired to cook something healthy. It's a lot healthier to take a quick shower than to procrastinate an elaborate routine for days. Don't aim so high that you won't be hitting anything!
Sometimes it's hard to move away from pain because it just gets familiar and "comfortable" despite how much it hurts us. And it may also be the only thing that connects us to what brought us pain in the first place (especially if it's a connection/loss). In our subconscious mind, the idea of healing may feel scary: what will be of me without this pain? What will I do? It's true that maybe our pain and "secure/known" current situation helps us think we are safe as per how things are, and we are also saving ourself from the chance of getting hurt in other ways, but is it really worth the amount of mental and physical hurt it brings to our present and future self? I hope you find ways to bring yourself compassion and find the strength to move on from that, even if it feels scary to leave a "comfort zone" for a totally unknown one. You'll find a new way to balance yourself in it and find a new safety in it too, I promise. It won't be bad. You deserve to feel good and at peace. And to heal.
“Wild Geese”, by Mary Oliver