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Hi! I hope you can help, I don't know who to ask. My friend has premonitions and they bother her so much that she wants them to stop. Everything I find online is to enhance them, not remove them. Is there anything you could suggest to lessen her premonitions or dull psychic abilities?

this is pretty hard. i have struggled with the same issue for years, even breaking down and crying and wishing for them to stop. i have tried to drink them away and smoke them away to no avail, and in my adult years, i have embraced them. i don’t let them slip away from me. i believe there are some herbal remedies and some texts which suggest the ability to decrease sensitivity to said premonitions, but they are both a gift and affliction to those of us who are naturally in-tune to the circle of time. it offends some spirits to try to return that gift. they’re probably coming in her dreams- i find that melatonin and sleep “enhancers” have a chance of blocking them out for me- so does having an unhealthy lifestyle, but unless they bother her so much that she seeks an early grave, that is unviable advice.

i leave this ask open-ended and ask anyone with experience in halting premonitions or oracular sensations- i will check out some of the texts i am thinking of and make a post for you, but until then, i hope followers reading this may have a remedy for her.

thank you for your question, i hope we can find her a solution together.

So... How do you find a good therapist for DID then..? We've heard so many horror stories about bad therapists, and we've already had other trauma reg. therapy, so its a bit difficult... Any advice would be great tbh.

Hi anon,

The thing is this really depends on where you live. I think I can give some more general advice though and then you can decide which may work for you!

(Okay, again my answer got REALLY long, sorry about that!)

Remember that, while it would be cool if you could find a DID/OSDD specialist, it can absolutely work if you find someone that has general knowledge about trauma/ptsd or cptsd but not specifically about DID/OSDD. 

Personally I think the most important part is that you feel safe with a therapist, that you feel a ‘click’ of connection, that they are willing to learn/adapt, and that they are honest/open (and humor is 100% important for me).

Now, some things you can do:

Check if there’s a ‘therapist finder’ thing. I think the ISSTD one is most succesful for the US. Maybe there is an association that many therapists are a member of (e.g. in my country there’s an association of private therapists and that website has a therapist finder tool). There’s probably not an option to look for DID therapists specifically, so I always look for therapists that work with trauma/EMDR. For the ISSTD thing, if there’s no one in your area - email the one that’s closest to you and ask them if they know therapists closer to you.

Go to your GP, describe your issues (as detailed or not as you feel comfortable with) and ask if they can help you find a therapist. Some GP places have a social worker that could possibly help you find a therapist.

If there’s a community clinic or community mental health center, ask there as well. You can usually either easily make an appt or just walk in there. Ask them if they can help you find a therapist - maybe they even have therapists working there that can help you.

If you have a friend with a nice therapist in your area, ask them to ask their therapist for names of colleagues.

If there’s no therapist finder, just google. “Trauma therapist city/state/…”, “EMDR therapist city/state/…” etc. Check out all websites you come across. Bookmark the ones that seem decent/okay.

These things can probably help you get a list of names to look into. Next, you will research those names. You will go through their websites, you will look at their photo and decide if it’s a face you like or not. Everyone that seems remotely, potentially, possibly okay - you email them (most have an email address on their website - if not there’s probably a contact form on the website). I never specifically mention a diagnosis in my emails because it can be tricky. I generally kept to “trauma/dissociation issues” or “dissociative disorders”. 

A generic email is okay, example: “Hi, I’m Name. I’m emailing you because I’m looking for a therapist and came across your website. I’m looking for a therapist that preferably has experience in working with dissociation and trauma related issues, or one that is open to learning about these topics. Your website states that you work with trauma / that you practice EMDR, which is why I am contacting you. If you yourself don’t work with dissociative disorders, I was wondering if you could maybe direct me to some colleagues that may be able to help me out. I look forward to hearing back from you, thank you in advance”.

You can include other stuff, of course. I usually included something about whether they would be willing to call me (and included my phone number) if they had any questions etc. - but you could also ask about which insurances they take, for example. It’s okay to email multiple people. I went a bit overboard (maybe) and emailed about 30 - I made a table in word to keep track of who responded when and whether it was positive or not.

Once a therapist replies positively, ask if it’s possible to schedule a meeting. Where I live, some therapists even offer this initial meeting free of charge. Say you just want to check if there’s a click and how it feels, that you’d like to ask some questions and they probably have some questions too. That you’d like to be sure about your choice for a therapist before making the commitment. 

If a therapist seems nice and knowledgeable but for whichever reason can’t help you (long waiting list, not the right insurance, whatever) - always ask them if they can refer you to colleagues. I don’t know about the cost of therapy in other countries, but I think some therapists offer lower fees for people that for whichever reason cannot afford the full price. You can consider asking about this.

And remember… you don’t have to have a DID/OSDD specialist. They’re rare. If you have a therapist that’s enthusiastic about working with you and willing to (for example) get supervision or follow a(n online) training, that’s super good already.

If you’re starting with a new therapist, always try to disclose (if you can) about negative experiences you’ve had. Explain why it may take some time for you to feel safe enough to talk. Explain what you’re anxious about or afraid of. A good therapist will understand, will listen, and will be patient.

It can be an AWFUL struggle to find a therapist and it’s okay to pause the search if you just need some time, but in the end it will be worth it.

If anyone has anything to add to this - feel free to reblog this post or comment or anything! More advice is always welcome in this area, especially because it differs so much between countries.

Take care anon, I really hope you’ll find a therapist!Sae

Greek mythology from A to Z:

[M] - Melinoe (Μηλινόη) was the goddess of ghosts and a nymph, considered to be responsible for bringing nightmares and madness. She was the daughter of Persephone.

The Great Goddess Hecate (Hekate)

Who is Hecate? She is the Goddess of Witchcraft, Necromancy, Ghosts, Magic, and, in some instances, the Night, Darkness, The Mist, and Moon. For some She is also the goddess of motherhood, protection, and the sea. She is a Hellenic deity, born of the Titans Asteria and Perses. There’s a few beliefs circling around Her being a crone goddess or a Triple Goddess, but those are modern and neopagan beliefs—which She predates. I also consider Her to be a part of the Chthonic deities.

Symbology: Black dogs, Wolves, Keys, Torches, Flames, Torches, Crossroads, Serpents, Daggers, Birds of Prey (crows, ravens, owls), the Moon, witchcraft tools (such as cauldrons, tarot, athames)

Offerings & Devotional Acts for Her:

Figurines of any of Her symbols

keys, skeleton keys, lockets

fire witchcraft and candles, flames, matchsticks

dedicating any lunar or symbolic jewelry to Her

black/dark crystals such as obsidian and onyx

nocturnal animal imagery

black/cool colored glitter

baneful/poisonous herbs and plants

pomegranates/berries (She seems to really like blackberries)

dark blend wines

honey, cinnamon, poppy seeds, chocolates (dark)

mugwort, lavender, roses, jasmine, dragon’s blood

bones and feathers from birds of prey (please check your local laws about obtaining these)

pinpricks of blood (please DO NOT attempt this if you struggle with self harm/etc, blood magic is particularly strong and isn’t for everyone. She will understand if you cannot offer that to her).

Taking midnight walks, setting up altars and rituals at crossroads, paying respects to the dead and practicing your craft in a cemetery 

Any playlists, poems, literature, whether it be your own or just a piece you associate with Her, also make wonderful offerings. 

Lunar Influences & Connections: Reaching out to Hecate tends to work best at night, and really any time the moon is at it’s peak. The Witching Hours, midnight to 3A.M., during strong lunar influences (blue moons, blood moons, eclipses, new moons, etc) all hold strong bonds with Hecate. Also, any time it is particularly foggy or your surroundings are covered in a mist is a good time to try to connect with Her.

Disclaimer: These are correspondences that have been gathered through my personal experiences working through my craft with Her. If you find She responds better to different offerings/during different times, by all means, stick to it! Your bond with Her is your own and should be cultivated in whichever way works best for you and Her. Thank You!

THROUGH A RAPIST’S EYES” (PLS TAKE TIME TO READ THIS. It may save a life, It may save your life.)

An Article from Neena Susan Thomas

“Through a rapist’s eyes. A group of rapists and date rapists in prison were interview…ed on what they look for in a potential victim and here are some interesting facts:

1] The first thing men look for in a potential victim is hairstyle. They are most likely to go after a woman with a ponytail, bun! , braid, or other hairstyle that can easily be grabbed. They are also likely to go after a woman with long hair. Women with short hair are not common targets.

2] The second thing men look for is clothing. They will look for women who’s clothing is easy to remove quickly. Many of them carry scissors around to cut clothing.

3] They also look for women using their cell phone, searching through their purse or doing other activities while walking because they are off guard and can be easily overpowered.

4] The number one place women are abducted from / attacked at is grocery store parking lots.

5] Number two is office parking lots/garages.

6] Number three is public restrooms.

7] The thing about these men is that they are looking to grab a woman and quickly move her to a second location where they don’t have to worry about getting caught.

8] If you put up any kind of a fight at all, they get discouraged because it only takes a minute or two for them to realize that going after you isn’t worth it because it will be time-consuming.

9] These men said they would not pick on women who have umbrellas,or other similar objects that can be used from a distance, in their hands.

10] Keys are not a deterrent because you have to get really close to the attacker to use them as a weapon. So, the idea is to convince these guys you’re not worth it.

POINTS THAT WE SHOULD REMEMBER:

1] If someone is following behind you on a street or in a garage or with you in an elevator or stairwell, look them in the face and ask them a question, like what time is it, or make general small talk: can’t believe it is so cold out here, we’re in for a bad winter. Now that you’ve seen their faces and could identify them in a line- up, you lose appeal as a target.

2] If someone is coming toward you, hold out your hands in front of you and yell Stop or Stay back! Most of the rapists this man talked to said they’d leave a woman alone if she yelled or showed that she would not be afraid to fight back. Again, they are looking for an EASY target.

3] If you carry pepper spray (this instructor was a huge advocate of it and carries it with him wherever he goes,) yelling I HAVE PEPPER SPRAY and holding it out will be a deterrent.

4] If someone grabs you, you can’t beat them with strength but you can do it by outsmarting them. If you are grabbed around the waist from behind, pinch the attacker either under the arm between the elbow and armpit or in the upper inner thigh – HARD. One woman in a class this guy taught told him she used the underarm pinch on a guy who was trying to date rape her and was so upset she broke through the skin and tore out muscle strands the guy needed stitches. Try pinching yourself in those places as hard as you can stand it; it really hurts.

5] After the initial hit, always go for the groin. I know from a particularly unfortunate experience that if you slap a guy’s parts it is extremely painful. You might think that you’ll anger the guy and make him want to hurt you more, but the thing these rapists told our instructor is that they want a woman who will not cause him a lot of trouble. Start causing trouble, and he’s out of there.

6] When the guy puts his hands up to you, grab his first two fingers and bend them back as far as possible with as much pressure pushing down on them as possible. The instructor did it to me without using much pressure, and I ended up on my knees and both knuckles cracked audibly.

7] Of course the things we always hear still apply. Always be aware of your surroundings, take someone with you if you can and if you see any odd behavior, don’t dismiss it, go with your instincts. You may feel little silly at the time, but you’d feel much worse if the guy really was trouble.

FINALLY, PLEASE REMEMBER THESE AS WELL ….

1. Tip from Tae Kwon Do: The elbow is the strongest point on your body. If you are close enough to use it, do it.

2. Learned this from a tourist guide to New Orleans : if a robber asks for your wallet and/or purse, DO NOT HAND IT TO HIM. Toss it away from you…. chances are that he is more interested in your wallet and/or purse than you and he will go for the wallet/purse. RUN LIKE MAD IN THE OTHER DIRECTION!

3. If you are ever thrown into the trunk of a car: Kick out the back tail lights and stick your arm out the hole and start waving like crazy. The driver won’t see you but everybody else will. This has saved lives.

4. Women have a tendency to get into their cars after shopping,eating, working, etc., and just sit (doing their checkbook, or making a list, etc. DON’T DO THIS! The predator will be watching you, and this is the perfect opportunity for him to get in on the passenger side,put a gun to your head, and tell you where to go. AS SOON AS YOU CLOSE the DOORS , LEAVE.

5. A few notes about getting into your car in a parking lot, or parking garage:

a. Be aware: look around your car as someone may be hiding at the passenger side , peek into your car, inside the passenger side floor, and in the back seat. ( DO THIS TOO BEFORE RIDING A TAXI CAB) .

b. If you are parked next to a big van, enter your car from the passenger door. Most serial killers attack their victims by pulling them into their vans while the women are attempting to get into their cars.

c. Look at the car parked on the driver’s side of your vehicle, and the passenger side. If a male is sitting alone in the seat nearest your car, you may want to walk back into the mall, or work, and get a guard/policeman to walk you back out. IT IS ALWAYS BETTER TO BE SAFE THAN SORRY. (And better paranoid than dead.)

6. ALWAYS take the elevator instead of the stairs. (Stairwells are horrible places to be alone and the perfect crime spot).

7. If the predator has a gun and you are not under his control, ALWAYS RUN! The predator will only hit you (a running target) 4 in 100 times; And even then, it most likely WILL NOT be a vital organ. RUN!

8. As women, we are always trying to be sympathetic: STOP IT! It may get you raped, or killed. Ted Bundy, the serial killer, was a good-looking, well educated man, who ALWAYS played on the sympathies of unsuspecting women. He walked with a cane, or a limp, and often asked “for help” into his vehicle or with his vehicle, which is when he abducted his next victim.

Send this to any woman you know that may need to be reminded that the world we live in has a lot of crazies in it and it’s better safe than sorry.

If u have compassion reblog this post. ‘Helping hands are better than Praying Lips’ – give us your helping hand.

REBLOG THIS AND LET EVERY GIRL KNOW AT LEAST PEOPLE WILL KNOW WHATS GOING ON IN THIS WORLD. So please reblog this….Your one reblog can Help to spread this information.

THIS COULD ACTUALLY SAVE A LIFE.”

I wish my parents would understand this, no matter how many times I seem to explain it, they don’t listen 😓

a note on people who always say “i don’t mind” whenever you ask where they want to eat/what they want to watch/etc:

usually this is because they’ve been punished in the past for voicing their opinions, not because they’re out to annoy you specifically. depending on how much flack they used to receive, it can be very stressful for them if you try and force them to offer up an idea.

(edit: this was based off what my friends had told me about why they don’t like choosing things, it’s come to my attention anxiety at large is a much more common reason! although I will say this point wasn’t about abuse specifically, just any type of teasing/bullying/demeaning response to someone giving an opinion. there are many reasons people can feel uncomfortable voicing opinions, and they’re all understandable— I never intended to imply otherwise.)

a lot of my friends who do this appreciate me giving out like… three options. pick three different things that you will be happy to do any of and ask which of those three options they’d prefer. it removes the fear of “what if they don’t like my suggestion” without erasing their option to chose and have preferences so, you know, good all around

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