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I've been thinking a bit about what it means to be a homemaker lately. And I think about things my mom did when I was a kid. She decorated the house for different seasons and occasions. She baked cookies and banana bread and cake for our birthdays. She made beef stew and barbecued chicken. When we were little we would set up leprechaun traps for St. Patrick's day and she would hide Easter eggs and make us Valentine's baskets. Homemakers are memory makers. They are the ones who build your sense of belonging, of safety, of love and comfort. I started thinking about this when I was reading A Little Life. Though their life is complicated, Jude becomes a homemaker. I don't think it matters if you work or if you don't have kids-- homemakers are people who make homes. My mom was a single parent and she worked full time and attended night classes when she was pursuing a degree. And she created a home for her children.

What do you think is the biggest misconception of being a trad?

Oo this is a good question!

I think the biggest misconception is that we don’t have voices/opinions. I have tons of opinions and thoughts that I share with my husband and if he’s doing something I disagree with, I vocalize it, we talk about it, and then we move forward. Yes- my husband has final say most of the time, but he is always open to hearing me and coming to a decision together.

Tea & biscuits 🫖🌸🍪

𝓕𝓮𝓫𝓻𝓾𝓪𝓻𝔂 𝓵𝓸𝓿𝓮 -`♡´-

Ways a wife can contribute to a happy, Christ-centered marriage by nurturing love, respect, and joyful service to her husband:

1. Pray together and individually

• Pray for your husband’s needs, spiritual growth, and guidance. Pray together regularly, inviting God into every aspect of your marriage.

2. Communicate with Love and Respect

• Share openly and kindly, and listen with empathy. Respect his thoughts and opinions, honoring his role as a leader in the home.

3. Prepare His Lunch or Favorite Meals

• Pack a nutritious lunch for him to take to work or surprise him with his favorite dinner. This simple act shows care and appreciation.

4. Maintain a Clean and Peaceful Home

• Create a relaxing environment by keeping the home tidy and welcoming. Organize spaces that matter to him, like his favorite chair or workspace.

5. Encourage and Uplift Him

• Speak words of encouragement, recognize his strengths, and affirm his leadership. Avoid criticism, and let your words be a source of strength and comfort.

6. Show Physical Affection and Care

• Express love through small gestures, a gentle touch, or quality time. Physical closeness helps strengthen your emotional connection.

7. Practice Patience and Forgiveness

• Be quick to forgive mistakes and approach disagreements with patience and grace. Reflect Christ’s love by prioritizing unity over proving a point.

8. Welcome Him Home Warmly

• Greet him warmly, showing excitement to see him. This simple gesture helps set a peaceful and positive tone for his evening.

9. Support His Work and Hobbies

• Show interest in his work or hobbies, offering encouragement and helping when you can. Your support reinforces his value to you.

10. Align with His Vision and Decisions

• Seek to understand and support his vision for the family, discussing decisions in a way that respects his role as head of the household.

11. Run Errands or Handle Tasks He Dislikes

• Take on errands or tasks he dislikes, such as grocery shopping or car maintenance, to lighten his load and show you’re thinking of him.

12. Cultivate a Cheerful Heart and Gratitude

• Approach marriage with joy and gratitude for your partnership. Let thankfulness be evident in your actions and attitude.

13. Be Intentional in Physical Affection

• Give hugs, a kiss on the cheek, or a back rub after a long day to make him feel valued and appreciated. Regular lovemaking is also recommended!

14. Model Christ’s Love and Kindness

• Be a daily example of Christ’s love through kindness, patience, and compassion. Build him up with gentle words and actions.

15. Stay Rooted in God’s Word Together

• Study the Bible together to grow spiritually and strengthen your marriage. When both partners are aligned with God’s Word, you share a foundation for love and purpose.

16. Take Care of Household Chores Thoughtfully

• Handle regular household tasks that he appreciates, like laundry, dishes, or organizing, to create a peaceful and comfortable home environment.

17. Celebrate His Accomplishments

• Acknowledge his achievements, big or small, and celebrate them together. This helps him feel seen and appreciated.

18. Encourage His Relationship with God

• Pray for him and encourage his spiritual growth. This support strengthens both his faith and your bond.

19. Express Appreciation Through Notes or Texts

• Leave thoughtful notes in his lunch or send an encouraging text during the day. Simple reminders of love brighten his day.

20. Plan Date Nights and Special Moments

• Plan date nights or small surprises, even at home, to keep the romance alive and show your commitment to nurturing your relationship.

21. Cook Meals that Support His Health

• Prepare healthy, balanced meals that align with his dietary needs or preferences, showing care for his well-being.

22. Offer to Pray for His Specific Needs

• Ask if there’s anything specific you can pray for and take time each day to lift those needs up.

23. Be Available for Quality Time

• Dedicate time to him free from distractions. Whether it’s watching a show, taking a walk, or just listening, be present and engaged.

By serving, supporting, and loving your husband in these ways, you’ll contribute to a marriage that reflects Christ’s love and builds a joyful, nurturing partnership. 🌷

I honestly feel like I was made to be a housewife.

I want to wear cute aprons and bake cookies for someone I love. I want someone to dress up and do my makeup for. I want someone I can genuinely rely on to always be there for me. I want someone I can trust who loves me and knows I love them too. I want someone I can make cute things for if I ever learn any of the skills I wanna learn. I want someone who’s always there to encourage me and keep me safe. I want someone who knows they can rely on me to make their life at least a little bit easier. I want to take care of someone I love more than life itself.