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hello i hope you’re doing well! i am not aspiring to be a tradwife by any means, rather my aspirations are completely opposite. nonetheless, i respect women who choose to be stay-at-home mothers. i can’t ever see myself feminine because i don’t identify with it but i truly respect and admire feminine women from a distance. i always wanted to ask – many traditional feminine oriented blogs some questions and i am surprised i found one that allows asking questions! though i shouldn’t be too surprised, since ive seen a lot of hatred being spewed at them by a lot of women on tumblr. one tumblr ask told a traditional femininity blog to kill themselves! it’s very disturbing to me how they preach girls support girls and continue to self project their extreme hatred and toxicity. i am aware that yes tradwives tend to criticize modern feminism but so far i’ve seen too many bitter modern feminists who don’t seem to be too secure in their life choices. if they are secure, why pick on someone who chooses to live differently?

what are your thoughts? if i, am very secure in my choice to be career oriented, i don’t ever see myself picking on women who believe in traditional gender roles? why do modern feminists try too hard to claim biological determinism is a social construct? sorry for long question there but i am curious about what your thoughts about this? thank you!

If I'm totally honest, I think it's because humans- as a whole, not just women- have a proclivity for envy, as well as a misunderstanding of what most traditionally feminine women want.

Most of us just want to be left alone to run our households and love our families and neighbors. What many modern feminists think we want is to shove all women back into the home, which simply isn't true. Am I going to attest that I am far happier at home than I was in my career? Absolutely, because it's the truth. Do I also realize that this life, this career in and of itself, is not meant for everyone? Also yes! I have tons of friends that don't want to be SAHW/SAHMs for whatever reason, and that's respectable!

My other point- envy. Not that I think they're envious of being able to stay home, but I do think that social media highlights only the good things and they perceive tradwives to be ultra-happy all the time, and that is what they're envious about. They see posts of smiling wives or people having fun with their families and think "why can't or don't I have that? why can't I do both?" which leads to envy, which leads to some very hateful comments & views about our community.

I will agree with you that the idea of the "girls supporting girls" is totally contradicted by the idea of them being hateful. While I have my skepticism about modern feminism, I wholeheartedly will defend their right to choose they want and ask that they do the same with me.

I have lots of thoughts and opinions, so if you'd like to ask more, feel free to DM me! I'm always down for a goodhearted debate or chat.

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“Young ladies,

You may never have considered this, but you can make a career out of being a housewife.

Find a good man and then love him, have his children, love and raise them, meal plan, shop & cook, keep a clean, tidy, pretty home, be hospitable.

It's a great life.”

if being married offends you, if choosing to have kids offends you, if choosing to be there for them instead of other alternatives to child care truly offends you, then sorry I guess you'll have to stay offended. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Moms will keep being moms if they choose to, and wives will keep being wives if they also choose to.

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Noooooo don't indoctrinate your own children into your family's system of beliefs and values you have to let us indoctrinate them into the state's system of beliefs and values that includes rejecting their family and parents' instruction you are literally evil for wanting to raise your own children in your own home without letting us undermine you nooooo

Traditional femininity is empowering. There is strength in being soft, beauty in being kind, and peace in being soft spoken and humble.

Feminine women add to the world by building up a sense of community and fostering safe and comfortable homes in those communities.

It’s not humiliating to be a traditionally feminine woman.

Why I love being a traditional wife

I get to decorate our house the way I want to(my husband has left that to me in its entirety+it helps we have similar aesthetic tastes)

I don't have to bicker and nag him about doing the chores in an "imperfect" way

I can create my own schedule and switch around chores, hobbies and rest

I can volunteer and learn new things in a more relaxed manner than I would if I had a day job

I can put more effort into my appearance and demeanor and inculcate a sweet attitude as most of my worries are quite minor

I can give my husband an organised lifestyle and more detailed care and affection

I can host dinner parties or entertain family or friends on his behalf and help him maintain good societal relations

I can care for his family members when he's not around so he doesn't have to worry about them as well as they don't feel neglected by their son

local Oklahoma resident visits Colorado and is shocked and appalled to see that the land goes up sometimes.

She fixes her home, instead of her man.

She gives thanks, instead of orders.

She uses her voice for kindness, instead of evil.

She makes a warm dinner, instead of trouble.

She puts up flowers, instead of her guard.

She opens her heart, instead of an act.

"When a culture of Ladies arises, a culture of Gentleman will follow."

~ Jason Everl