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ADHD Meditation

As some of you may know, the path I am on has, of late, been tending towards the druidic, and druidic paths, being shamanistic, involve, for lack of a better term, a heck of a lot of meditation. As some of you may also know, I also happen to have combined Inattentive-Hyperactive type adult ADHD, which makes meditation really hard. So I thought I’d write a little primer of meditation techniques that I use. Whether you have ADHD or just can’t get the hang of meditating, I hope these techniques are useful to you! Meditation: The ADHD Nightmare

The point of meditating is to – well, to be meditating. When you do it right you reach a “meditative state” (duh), and my understanding is that something wack happens to your brainwaves when this occurs. I don’t know, I’m a writer, not a neuroscientist. Either way, a “meditative state” is a real thing with real effects on your mind and wellbeing. 

There are a couple of different ideas of how to get there. “It’s clearing your mind!” people will shout. “You should be sitting there without a thought in your head!” Other people retort, “No! It’s not clearing your mind, it’s sitting and observing everything around you as an impassive observer!” Then yet others say, “No! You observe your breathing and body in order to become one with it!” Like – look, there are tons and tons of different kinds of meditation. And yeah, these are legitimate techniques used by different spiritual traditions. They also have the drawback of being boring. Like, rip-your-brain-out-through-your-nose-and-stomp-on-it, oh-my-god-please-let-me-do-something BORING. Of course not everyone’s going to agree with me, and I am willing to admit that these techniques are valuable and useful to certain people. In fact, once you’re used to meditating, you can transition into some of these meditations – I’ve done a few of them and they are quite pleasant.

But if you’re like me and not having any stimulation makes you want to creep out of your skin backwards, but you just really, really want to meditate – well, here’s a couple tips. Walking Meditation

This was the first meditation I ever did, because sitting meditations made me want to die. I personally use a walking stick because it helps emphasize the rhythm of your stride, but you can do it without one, too. Most Zen walking meditations recommend you pace back and forth along a smooth, straight path. And while the Zen Buddhists are probably much better at this sort of thing than I am, I find that technique to be brain-rippingly boring (not to mention impractical in my present living situation) and I do mine in outdoor open spaces, such as winding nature trails or along lakeshores. The only thing I’d recommend is that you don’t do it anywhere too strenuous – you want to be focused on the meditation, not on avoiding falling off a mountainside. Here’s what you do – start walking. The trick here is the rhythm of your stride. Rather than just letting your brain do whatever the fuck it wants, count your steps like they’re a musical bar (one-two, one-two, one-two, or maybe left-right left-right), focusing on the sensation of the ground beneath your feet with each step. Whenever your mind starts to drift, which it definitely will, just guide it gently back to your rhythm – one-two, one-two. Don’t go hitting errant thoughts with a mallet – just redirect them, like sheep broken off from the flock, to the count. If you find you’ve lost pace (you’re saying “left” when your right foot goes down), stop, take a deep breath, and start again.  My favorite way to do this meditation is with a walking staff, one, because it makes me feel like Gandalf, and two, because it goes down with my right foot (on two, every time) and helps me clearly delineate one “bar” from the next. The vibration of the staff also gives you something else to focus on rather than the soles of your feet – I tend to wear heavy hiking boots on my walks, and the sensation of the staff hitting the ground actually gives me more of a sense of being grounded than my feet do. Just do whatever works for you.

“Good For You, But I Wanna Sit”

But what if you can’t do a walking meditation? That’s fine, there’s tons of reasons why it might be unfeasible for you, from space concerns to ability concerns to even stuff as simple as “yo, it’s blizzarding”. That’s cool – I have some tips for “regular” meditation too! Just know this: You’re not going to be able to “quiet your thoughts”. Hell, if your brain works like mine you’re not even going to be able to “impassively observe”. You won’t be able to focus on your breathing without wanting to scream (”Ok, we’re alive,” says brain, “Cool, still alive, got it. All right, breathing is a thing we are constantly doing, who cares let’s GO.”) All of these tips involve a focus of some kind – something to bring your brain back to where it needs to be in order to get to that meditative state. Looking Meditations

I do this one with a candleflame because fire is sick as hell and also interesting to watch. You could probably also do it with fish or something, or really anything you would be cool with staring at for minutes on end. This is the same basic principle as the walking meditation, except here, you’re sitting quietly – it doesn’t have to be in a lotus position if you don’t want. I’ve meditated sitting in an office chair, kneeling on the ground, sitting criss-cross applesauce, and lying down. Whatever is most feasible and comfortable. In the walking meditation the Focus was your stride. In this case the Focus is whatever you’re looking at. Rather than bringing your thoughts back to the rhythm of your steps like we did in the walking meditation, you’re herding your errant brainwaves towards the visual focus. 

Here, as in many still meditations, you’re going to want to control your breathing as well. Personally, making breathing my focus is a losing proposition, but you’ll meditate more easily if you’re breathing slowly and deeply.  Mantras “I don’t like looking at stuff,” you might say. “I am literally blind,” you might also say. Cool! So find a mantra! (This term might be appropriative in some way but I can’t find a good substitute – let me know if someone knows one). This could be a saying, or a phrase, or even a prayer. Whatever it is, I find it most useful if the mantra actually has some symbolic meat to it – not just “rubber baby buggy bumpers” but something that you’d be able to write a short paragraph about, at least. I personally use Welsh triads (because druid). Once you have your mantra, repeat it, aloud or in your head. Forever. (Or as long as it takes you to start meditating).  Again, breathing is really important here, as in all sitting meditations. Try to breathe slowly and deeply. I frequently find my breathing will begin to match up with the ebb and flow of the mantra, and that’s fine. Just keep that oxygen flow going in a steady rhythm (you don’t have to track the rhythm– that’s an entirely different meditative technique!) You might notice something weird will start to happen after a bunch of repetitions. At first this might take a longass time, but it gets shorter the more you practice. You’re thinking about the phrase without really thinking about it – it starts to take on depths and dimensions that you never would have seen just thinking about it – congrats, you’re meditating! (In fact – you’re meditating on the mantra – in case you had no idea how to do that, here you go!) Do this as long as you feel like it and then return awareness to your room. Don’t just hop right up – sometimes meditation fucks with your coordination for some reason – give yourself a few seconds and then go make yourself some tea. You’ve earned it. Next Steps

In shamanistic practice, achieving a meditative state is often a jumping-off point for journeying or intense visualization. Meditation can be used in concert with these, or it can stand on its own as a daily or weekly practice. Don’t get discouraged if you don’t “get” it the first time! The thing to remember is not to force it – meditation is born of relaxation, and forcing it will only hinder you.  Once your brain is trained to enter the meditative state more easily, you might find it comparatively simple to transition into more traditional Zen meditations (”CLEAR UR MIND!!”). The trick is practice!  Happy meditating!

IDEAS FOR “DO IT YOURSELF SELF-CARE KIT“

Self-care is so imprtant. You might want to consider putting some of these items in your self-care kit (or add to your existing one).

First get a container.

___  A list of reasons you love yourself

___  An “I love you” picture to look at

___  Blank papers to write yourself a love letter, to draw, doodle, etc

___  Bottle of water

___  Bubbles

___  Calming stones

___  Chocolate

___  Colorful pencils

___  Coloring book

___  Compress

___  Crayons

___  Deck of cards

___  Earbuds

___  Earplugs

___  Essential oils to put behind your ear (lavender, etc)

___  Face cream

___  Funny comics

___  Fuzzy socks

___  Glue

___  Gratitude list

___  Hand cream

___  Healthy snacks

___  Important phone numbers

___  Index cards

___  Joke book

___  Kind messages you have received

___  Knit, sew, crochet

___  Lego

___  Lip balm

___  List of best friends

___  List of funny comedies to watch

___  List of [good] things you did

___  List of happy things

___  List of ideas that help you stay strong

___  List of reasons to laugh

___  List of reasons you love to be alive

___  List of tips to de-stress

___  List of things that activate your 5 senses

___  List of things you would enjoy doing

___  List of your big dreams

___  List of your strengths

___  Lotion

___  Magazine

___  Markers

___  Medicines

___  Nail polish

___  Nice smelling soap, or candle in a safe container

___  Notebook

___  Pens and pencils

___  Pictures of happy memories

___  Pictures of loved ones

___  Pictures of things you love

___  Positive, inspirational, and good vibes only quotes

___  Protein bar

___  Puzzle

___  Radiant Monkey mood tracker app (mood diary for phones)

___  Rubber bands

___  Self-care Journal

(suggestion: this one is very good, by Rachelle Abellar, $30.00 available on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1312786051?ie=UTF8&tag=bustle2443-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=1312786051)

___  Silly games

___  Silly putty or play dough

___  Sleep mask

___  Small mirror (to smile at yourself)

___  Small stuffed animal

___  Sparkling glue

___  Stickers

___  Stress ball

___  Tea

___  The Little Book of Mindfulness

(suggestion: by Dr. Patrizia Collard, $6.00 available on Amazon https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1856753530?ie=UTF8&tag=bustle2443-20&camp=1789&linkCode=xm2&creativeASIN=1856753530)

___  Tissues

___  Vitamins, supplements

___  Warming pillow for neck and shoulders

___  Word game

___  Your favorite book

___  Your favorite children’s book

___  Your favorite candy

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You’re doing great

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You are strong and I believe in you

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