Dear Autistics Who

we did NOT have a period of discourse about how 'if trans women don't pass as women, but they do pass as men, they don't pass as men - they pass as 'queer' or 'other'' for yous to fucking go 'if trans men don't pass as men, which they're privileged for if they do, then they pass 100% as cis women, which they're privileged for when they do'

like SHUT UPPPPPPP I DID NOT PASS AS A CIS WOMAN EVERYONE THOUGHT I WAS A DYKE/TRANNY/QUEER. I NEVER PASSED AS 'WOMAN' I PASSED AS 'FREAK OF NATURE'. I WAS BARELY TREATED LIKE A HUMAN BEING LET ALONE A WOMAN

-siiiiiiiiiiiiiiigh-

you people are so demonically fucking evil. really cool; i'm sure it reinforces nothing that you think that being afab allows you to be a better woman than a trans woman. thanks for examining why you think transfems can't fit the bar of femininity you're establishing by virtue of nothing more than you not being amab. really cool. hey what's up with the nazi comparison at the very end

A lot of terfism and branches or extreme/radical feminism really has just reinvented bioessentialism.

There's a lot of Men inherently bad and evil gender!! Women victims! Mentality going on lately and I don't like it.

Every post about intrusive thoughts needs at least 10 people per day to reblog it derailing and saying "it's ok to have intrusive thoughts so long as they're not about violence or sexual acts but instead perhaps a witch trying to solve the disappearance of her neighbour's cat in a small village in the Alps..."

Okay, this is a very nuanced thing to say and I want people to understand that. But it is actually a fairly common afab experience to hate your breasts when you’re growing up, even for cis women. It can be hard to distinguish dysphoria from the upsetting experiences afab kids have during puberty. Growing breasts can be really upsetting, because now you have to change how you dress, people will look at you, and for too many people you will now be seen as a sexual object and that’s terrifying. It’s extremely common for kids who “develop early” or happen to grow larger than their peers to experience sexual harassment from adults, even though they are children. And this trauma or bad experiences becomes emotionally tied to the breasts. I know a lot of people who binded and thought they were trans/nonbinary and ended up as cis women. But I also know people who were out as trans and nonbinary in high school and still are! A lot of trans men, trans mascs, nonbinary people, and cis women can relate to the experience of having really deep discomfort surrounding their chest, but at the core the reason for their discomfort is different. Gender dysphoria vs body dysmorphia, those two are very similar and can be hard to distinguish, let alone when someone experiences both of them.

Does a trans woman who transitions and goes completely stealth, like SRS, voice training, cis-passing, updated legal docs, etc. become tme? If she can be inspected nude and people would assume she was cis then would transmisogyny even be able to be applied to her? Genuine question.

that used to be like the way trans women were expected to live and the risk of being exposed as transfem still hung over them so like. yes.