I Welcome ALL The ABUNDANCE Coming My Way✨

Hiii!! I’m not sure if you’re taking any questions buuuttt i shall ask one anyway and hope you answer hehe <3

- so there’s this guys who’s asked me out on a couple dates (two to be exact) both dates were set but canceled; first by him and second by me due to some important things. He said he hates canceling plans and that he’s a man of his word. I’m the same! Sooo sidenote he did CALL me to ask me out BUT the thing I’m struggling with is.. he will ask me out with no hesitation but RARLEY ever texts me. He only seems to text me when he sees me because we work in the same company. I’m not really sure what the question I’m trying to ask is but could you help me understand if I’m being played or if he just wants me for sex? I’m having trouble understanding where exactly he’s at and I feel like it’s WAY to early to ask that because we don’t know eachother that we’ll but we’ve had some pretty good conversations in person and maybe a few over text. Also I’ve notice if we set a date he won’t text me until the day of! I’ve been in numerous unhealthy and toxic relationships and have been used so many times that I’m struggling with reading people atm and I’m scared I’m going to go through all that again.

Ps: he’s 10 years older than me and I’m soooo sorry this is long and might be confusing ASF <3

I do have a lot of questions coming in that i haven’t answered. I have been busy traveling. 

It seems like you haven’t understood your own value yet.  

1.) Why are you interested in this man? for regular dating leading to something serious and real love? or  hypergamy? or SD? 

Figure out why you want this man.

2.) What type of man do you want in your life (considering what you have gone through) 

Make a list. The attributes you want in a man. The way you want him to treat you, the way you want to man to feel about you, the way you want the man to court you  etc... MAKE A LIST 

(Does this current man even make you remotely feel that way?) ... I know you aren’t dating yet... But a man’s interest is usually clear. A man’s courtship is usually clear as well; when he is truly interested in pursuing you (for whatever reason...)

From what am gathering... you are out sight ... out of mind to this man. (Meaning, he isn’t really thinking about you...) ... He has the attitude of (if i get her putting minimum effort possible... i get her... If I don’t then hey, at least there was no effort.... MEANING : He could take it or leave it attitude).

Meaning, If another woman, he kindles his interest more comes along... you are BYE-BYE   (People appreciate more what they invest effort into)

Do you really want a man who puts the least amount of bare minimum in the beginning stages? Can you imagine if you start the relationship... what he will be like, after he gets more comfortable (cause relationships, do cool down to a norm eventually). So if he is like this now... the potential of what he could become later sounds like another additional heart break for you. 

3.) You know the answer to your own question; If this man only texts you when he sees you. 

 One of my favorite quote is  “They say a lot... so i watch what they do”  Men say a lot because they understand that women are gotten through words... So they say a lot.... He say’s he is a man of his word... that doesn’t mean anything to you.  (Even if he is) that doesn’t spell his interest in you. it just means if he says he will be there at 8, then he will be there.... This is his general personality to people.... What you are trying to decipher is his interest in you.  So being a man of his word.... doesn’t mean anything at this point. 

A man’s action is his true feelings... take words with a grain of salt... WATCH ACTIONS...

What i am saying.... Is this man doesn’t have a skin in the game

secondly, he isn’t that interested (It could be that his interest will increase once you guys make it to a date)... But personally, I like men who even before dates pursue me and lead with their interest (I am spoilt that way... because I don’t require anything less... I won’t even engage with anything less...) 

You don’t have to do that... BUT the problem is really not this man. He is the way he is... its up to you to determine if that works for you or if it doesn’t

The problem is YOU...

Clearly, you aren’t happy with his laissez faire interest in you.

The less than bare minimum effort etc.

So, why continue to entertain and inject hope there?  You have a case of FOMO 

What if I don’t give him a chance and he ends up being this wonderful man that i end up missing?

(What if he is only this way because he doesn’t know me yet and we’ve not been on a date yet)

The what ifs are legitimate question about not writing people off... 

BUT........HAS THAT WORKED FOR YOU BEFORE?

(Yes, he could be a wonderful man... but he could also be a nightmare)

(Yes, he could be a wonderful man to another woman... that doesn’t mean he will be for you)

There are other women that man puts more effort into (because he is more interested). 

Men’s action towards a woman, is usually on where they place you on their scale.  (There could be a woman that man will send 20 messages a day to) Even from the first day....

KNOW THIS - Every man has a scale... consciously of subconsciously... it exists

My sponsor says “There are women. you wouldn’t dare spend more than 3k on, there are women, you wouldn’t even insult by offering 35k... And then there are women who anything less than a blackcard is an insult to himself and to her

Meaning : The level of a man’s interested is shown (yes the interest can grow, yes it can also start out an diminish)... The question is... ARE YOU HAPPY WITH WHERE IT IS STARTING AT?  WILL YOU STAY IF IT DIMINISHES?

If a man’s interest starts out high and on it way starts to diminishes... I LEAVE

If i a man’s interest start’s out low and grows(I slowly match it.)... 

Example : Lets say A man’s interest starts at 50%

                 I keep my interest in him at 10 %

If it grows to 100% 

I increase mine to 20%

If it grows beyond 100% 

I increase accordingly

And if his interest stays consistently high and above... 

I match accordingly

ON THE REVERSE

Now if his interest decreases to 50%

I also scale back to 10% 

It it falls less than 50%... 

I leave (There a reason why, I don’t let it go less than 50%)

Again, you don’t have to do what i do (like I always warn people... you lose a lot of people going my way) And it can be hard... 

But in my personal experience (It only keeps quality over quantity). 

He is not playing you.... You are playing yourself by not really knowing your value or being honest with yourself and sticking your ground on how you want to be treated.

So figure that out... 

#sugardating #sugardatingadvice #sugardatingtips #sugarbowl #hypergamy #datingadvice #sugarbowltips 

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Sugar Baby Guide w/ 200+ tips!

So I recently ran into a sugar “master post” on here but noticed a lot of the links were broken. Since there are so many aspiring sugar babies with a ton of questions I thought I’d make a new one! Here it is: a very long compilation of my favorite tips and tricks from sugar babies all over tumblr. Enjoy! Xoxo

Safety

Deleting yourself from the internet

Sending pictures via google voice texting 

Square cash warning 

Amazon gifts safety

COP or POT?

Tips to remaining safe as a sugar baby

Phone safety

What information should you give your SD?

Verify him

Safety links for sugar babies

All about screening

How SD’s can track where you live

The Miranda warning

Internet safety tips

Receiving packages

Staying safe as a sugar baby

Sugar baby safety 

Sugar baby safety tip

Sugar baby safety & catfishing

Free background check website

Is he the real deal?

Tricking him to keep your privacy

Keeping your privacy

Very important hoe safety tip

Free-styling

Free-stying guide

Eye-contact

Turning vanilla to sugar

How to approach men while free styling

Free-styling and where to meet sugar daddies

Where to freestyle

All about free-styling

Free-styling and how to trigger a mans generosity from the start

Free-styling tips

Top three places to freestyle

Free-styling & staff

What NOT to ask him

Meeting SD’s online

Craigslist title tip

Ashley Madison

Sugar dating and craigslist

List of sugar dating sites

Sugaring using tinder

Tindering tip

How to tinder

Craigslist masterpost

Craigslist sugar

Writing/writing back to messages

The perfect message

How to message men on sugar sites

Sugaring: Tinder and OkCupid

Perfecting your message

More messaging advice

Sugar sites to check out

Weeding through messages on sugar sites

Allowance, financials, and budgeting

How to get the allowance you want

How to ask your sugar daddy for an allowance

Allowance or pay per meet?

All about money

Cash/gifts on a POT date

What form should I take my allowance in?

How to make real money

Sugar baby banking tips

Spending your sugar money

Asking for money on a POT date

Getting him to buy you something

Financial advice

Drain his bank account

When he says he doesn’t feel comfortable with allowance…

Saving money

How much can he really pay you?

Budgeting tips for sugar babes

Tips on spending your sugar money

Allowance and AmEx cards

Let’s talk budgeting

5 questions to ask before agreeing to allowance offer

What to say to get the allowance you want

Sugar banking

Allowance and bank laws

Random cash tips

He pays for what he wants

Investing 101

Allowance negotiation tactics

The art of sugar dating

How to handle a first date with a POT

What NOT to talk about on a POT date

Organizing your POTs

How to: manipulate the conversation 

How to create a positive impression

6 ways to make your sugar date the best date he’s ever had

What the hell am I going to talk to him about?!

50 unusual date ideas

Checklist the night before your date

What you need to do before your POT date

Your first POT date

Dining etiquette

Dining etiquette pt. 2

How to fake confidence

Conversation tips

Confidence

Classy conversation topics

First date conversations with your SD

What to bring in your purse on a sugar date

Bullshit to spit on dates

Things to know about wine

First date advice

How to handle a first date

100 “non allowance” questions to ask a POT on a date

How cheat your way through small talk

Conversation topics

Developing your personality

The psychology of persuasion

Seduction, manipulation & negotiation

Remember: You are an actress/actor

The art of seduction

Strategies to try on your SD

Sugar negotiation

Bullshitting 101

Make him take you seriously

How to make him want to say yes

Body language 

Master guide: Body language linguistics 

Manipulation tips

How to manipulate people into liking you more

Sugar manipulation

How to keep wealthy men coming back to you to give you more

Emotion, seduction and manipulation

Marketing yourself

How to attract a man

Perks of sugaring - power

Being your SD’s fantasy

Manipulation success

The girlfriend experience

Keeping your SD

Treat your SD right… Or someone else will

Keeping him hooked

Don’t become familiar or ordinary

Become his fantasy

Don’t forget the details

Keeping your sugar daddy

 Bedroom tips

Treating your SD right

How to keep an SD interested

Showcase yourself to yourself to your SD

Blowjob tips (for uncircumcised penises as well)

Blowjob tips

Appearance

How to make yourself more attractive

Fashion tips and dress codes

How to dress “sugar”

Hoe products

Fuck-proof makeup list

How to be a kept woman

Looking elegant

Sex prep

Lingerie masterpost

20 beauty tips

Charming cash out of your sugar daddy

Vaginal hygiene 

Invest in yourself

Sugar tote essentials

Contouring cheat sheet

A hoes guide to body care

Sugar baby check list

Platonic Sugar

A tip for aspiring sugar babes

Being a platonic SB

Being a pure sugar baby

Sugar Travel

Traveling with your SD

Travel etiquette for sugar babies

Sugar baby travel tip

Traveling sugar

General tips/info on sugaring

The rules of sugaring

Sugar baby manifesto

Sugar baby academy

How to find a sugar daddy in 6 simple steps

This lifestyle isn’t for everyone

The secrets to being a successful sugar baby

Random sugar baby tip

Great sugar tip

“Thing’s I’ve learned from living with sugar babies”

25 tips to make you better sugar

Being a successful sugar baby

10 golden rules of sugar dating

General sugar baby tips

Sugar baby general guide

Apps every sugar baby needs

Sugar baby mentality

Sugar baby survival tips

Sugar baby wisdom

Sugar baby resources

What being a SB is all about

6 common sugar baby mistakes

Remain calm, cool and collected

Things you need to remember when you start sugaring:

What SB’s often forget

You are not asking for too much!

Beginning advice for newbies

Tips for new sugar babies

Always have a plan B

Tip to new sugars

So you want to be a sugar baby…

What would you tell your newbie SB self if you could go back?

5 newbie mistakes and how to avoid them

Patience

Remember this when you become a sugar baby

4 things every aspiring SB should know

“How do I become a sugar baby?”

How to stand out as a sugar baby

“Learn from my sugar mistakes”

“When is right to start sugaring?”

Tips from a successful sugar baby

6 tips for aspiring SBs

All about him

How to know if he’s the right sponsor

Sugar daddy check list 

Don’t believe what he says

How to get him to raise your allowance

POTs

Filtering the POTs

How to spot a fake POT

Things POT’s say when they’re trying not to pay

Distinguishing sugar from salt

10 questions to ask a POT before a relationship

Figuring out if they’re salt without going on a date

“What should I say?” And personality

Don’t be mundane and predictable

When he asks “What are you willing to do sexually?”

When he complains about paying you

When he asks if you’ve had an arrangement before 

Communicating your standards

How to say “no” to your SD

How to insist on a condom

What to say when he asks “What are you looking for?”

When he says “I’ll pay you later”

Your sugar profile

Writing tips

Make your profile work for you

Face shot or no face shot? 

Random tips/things/misc.

P.O. boxes and why you should have one

“Advice I received from a whale SD”

Long distance sugar

How to be a boss ass bitch

Why love is poison for a heartless gold-digger and a guide to the antidote

How to organize your hustle 

Sugaring from scratch

“Sex is sex, but money is money”

Mandatory sugar tool

No luck finding a sugar daddy?

The official sex worker reading list

Getting your sugar daddy back

Sugar baby texting

Suggested sugar reading list

I went from wanting to be married, pregnant, and with a mortgage by the age of 30 to wanting to be a business woman with 2 fully paid houses and $1 million in liquid by the time I’m 30. Fuck the idea that women have to live the suburban dream and have a timer to do so.

Society does not like the idea of a spoiled black woman, much less a spoiled black dark skinned woman

Dating a broke man is stupid, marrying a broke man is even dumber and having children with a broke man is child abuse.

Sooo I decided to quit online sugaring apps. There full of salty guys. I’ve listen to all my og sugar babies and decided that’s a waste of time. So now I will be focusing on perfecting the art of freestyling.

What’s the Game Plan?

Disclaimer: This is purely for me, do not come on here with any judgement about how I’m choosing to conduct business. If you see anything here that might be helpful to you, then by all means, implement it. If not, move on.

Escorting Persona

Changing (Back) My Wardrobe

I’m going back to dressing how I normally did when I was freestyling and just in my regular life for events and such. Dressing how I originally did. Time to bring out the Victoria Beckham, Cushnie et Ochs, Brandon Maxwell, Milly, Roksanda, Stella McCartney, and Jason Wu pieces that have been just sitting in my closet. I’m also going to hold back on certain shoes because they look so trashy now.

New Photos & Photography Styles

Black Lotus — For sultry images. Will be doing in the next 2 months with very dark and classic pieces.

AT Glamour London — For glossy and polished photos. He’s lovely to work with and I can’t wait to collaborate with him again. I can’t use the past photos he shot of me (even though they’re sooo amazing) for privacy reasons. I’ll be doing so when next in London in the next couple of months.

Hello Miss - For the really light and vibrant style. I’ve sort of just missed his Canadian tour since I was away. He’s still available for another week, but our schedules are conflicting, it’ll have to be if he’s back next year (unless I tour Australia early next year).

Inamorata Photo - For the pov aesthetic. Specifically “The Date” package. I’m thinking February 2020 since I’ll definitely be in NYC.

Strategic Engagement

I currently try to follow all SW’s that follow me, however I really can’t relate to some of the content on my timeline. I feel like it comes across as rude to not follow back a SW that follows you, and I feel almost guilted into following back girls that are new and have no following. I genuinely would love to RT and support everyone, but some of the content does not match up with my intended branding and I’m 1) not trying to get shadowbanned for RTing nudity/profanity/pretty much anything that goes again twitter guidelines and 2) the content is not something that MY targeted audience would appreciate or interact with. Yes, this totally sounds like a whorearchy thing, and maybe it is. I feel like no one is willing to admit it, but I simply can’t relate to a lot of the people on the platform. As terrible as it sounds, I have to stop interacting indiscriminately. Perhaps I should start utilizing the mute button.

Advertising

I still have to figure this one out since I’m not a fan of advertising. I made a lot last year and I basically never advertised. A good chunk of my income this year has come from monthly “arrangements”, my regular clients that I met last year from not-advertising, and touring Asia & Europe. I’m thinking I’d like to start advertising in the US as a large percentage of my North American clients are from the US and far outweigh my clients from Canada. However, the well known sites are not an option for me considering there are raids with Eros and I’m not interested in providing my ID to multiple sites. Tryst works locally and in Asia, but it’s otherwise useless elsewhere. Slixa is a waste of time and gets almost no traffic, plus they’re very discriminatory (that’s a conversation for another day). I really like Scarlet Blue for when I’m touring Asia & Europe. I got the required vouches for P411 but I’m not sure if I want to give up my ID to use it; I’ve heard varying feedback and opinions from providers, some love it and others absolutely loathe it. I also can’t guarantee that they won’t have the same issue as Eros or TER. At this point, Twitter might be my best bet which brings me back to my dilemma of hating social media. However, I’ll try my best to push out content and build a following.

Escorting and Social Climbing

Touring Internationally For Events

This is general advice and can be implemented by anyone. It’s tried and true, I did this. This, by far, has been the most lucrative aspect of this industry. It’s extremely tiring both physically and psychologically, but last year I toured for 2 months, took a two month break, then toured for another 4 months; I was basically a shell of myself by the end, but I made a tremendous amount of money and made great connections for personal life and work life. I did a similar thing this year, but the longest I’ve gone is a month and a half straight without a break, and I think for my own sanity I’ll try not to over exert myself going forward. I’ll probably make a separate post about touring.

One thing to keep in mind, touring is VERY expensive. Not only are you paying (or getting someone else to pay) for flights and accommodations, but you’re also paying to get into these events. There are expenses attached to going out to meet people. You can’t just go and stay in your hotel room all day. The only reason I can justify spending what I spend is because I almost always make back 4x what I spent, typically more.

Touring somewhere specific two or three times, possibly more, is a good idea. Once when there’s a known event or influx, and another time when it’s devoid of travellers or event-goers. I’ll give examples of what I did last year and this year. For Singapore, go during April for the Yacht Show, in September for the Grand Prix, and then also going in June/July and November when there is essentially nothing going on aside from locals, expats and business travellers.

Try to diversify where you go and coordinate the events so you can constantly tour for prolonged periods of time. If you’re crazy like me, you can try this and I guarantee you’ll make an absolute killing. In fact, this is pretty much all I’ve done this year and I’m making good money. Expect to be away for 2-3 weeks. Go to Hong Kong end of March for Art Basel, head to Singapore afterwards for Yacht Show. You can go back home at this point to rest and gather yourself and prepare for the next phase. Expect to be away for 4-10 weeks. Head to Cannes/Monaco for the Film Festival and Grand Prix. Head to Paris straight afterward for the French Open. Take a one week break then head to Switzerland for Art Basel. Take a 2 or 3 day break then head to London for Royal Ascot and overall heauxing in the city. Take another one week break then head to Paris for HCFW. Leave on the last day and head back to London for Wimbledon. By the end, that will have been about 8-9 weeks. You can vacation or just go home at this point. I came home after Wimbledon this year and didn’t work for the rest of July or August. Basically, this has proven to work since I’ve don’t it twice so I’m thinking I’ll be implementing it again for next year and possibly the year after if I’m still in the industry.

More After I Exit

Attending Events For Personal Reasons

TED is something I’ve been going to for fun and because I personally enjoy it. It’s mostly dominated by men and they’re everywhere. A lot of people within tech and other industries. I’ve met a few “clients”, who don’t know they’re clients through attending. It’s somewhat of a mistress or part-time girlfriend situation with them. I want to start attending more conferences and events of this nature. I’m going to look into doing anything having to do with the non-profits, NGO’s, and charities. I’ll have to find a way to attend more galas and invite-only fundraisers. This is, however, more for social climbing for personal and business relationships.

Praying that $1500 randomly comes to you when you need it the most this year.

800 dollars later. He didn’t even fuck me in the ass this time. His dick couldn’t stay hard so he literally was eating my pussy out and sucking on my tits. Oh by the way this was just only for a hour. So basically he paid me 1k double my rate. I love a broken dick haha. Hopefully he books me for a overnight like he says. Also now I can pay for better ads and a photoshoot session

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