Part 2: How To Hunt.

Part 2: How to hunt.

First, I go to the ladies’ room. This gives me the chance to scope out the men at the bar/lounge as I walk by. It will also give you a chance to collect yourself if you’re nervous. If you can (depending on the building’s layout) take the long way back. This will give you more time to look at any potential men and pick out a place to sit. Try to sit in the “middle” of empty seats. Ideally, you’ll want an empty seat to both your left and your right (so men can come and sit next to you).

As you’re making your way to the bar (and to your chair) if you’ve already spotted a man that seems like he’s potential (and he’s at the bar). WALK PASS HIM AND SMILE SOFTLY AT HIM. He will watch you until you sit down at your seat so do this slowly (and practice at home if you have to). Once you’ve sat down look at him once again IN HIS EYES FOR 1-2 seconds and smile. 8 times out of 10 he will walk over to you (if he doesn’t I’ll explain what to do in the upcoming paragraphs).

If you haven’t spotted anyone that has any potential yet, that’s fine. Have a seat and order your drink. While you’re waiting for your drink, take a look around. You want to make sure you’ve chosen a good “viewing” spot; somewhere you can see people and people can see you. Do not take your phone out and start tapping away. It’s okay to glance at it every now and then but remember: you’re there so men can talk to you. Gluing your face to the screen not only screams “DON’T TALK TO ME” but you may also miss out on POTS because you can’t see the men coming and going.

So let’s say that you’re sitting alone at the bar and men are coming in and you see someone that has potential (or it was the guy that you were looking at earlier but he hasn’t made his move yet). Look at him for 2 seconds. And if you’re a bit bolder, look at him strait in his eyes for ONE SECOND then slowly look him down AND back up until you reach his eyes again and then turn back around, look straight ahead and take a sip of your drink. Now, depending on how bold he is he’s going to either:

a). walk up to you and introduce himself,

b). he’s going to move closer to you or,

c). he’s going to stare or start glancing at you a lot.

If it’s © take a few sips from your drink and then look back over at him. Wait a second or two until he’s looking at you (if he isn’t already) look him in his eyes and smile. This can be a sexy smile or a bubbly smile, whatever you’re natural at. Turn back around and wait. He’s making his way over now.

And if by chance he’s not, it’s his loss and you don’t want to be dating someone that so’s fucking clueless lol. But seriously, if by chance he’s doesn’t come over, don’t beat yourself up about it. He could be in a relationship. Or gay. Or just received some bad news. Or really insecure. It could be a number of things. Just gather yourself and get ready to do it again.

However, let’s say that you’ve snagged his attention (because 9 times out of 10 you did) and he’s made his way over to talk to you. What do you say? This will depend on the guy. Some guys love to talk and all you have to do really is nod and smile. But not everyone’s like that. If the guy doesn’t automatically start talking after introductions are out the way, I will break the ice by giving him a compliment. Men hardly ever get complimented and it instantly makes you more likable.

What to talk about? Most will ask the typical questions “What do you do, do you go to school,etc.” so it’s always good to have pre-planned answers for these. I also take the same question and throw it back at him.

The biggest takeaway here is that you don’t want to talk too much. Remember that the goal here is that you’re trying to access if this guy is POT material. Plus, if you don’t overshare it makes you look more mysterious. If the guy isn’t a natural talker, you’re going to want to ask open ended questions. Open ended questions are questions that someone can’t really say yes or no to, they have to give more of a detailed answer. There’s a book you can get on Amazon called “Conversationally Speaking” that covers this. I also wrote about this on one of my old blogs, if I can find the post, I’ll send you the link and also edit this post with the link.

Remember that you want to find out what he does for a living (that’s usually easily done by asking the standard “what do you do?” question) and you want to find out his interests and hobbies. I also think that finding out if he travels a lot is also a good indicator.

When he asks you a question, keep your answer simple and then REDIRECT and bring the conversation back to him. Even if you’re asking him the exact same question he asked you. You want him to do most of the talking.

So, let’s say that so far he’s looking like POT material and you want to keep the conversation flowing. A good way to do that is to pick one of his interests and start asking questions about it. And one of the best things you can say is “OH I’VE ALWAYS WANTED TO KNOW MORE ABOUT [INTEREST] BUT I’VE NEVER MET A MAN THAT COULD TELL ME MORE ABOUT IT”

And now your work is done because he’s going to talk for the next 30 mins. And all you have to do is nod, smile and laugh.

Okay, now let’s say that you want to wrap this up. He’s either boring you or you think he’s going to try and get you to come back to the room with him or maybe you’re just tired and you want to go. Or maybe you just want to leave and try another place. I’m not the type of person that can just jump up and tell someone “Oh I’ve gotta go!” But if you’re that type more power to you lol. Usually what I’ll do is excuse myself to the ladies’ room and I’ll either get a friend to text/call me in 10 mins or I’ll use an iPhone app to either send me a fake text message or a fake call in 10 minutes. Or I’ll just call Uber lol.

Which reminds me, whenever someone asks you what brings you to the bar/lounge/whatever ALWAYS TELL THEM YOU’RE MEETING A FRIEND. Or if you’re at a hotel, your friend is in the room and she’s taking forever and a day to get ready. For safety reasons I never like to tell someone (especially a man) that I’m somewhere by myself.

You also get to use the “friend” as an excuse for when you’re ready to go.

Don’t just get his cell phone number. The goal is to get the business card.

Sometimes I think it might be a tell when you ask for the card. Maybe that’s just me being paranoid or maybe I just look transparent when I’m asking. Who knows. But because of my uneasiness of asking for the card outright, I’ve done some odd things to get that card. If you’re more straightforward, good for you. But I’m not built like that so I do odd things lol.

Usually I’ll act like my phone is dead or updating the iOS. I’ve done this a few ways. When I’m ready to wrap things up and I know he’s going to ask for my number I have excused myself to the bathroom, turned my phone off and walked back to my seat and when it’s time for me to get his number I’ll start taping on my phone. “Oh crap, I think my phone is updating. Do you have a business card?”

I’ve taken 2 phones (with identical cases so no one will notice lol) and when I go to the bathroom, I’ll turn one of them off, put the other one in a hidden compartment in my purse) and then pull out the “dead” one. I know it may seem like I’m doing too much but I always feel like when I ask for the card directly I’ve just outed myself as a gold digger lol. But that’s just me.

FYI – If you want to do this trick and you only have one phone make sure your uber/lyft has called you before you do this lol.

This also works if he leaves first. While he’s getting my number (make sure he’s getting your number first), I will grab my phone and indiscreetly turn it towards me and turn it off. And “Omg, my phone just went off to do that update thing – do you have a business card?”

I have done some off the wall stuff to get that card.😆 But I can’t research “John who works at Wells Fargo” with a cell phone number that 10 other people have had before him. But I can research “John B. Smith - Assistant Director at Wells Fargo” with his work email address and phone numbers all over that card.

Okay, I think I covered free-styling at a bars/lounges- but I want to mention one more thing. Never leave your drink unattended. Safety first.

Keeping Regular Escort Clients

Keeping regular clients is one of the most important things you can do as an escort. When I was making $30000 a month as an escort before I retired, $25000 of that was from regular clients and $5000 was from random clients calling and booking an hour here or there. If I never had repeat escort clients and I always depended on seeing new clients, I would have never been able to scale back from seeing 5 clients a day to only 1 a day. Having regular clients who you can depend on seeing makes your job so much easier.

One of the easiest ways to turn a client from a one timer to a a regular client is by asking when you’re going to see them again. Tell them how much you enjoyed your time with them and let them know you’re dying to see them again. You’ll be surprised by how many clients actually ended up booking you again and again from just saying that. If I didn’t tell a client that (because I forgot) it was almost 50/50 on whether they would call me or not. If I told them something like

“Wow, I really loved our time together. When can we see each other again?”

They’d reply “Ummm, I’m not sure.. I’ll have to check”

“Of course, sorry I didn’t mean to put you on the spot… I just got a little excited! Would it be okay if I emailed you?”

If they agreed, I’d shoot them an email almost immediately from my blackberry saying how amazing they are and that I can’t wait for the next time. I’d keep in touch via email and it was almost 99% of them that I’d end up seeing again, and then again and again. Sure, it was aggressive on my part, but this is a business. If you can’t be a little pushy in order to get your foot in the door then you’re in the wrong business. There’s 1000s of escorts working in every city and if you offer a good service but can’t make the effort to keep in touch with clients then they will simply move on. But if you make that extra effort to keep in touch with them on a personal level it will extend your ROI on your advertising dollars.

It’s important to say though that if you’re disinterested in the conversation, in bed you’re lazy and unenthusiastic and then you try and keep in touch afterwards it’s not going to help you out. You need to make as strong of a connection with them as you can in your time together and then follow it up.

There are a lot of other ways to turn clients into regulars, but I think it’s just a lot of common sense. If someone books for an hour, stay for an hour and 15 minutes or an hour and a half. Don’t watch the clock. Be on time, every time. Make sure you’re always fresh. Cater to fantasies, wear school girl uniforms, bring handcuffs and a blindfold, remember your clients birthdays and special dates. All of this stuff builds up a relationship between you and your clients and the strong they feel your relationship with them is, the more likely they are to give you gifts, take you on trips, book you for 5 hours instead of 1 hour, etc.

The biggest problem you’re going to run into is your clients asking to see you off the clock. I would have two different responses to this.

One response was for clients whom I felt weren’t that wealthy and were looking for financial relief from our relationship.. I would simply tell them that I’m a very busy girl and I can’t afford to take time off the clock. I will clear my schedule for them any time because I prefer to spend time with them over any of my other clients, but I just can’t afford to make time for any man that’s off the clock cause I’m losing money twice. They usually get the idea.

My other response is if I feel they’re just looking for a deeper connection but they’re very wealthy. In that case I tell them I have the same types of feelings towards them and I’d like to see them off the clock as well, but I’d need to make sure that I’m being taken care of. If they agree I would ask them to take care of my monthly bills and let them know that you have other long time clients whom you cannot stop seeing, maybe at some point in the future but not now. So essentially if they’re willing to give me 5k a month, I’ll see them off the clock one or two times a week. I find this to be very mutually beneficial and if you can get 3-4 clients in this type of arrangement you’ll end up making a lot more than if you only stayed on the clock.

As I am writing this I am feeling that what I am saying involves a lot of deceit and cold heartedness and so I just want to take a moment to say that although it may come off that way, it was never my intention to be like that with any of my clients. Take for example your local corner store, if you go in there every day and buy a cup of coffee or whatever, and then one day you walk in and tell them you’re moving to the other side of town, they’re going to say “awww, that’s too bad – we’re going to miss you” They’re actually thinking shoot, we’re losing a regular customer. I know being an escort involves intimacy and so exchanging a hello and good bye on a daily basis with the owner of your local corner store is different then someone you’re having a sexual relationship with. However a business is a business, and a service provided is a service provided. You need to be able to care about your customers in an intimate way, but ultimately be able to take a step back and make decisions that are business orientated. I didn’t start escorting to fall in love with a client. I started escorting to make money and I never took my eyes off the goal.

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thinrichbich

2 years ago

I’m back

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thinrichbich

5 years ago

I’m tired of older sex workers discouraging younger sex workers. Like I’m trying to tour Newyork and La soon. It will be my first time going there. So I go in this sex worker group chat I’m in asking some hotel recommendations. Here comes this lady trying to talk down on me saying “You won’t do well in Newyork or I tried New York and I lost so much money when I toured.” Mind you I’m already nervous to your alone but the last thing I want to hear is me not doing well. So I quietly just remove myself from the group chat and go about my business. I’m not going to waste my energy going back and fourth with this lady. Just because you didn’t do well won’t mean I won’t do well. I don’t know is it because your age or persona that didn’t make the cut but I’m already getting inquiries and prebookings. I don’t know if it’s a jealousy thing or she just wanted to disturb my spirit.

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thinrichbich

6 years ago

Sooo I decided to quit online sugaring apps. There full of salty guys. I’ve listen to all my og sugar babies and decided that’s a waste of time. So now I will be focusing on perfecting the art of freestyling.

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thinrichbich

1 month ago

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thinrichbich

5 years ago

A tip for the ones who want to go somewhere but plans are up in the air or you don’t yet have the funds: Use Booking.com

Select your dates, your destination, and when searching for a hotel use the “Free Cancellation” and “No Prepayment Needed” filters. It’ll list the available hotels with this feature. That way you’ve secured your accommodations and can pay when you arrive at the property — or before if you’d prefer. The cancellations vary so if you must cancel, give as much notice as possible. Typically, you’d need to cancel at least 3-5 days before your arrival to avoid being penalized. Make sure you read the cancellation policy in full as it differs for most

I personally don’t use booking.com anymore, but I used to quite a bit when touring heavily and had to make last-minute changes. It was helpful and also let me plan in advance with the option to cancel

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thinrichbich

5 years ago

Another thing is that he screened so effortlessly but I get more trouble from older clients 40+ then the younger guys 😐

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thinrichbich

6 years ago

As someone that has grown up surrounded by beaches and done surf life saving, I know how the sea works. Lots of people dont. Every summer multiple tourists die here because they don’t respect the sea, if you’re going to the coast, here’s a thing I saw on Facebook.

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thinrichbich

4 years ago

Everyday, Black women and girls are missing and either never found or found dead.

Say HER name.

15 year old JOY LYNN. She is missing from Dallas, Texas. The police aren't doing anything, so please, if you suspect anything, found a clue, or whatever, come forward.

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thinrichbich

5 years ago

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