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Freestyling: An Addendum

I know that usually when we think of free-styling we think of going to a bar/lounge/etc, but I want to encourage not only the anon but everyone to expand your horizons and freestyle at more places other than just bars, lounges and hotel lobbies. Free-styling is really a lifestyle. You always want to look on point and have a “freestyle mentality” everywhere you go. And the best way to do that is to stay in the affluent/business/financial areas of your city as much as you can. 

Go grocery shopping there. Wash your car there. Get your Starbucks there. Do everything there. 

Personally, I like to freestyle in the mornings and afternoons. A guy can’t talk to me forever in the middle of the day, and I can say hello, make some small talk, get that business card and bounce.  

Yes, I like to pretend like my phone is updating in the middle of the day too lol.  

If you have to plan your freestyling days, then I would encourage you to set aside an entire day to freestyle. Don’t wait until at night. Start in the morning at the Starbucks or the gym. Make a quick trip to the bookstore (older men still go to the book store lol). Instead of visiting that restaurant/hotel lobby bar at night, visit it doing BUSINESS LUNCH HOURS.  

And always be on the lookout for events you can attend. If you can’t afford to attend, ask to volunteer, especially if it’s a charity event. They love volunteers. Plus you get to scope out ALL THE MEN.

And don’t think that the event has to be super expensive to be POT material either. Sometimes they can be those low-key “wine tasting” events they have at the botanical gardens/museums every spring and summer. The best way to find out if it’s POT material is to look at last years event. A lot of times not only will they show pictures but they’ll post the names of people that attended (especially in the society magazines). GOOGLE the men and see if you can find them and what they do for a living (I would recommend using LinkedIn to do this). 

Sometimes it can be a long shot, but other times you can find people (especially now that you know what they look like) and it can sometimes give you an idea of the kind of people that will be attending.  

If you’re having a difficult time finding events to attend, google “[your city] + society magazine”.  

I really hope I was helpful. I wish you all luck with your free-styling endeavors! Stay safe, let a friend/family member know where you’re going to be and remember: Rich men are everywhere. 

𝐀𝐟𝐟𝐢𝐫𝐦𝐚𝐭𝐢𝐨𝐧𝐬 𝐟𝐨𝐫 𝐭𝐡𝐞 𝐍𝐞𝐰 𝐘𝐞𝐚𝐫 ✨

- I am my top priority.

- I do not feel guilty when I reject offers that do not benefit me.

- I allow myself to live a life of luxury.

- I start every day from a place of gratitude because I recognize how blessed I am.

- I am selective with the friendships that I cultivate because I realize not everyone is supposed to have intimate access to me.

- I protect my time, because I know it’s nonrefundable.

- I protect my energy, because I know I cannot give what I don’t have.

- I allow others to do for me graciously.

- I allow myself experience beautiful things.

- I am working towards becoming my highest self every day.

- I am worthy of selfless love.

- I am worthy of good things.

- I am precious.

- I matter to the world.

- I am a lady of luxury.

best advice you’d give a girl?

Get your money. 

Write your book. 

TRAVEL!!!! 

Have kids in your 30s if you want them, see the World first. 

Make a vision board and put EVERYTHING you want to have and touch in this lifetime on it. 

Make an annual goal list and demolish that shit. 

Don’t take dating in your 20s seriously, 32 year old you might not fuck with the same partner energy and/or qualities as 24 year old you. 

Apply to jobs you don’t feel qualified for. 

Buy lots of sex toys. 

Take yourself on bomb ass dates.

Take your friend(s) on bomb ass dates, movie nights and spa days.

Do something once a year to get your heart racing.

Race a car!

Learn how to shoot a gun and then buy one. 

Invest in a lifestyle that encourages your impossible dreams. 

Get rid of friends that are not growing with you. 

Learn to say no and communicate with people to tell them you don’t fuck with them. 

Be selfish.

Live by yourself at least one year before you move in with a partner and/or get married. You will save yourself so many lessons by living alone first. 

Tell people when you don’t have an orgasm. 

Buy lots of shoes, art and plane tickets. 

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Why do people even wanna dox someone?

Just honestly mind your own pussy 😂

Hiii!! I’m not sure if you’re taking any questions buuuttt i shall ask one anyway and hope you answer hehe <3

- so there’s this guys who’s asked me out on a couple dates (two to be exact) both dates were set but canceled; first by him and second by me due to some important things. He said he hates canceling plans and that he’s a man of his word. I’m the same! Sooo sidenote he did CALL me to ask me out BUT the thing I’m struggling with is.. he will ask me out with no hesitation but RARLEY ever texts me. He only seems to text me when he sees me because we work in the same company. I’m not really sure what the question I’m trying to ask is but could you help me understand if I’m being played or if he just wants me for sex? I’m having trouble understanding where exactly he’s at and I feel like it’s WAY to early to ask that because we don’t know eachother that we’ll but we’ve had some pretty good conversations in person and maybe a few over text. Also I’ve notice if we set a date he won’t text me until the day of! I’ve been in numerous unhealthy and toxic relationships and have been used so many times that I’m struggling with reading people atm and I’m scared I’m going to go through all that again.

Ps: he’s 10 years older than me and I’m soooo sorry this is long and might be confusing ASF <3

I do have a lot of questions coming in that i haven’t answered. I have been busy traveling. 

It seems like you haven’t understood your own value yet.  

1.) Why are you interested in this man? for regular dating leading to something serious and real love? or  hypergamy? or SD? 

Figure out why you want this man.

2.) What type of man do you want in your life (considering what you have gone through) 

Make a list. The attributes you want in a man. The way you want him to treat you, the way you want to man to feel about you, the way you want the man to court you  etc... MAKE A LIST 

(Does this current man even make you remotely feel that way?) ... I know you aren’t dating yet... But a man’s interest is usually clear. A man’s courtship is usually clear as well; when he is truly interested in pursuing you (for whatever reason...)

From what am gathering... you are out sight ... out of mind to this man. (Meaning, he isn’t really thinking about you...) ... He has the attitude of (if i get her putting minimum effort possible... i get her... If I don’t then hey, at least there was no effort.... MEANING : He could take it or leave it attitude).

Meaning, If another woman, he kindles his interest more comes along... you are BYE-BYE   (People appreciate more what they invest effort into)

Do you really want a man who puts the least amount of bare minimum in the beginning stages? Can you imagine if you start the relationship... what he will be like, after he gets more comfortable (cause relationships, do cool down to a norm eventually). So if he is like this now... the potential of what he could become later sounds like another additional heart break for you. 

3.) You know the answer to your own question; If this man only texts you when he sees you. 

 One of my favorite quote is  “They say a lot... so i watch what they do”  Men say a lot because they understand that women are gotten through words... So they say a lot.... He say’s he is a man of his word... that doesn’t mean anything to you.  (Even if he is) that doesn’t spell his interest in you. it just means if he says he will be there at 8, then he will be there.... This is his general personality to people.... What you are trying to decipher is his interest in you.  So being a man of his word.... doesn’t mean anything at this point. 

A man’s action is his true feelings... take words with a grain of salt... WATCH ACTIONS...

What i am saying.... Is this man doesn’t have a skin in the game

secondly, he isn’t that interested (It could be that his interest will increase once you guys make it to a date)... But personally, I like men who even before dates pursue me and lead with their interest (I am spoilt that way... because I don’t require anything less... I won’t even engage with anything less...) 

You don’t have to do that... BUT the problem is really not this man. He is the way he is... its up to you to determine if that works for you or if it doesn’t

The problem is YOU...

Clearly, you aren’t happy with his laissez faire interest in you.

The less than bare minimum effort etc.

So, why continue to entertain and inject hope there?  You have a case of FOMO 

What if I don’t give him a chance and he ends up being this wonderful man that i end up missing?

(What if he is only this way because he doesn’t know me yet and we’ve not been on a date yet)

The what ifs are legitimate question about not writing people off... 

BUT........HAS THAT WORKED FOR YOU BEFORE?

(Yes, he could be a wonderful man... but he could also be a nightmare)

(Yes, he could be a wonderful man to another woman... that doesn’t mean he will be for you)

There are other women that man puts more effort into (because he is more interested). 

Men’s action towards a woman, is usually on where they place you on their scale.  (There could be a woman that man will send 20 messages a day to) Even from the first day....

KNOW THIS - Every man has a scale... consciously of subconsciously... it exists

My sponsor says “There are women. you wouldn’t dare spend more than 3k on, there are women, you wouldn’t even insult by offering 35k... And then there are women who anything less than a blackcard is an insult to himself and to her

Meaning : The level of a man’s interested is shown (yes the interest can grow, yes it can also start out an diminish)... The question is... ARE YOU HAPPY WITH WHERE IT IS STARTING AT?  WILL YOU STAY IF IT DIMINISHES?

If a man’s interest starts out high and on it way starts to diminishes... I LEAVE

If i a man’s interest start’s out low and grows(I slowly match it.)... 

Example : Lets say A man’s interest starts at 50%

                 I keep my interest in him at 10 %

If it grows to 100% 

I increase mine to 20%

If it grows beyond 100% 

I increase accordingly

And if his interest stays consistently high and above... 

I match accordingly

ON THE REVERSE

Now if his interest decreases to 50%

I also scale back to 10% 

It it falls less than 50%... 

I leave (There a reason why, I don’t let it go less than 50%)

Again, you don’t have to do what i do (like I always warn people... you lose a lot of people going my way) And it can be hard... 

But in my personal experience (It only keeps quality over quantity). 

He is not playing you.... You are playing yourself by not really knowing your value or being honest with yourself and sticking your ground on how you want to be treated.

So figure that out... 

#sugardating #sugardatingadvice #sugardatingtips #sugarbowl #hypergamy #datingadvice #sugarbowltips 

So this guy is really going to inquire about another provider I reposted on my Twitter feed to me. Like he @ me asking about a inquiry. Little ole me redirected him to my email and he like “I wasn’t asking about you. I was asking about so and so” if that’s the case why didn’t you just dm her? I’m embarrassed and shit 😂.

I’m tired of older sex workers discouraging younger sex workers. Like I’m trying to tour Newyork and La soon. It will be my first time going there. So I go in this sex worker group chat I’m in asking some hotel recommendations. Here comes this lady trying to talk down on me saying “You won’t do well in Newyork or I tried New York and I lost so much money when I toured.” Mind you I’m already nervous to your alone but the last thing I want to hear is me not doing well. So I quietly just remove myself from the group chat and go about my business. I’m not going to waste my energy going back and fourth with this lady. Just because you didn’t do well won’t mean I won’t do well. I don’t know is it because your age or persona that didn’t make the cut but I’m already getting inquiries and prebookings. I don’t know if it’s a jealousy thing or she just wanted to disturb my spirit.

what oppressors don’t want women to know

1. your life should be centered around yourself.

2. you are not required to compromise.

3. parenthood is a choice.

4. princesses get all the gifts.

5. bitches get respected for having standards.

6. you don’t have to give anyone a chance or the time of day.

7. you don’t need to smile or laugh at anyone’s lame jokes.

8. you don’t need to explain yourself. your no is enough.

9. never accept what you don’t want. keep your standards.

10. if a man threatens/disrespects you take it seriously. don’t brush it off.

11. having and keeping your standards is reflective of your self worth.

12. don’t silence yourself because of the fear that someone will get angry. you aren’t responsible for anyones feelings but your own.

13. it’s not your responsibility to take care of and nurture everyone.

14. assertive women are attractive.

15. never center your life around men.

15. when you’re being courted, they must to prove themselves to you.

16. you don’t have to act fake satisfied when you’re not impressed.

17. staying in a relationships that’s toxic is self sabotaging and abusive.

18. you’re not required to please others to prove your value.

19. finacial literacy is not just for men to know. ladies learn how to handle your money independently.

20. you must put yourself and your goals first.

21. be confident. always walk with your head high.

22. you are worthy. you instantly become more worthy once you remind yourself of this!

23. always speak your mind. those who don’t speak up get nothing.

24. never settle.

25. not a single soul has the right to judge you. opinions are just opinions and have no value unless you give them value.