it's kind of upsetting how little research antis want to put into their arguments. darkfic/proship content is not an unhealthy coping mechanism, and never will be, and sharing that content with others isn't unhealthy, either; it's a way to share experiences and thoughts and combat the isolation and general feeling of "i'm the only one that's been through this, so therefore i am gross/'messed up'," that comes with trauma (and specifically sexual trauma). reading and writing my own darkfic exploring some of the shit i went through/things similar did far more for my recovery than bottling everything up and keeping it to myself ever did, and it was certainly a better alternative to the actually unhealthy coping mechanisms i've used. (well... unless the fifteen year olds want to argue with several professionals, anyway.)
plus, telling proshippers who create content to vent that a) their thoughts are wrong, and b) they shouldn't be sharing those thoughts with other people because "they'll hurt minors," or "they're gross," just feels so icky. forgive me if this is too bold a claim for fuckin tumblr drama, but it parallels a lot of things people who seriously fucked me up have said while they were fucking me up, because things like that rely on the victim feeling guilty, ashamed, and most importantly staying isolated and quiet. Spouting out poorly-researched claims like this and pushing what is essentially a puritan moral code onto everyone around you, even in the name of "protecting minors and survivors," is doing WAY more harm than good.
but... what i say doesn't matter, does it? we don't really count as survivors unless we stay quiet and alone, just like antis want, right? eat my dick.
btw. being kink positive means ALL kinks even the ones you think are "immoral" or whatever the fuck. "but what about-" especially that one. no sex act between consenting adults is immoral actually. kill the cop in your brain.
of course that doesn't mean you have to be comfortable with every kink. it's fine to have limits for your own personal stuff. but if you judge people based on what they do with their consenting partners, I cannot stress this enough, you are being a bad person.
like what happened to "women are capable of doing everything men can do". If this statement is true the reverse is also true. It doesn't mean they necessarily do but they could. Thats like THE feminist statement in my mind its the most important one and radfems are actively rejecting it. There is nothing but superficial differences between us!!! "Men" and "women" are fictions used to organize society and power in a specific way they're not essential truths. We can go from one to the other freely and easily because we are essentially the same. The massive gulf between us in modern society is political, its not in anyway concrete, essential or biological.
Found one of the most jaw-droppingly self-entitled comments I’ve ever been unfortunate enough to see on the internet outside of assholes on r/AITA.
Ao3 authors, please learn to not insult people and be “morally superior” in the tags
Instead of tagging “noncon is gross” or “not noncon because that’s problematic”, for example, just put “enthusiastic consent” or “consensual sex” in the tags. It makes things a whole lot easier for people to filter and know what’s going on.
I really don’t care that you think noncon fics are bad or whatever, I (and many others) will be more likely to read your fic about two boys who are deeply in love if you aren’t an ass about your morals in fiction :/
"The trannies should be able to piss in whatever toilet they want and change their bodies however they want. Why is it my business if some chick has a dick or a guy has a pie? I'm not a trannie or a fag so I don't care, just give 'em the medicine they need."
"This is an LGBT safe space. Of COURSE I fully support individuals who identify as transgender and their right to self-determination! I just think that transitioning is a very serious choice and should be heavily regulated. And there could be a lot of harm in exposing cis children to such topics, so we should be really careful about when it is appropriate to mention trans issues or have too much trans visibility."
One of the above statements is Problematic and the other is slightly annoying. If we disagree on which is which then working together for a better future is going to get really fucking difficult.
"The trannies should be able to piss in whatever toilet they want and change their bodies however they want. Why is it my business if some chick has a dick or a guy has a pie? I'm not a trannie or a fag so I don't care, just give 'em the medicine they need."
"This is an LGBT safe space. Of COURSE I fully support individuals who identify as transgender and their right to self-determination! I just think that transitioning is a very serious choice and should be heavily regulated. And there could be a lot of harm in exposing cis children to such topics, so we should be really careful about when it is appropriate to mention trans issues or have too much trans visibility."
One of the above statements is Problematic and the other is slightly annoying. If we disagree on which is which then working together for a better future is going to get really fucking difficult.
This is my new favourite headline I've seen all year lmaooo
Your moral ocd is lying to you and tumblr is lying to you. you do NOT have to reblog any post you dont want to and you dont need to justify it and youre not prejudiced against a certain marginalized group if you dont reblog an Upsetting Post about a Current Issue said group is facing
WHY YOU SHOULD WRITE HORRIBLY:
1. You’ll never write anything if you don’t
he/they/neos, enby, lesbian, danganronpa/bsd/genshin fan (i also like a couple of cartoons), i really like rarepairs
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