If You’re Thinking About Calling A Trans Woman “male” Or A Trans Man “female”:

fr though.

trans gay men are gay men cry about it clowns

[ tw for this post, it mentions sex/sex-repulsion a few times (just the word, nothing else) and i get heated/angry talking about it. this isn’t directed at anyone, i’m just pissed off about acephobia. ]

I think a lot of people get hung up on some ace people not liking sex or thinking it’s gross/repulsive on a personal level. Even in 2020. And I’m getting sick of it.

Even other aspec people I’ve spoken to have legitimately gotten pissed off at ace people who are averse to it. I feel like a lot of y’all only accept ace people if it’s the ones who are just as okay with sex/sexual topics/etc. as you are, and I can and WILL call you out on it when it happens. Sex-averse ace people deserve just as much goddamn respect as any other ace person.

There is a BIG difference between being sex negative and sex averse/repulsed. I’m personally very sex-averse, but you don’t see me stopping anyone else? Ace people do not walk around and claim that sex is objectively bad, and if you genuinely think we do this shit on a massive scale then you might want to try actually talking to an ace person and not exclusionists a few times in your life.

If us asking for you to, I dunno, talk about it somewhere else where it won’t make us uncomfortable, spoiler it, or maybe just tone it down a little bit, feels like being “sex negative” to you, then I genuinely worry how you treat other people and topics that make them uncomfortable. Y’all respect people’s discomfort and squicks until that person is ace and it shows.

Oh and if you try and tell me this isn’t an issue, that nobody is actually doing this, I will personally put crabs in your pillows. This shit is so constant I have the (dis)pleasure of seeing it in spaces I am apparently supposed to be welcomed in. My discomfort is not respected even in spaces that I’ve made myself. I’m laughed at and not taken seriously and viewed as childish/naive for not liking or understanding extremely sexual conversations/jokes even in my own friend-groups, and even around other aspec people, and even after I ask people to stop multiple times. Do not tell me what I, a sex-repulsed ace person, “actually” experience.

We’re allowed to joke about it being weird and not something we like. We Are Allowed To Not Like Sex, Guys.

so this is more for myself-

i'm curious to see how much my gender changes (I'm genderfluid) and what it changes to so I'll probably repeatedly reblog this with my gender shshhs

aphobe: asexuals and aromantics aren’t oppressed asexuals and aromantics: yes, they actually are! Here’s some peer-reviewed, duplicated, factual studies about our obscene suicide rates, how we’re viewed negatively by society as a whole and by other sexual minorities, how over 1/10th of us have been through conversion therapy, how people won’t rent to us, how we’re murdered by our significant others and how, yes, anti-queer oppression effects us just as much as the next person. please stop saying things like this, because it sets a dangerous precedent that our oft-deadly oppression is something to be mocked and laughed at aphobe: 

About Me

Hi, I'm Ace or Kaito- whatever you prefer! I use it/its and star/stars/starself. If you *absolutely* can't use those, just use they/them or he/him. (Otherwise I will ask you to call me either 'it' or 'star'.)

Examples of those are:

It went to the clothing store and it really enjoyed the wide selection there.

Star went to the clothing store and star really enjoyed the wide selection there.

I am fluidflux, it is similar to genderfluid where my gender may change frequently-except the intensity of the gender changes as well.

For example:

One day I am perfectly fine as a bigender but then it may shift into a demi-gender or I may be completely agender for a bit.

I'm not neurotypical, I have ADHD and MADD (Maldaptive Daydreaming, which is a dissociative disorder.)

Gender can be an extremely confusing thing for me because of the way my brain operates so I may associate with some MOGAI genders to cope. If you don't support MOGAI, kindly get off my page and block me while you are at it! :)

rb to also wish all arogenders a very pleasant evening

Honestly I think the exclusion of cis heterosexual aromantic people and cis heteroromantic asexual people gives off biphobic vibes

A biphobic argument for why bi people should be excluded (drop the B) is that we’re “basically straight”, “half straight”, “spicy straight” or “straight passing”, especially if we are binary people who prefer (or have exclusively dated) the other binary gender. The argument ignores that our sexuality is complete as it is and not half or part of something else and the struggles we specifically face for being bi and not straight (or gay).

And then I then turn around and see asexual and aromantic people having their complete orientation and specific struggles erased because they’re “basically straight”, “half straight”, “special straight” or “straight passing”... especially when many aros and aces mistook their orientation for bi or pan because they felt the same about everyone? That doesn’t sit right with me! At all!

Bi (or omni/pan/ply/abro/etc) and a-spec people what do you think about this?? I personally think we need to work on some fucking solidarity because this erasure of our sexualities isn’t okay, we have so much in common and sometimes have thought we are the other orientation or we’re a mix of both.

Don’t clown on this post if you’re a biphobe or aphobe, learn better

I'm not aro but reblogging just because i love frogs

a new and improved stack of friends

stickers are available here

hell yeah

When people hear the word “transgender” typically they think of the gorgeous models and actresses in the media. These are not the only people that deserve rights and recognition. There are trans women who have a hard time “passing” and living up to cishet men’s idea of “womanhood.” There are trans men who are severely under-represented in the media. There are also of course non-binary people who very few see represented and respected outside of queer spaces.

Ergo, trans rights are for ALL trans people, not just those that cishet men find attractive enough to deserve them.

neopronouns are extremely epic!!