WORD OF HONOR: PRESENTING THE ROMANCE THROUGH TRADITIONAL WUXIA TROPES.

How many times do we have to say it: SELF-DIAGNOSIS IS VALID.

Official diagnosis take time and money lots of people don't have. Medical treatment and professionals are often biased against minorities. Medical professionals often don't know or don't care about nuanced or rare disorders, and either aren't able to diagnose or aren't willing to diagnose them because of stupid reasons like they don't believe they're real, even though they're in the DSM.

In short, if you disagree with self-diagnosis, if you think self diagnosis isn't valid, if you assume self-diagnosed people don't have what they say they have... shut up. Especially if you don't even have that condition/disorder.

People assume that doctors and medical professionals are perfect because they went to school for a long time. And yeah, if you can, it's best to try to get professional help. But this isn't always possible. Often because medical professionals can be STUPID BIGOTS. Trust me, I've met a lot of them.

Look, if you have the disorder they're claiming to have and know that they're spreading misinformation and just making fun of the disorder, that's different. You have the right to call that out.

If you don't have the disorder and suspect that that's happening, keep in mind: you could be wrong, and if you are and you say something, you could damage their mental health. It's best to listen/ask others with the disorder/condition about the situation.

If you think self diagnosis is just people seeing a tiktok about a condition and deciding that they have it or to pretend that they have it, and you bully people accordingly... SHUT UP. Seriously.

Self-diagnosis often takes months of research and self-reflection. The research is often a combination of reputable medical sources and testimonies from people with personal experiences with the disorder/condition in question. It is not done for attention, or for a joke; it's done so that people can finally get answers for their symptoms, find a community, and find supports and advice that works for them.

tldr; It's not your place to judge others for their conditions, diagnosed or not. You'll never fully know what they're going through.

Self-diagnosed people, I support and care about all of you. You are loved and valid, and I hope you have/find the support you need.

thinking about wwx growing lotuses in the burial mounds, and jc rebuilding lotus pier, and jzx making a lotus garden for jyl. thinking about the homesick children of lotus pier building new lotus piers wherever they are because they can’t go home to the one they grew up in. but it’s never the same because they aren’t together

the way I was just sitting there like :0 when they showed this part like it couldn't be any more obvious

fellas is it gay to stare at your almost lover longingly from afar

Finja Brandenburg // unknown

Quiet BPD is like...

.. having a deadly allergic reaction to the entire human race. Everyone you attempt to have some sort of interpersonal relationship with, casual friendship all the way up to romantic partners and everything in-between, will either intentionally or unintentionally trigger big giant feelings that make you wanna die.

zero thank yous to @rocknghorss​ who showed me these photos of liu duan duan. none.

also, i have no clue where they’re actually from, just this tweet. (so thank you to that person and if anyone knows their origins, lemme know.)

My special talent is assuming our friendship is a burden on you and you dread hearing from me. So then I stop talking to you to ease the load and ruin what we had

I said it in the notes on the last post but I’m gonna say it again.

I’m married to someone with severe memory problems. Automation of household appliances & systems helps him a lot and helps me a lot because it reduces the number of things I have to keep in my brain at all times. I love doors that lock themselves, being able to schedule dog food being delivered, a thermostat I can manipulate from wherever. Beyond my little bubble it should be noted that voice controlled appliances can be really good for people with mobility concerns. Appliances that can measure and talk and remember little tasks can be such a blessing for people.

I will never forgive Amazon and Google for taking technologies that could be really helpful and weaponizing them, and fuck everybody who acts like its some kind of conspiracy theory that those devices are spying on you. You absolutely should be distrustful of those devices but just make sure you’re getting angry at the right people.