i interpret the process of becoming our best version as climbing a ladder, on each step, we learn something new that serves us, and the next we complement it with something new, and so on until we reach the end and after many small habits we have become that version we wanted to be. little by little we are learning and although sometimes it is complicated to climb because of the adversities that may arise we can always take up the path again and put into practice what we have learned. that said, today i want to share a method that i have created to organize our habits and thus fulfill them more effectively and feel motivated. in this post i will only present some examples, you have to apply it to your own situation and my recommendation is to start now even with small habits that will be the ones that will lead you to success. i recommend that you try it for this week and write down your results, if it has worked for you keep using this "organization method" and adding new habits or increasing its time.
organize by categories.
create groups to categorize the habits you want to implement in your life, for example like this (the habits are examples, use your own)
đż health (body and nutrition)
10 minutes of exercise every day
30 minutes of walking every day
drink a lot more water
start eating consciously
one self-care day a week, for example on friday. we can take this day more relaxed and take more care of ourselves, dedicate more time to our personal and mental care.
do massage with the quartz roller and gua sha
make an appointment for nails, hairdresser, spa, eyelashes or even go to a coffee shop with yourself.
use a face mask and hair mask
đż personal growth
read 10 pages a day
listen to personal growth podcasts or audiobooks (choose one and listen to it all week long)
choose an affirmation and write it down every day
record in a diary or an app your mood and what you did during the day.
create a to-do list of what you will do for the day (the night before)
choose a video of affirmations and listen to it every day at a time that suits you best
đż studies
study about what you are studying or training for.
dedicate e.g. 20-30 minutes each day to study or review.
study a new language, 15 minutes a day, 5 days a week.
đż hobbies
1 - 2 hours to what you enjoy doing (depends on the day and your schedule)
you can write down in a notebook the groups you want to choose for yourself and then the habits you are going to implement, even if they are very small, for example 5 minutes of daily exercise, that is a good start.
to stay focused and not fall into old habits we can also replace the old habits with new ones that we want to implement in this way.
old habit: too much time on instagram new habit: reading or listening to an audiobook while i take a walk. or even just 15 minutes of social media a day.
other examples:
drinking soda or alcoholic beverages > drinking a lot more water and starting to drink natural juices.
watch a lot of series on netflix (or any streaming platform) > read or listen to podcasts/audiobooks that nourish my mind.
overthinking, worrying > meditating for about 5 minutes
lying in bed without doing anything > organizing my room
think in negative > think about the things you would like to happen to you
other tips to connect with your best version
write in your diary how you would act, be and what habits your best version would have. this will give you clarity about what you want and you will feel closer to that because you will know how to act.
establish small habits to start with and take it as a kind of game or test during this week. don't push yourself too hard.
at times when you don't know how to act or react, think about how your best version would act and what it would do.
write down things you are proud of or would like to be proud of.
if you are easily distracted or do not know what to do at any given moment, set alarms to know what to do at that moment.
if you use social media a lot, set a limit of use.
choose habits that you know you will be able to do easily, that will make you gain confidence and little by little establish those habits in which you have procrastinated or which are more difficult for you.
think big, open yourself to the possibilities that life offers you every day and keep a positive attitude towards any situation.
apps i recommend: habit: it serves to keep track of your habits and also get organized, it's a kind of to-do list. daylio: you can record your mood, what you did during the day and your habits, it also allows you to write and add photos. it is very complete, it can be used as a digital diary. notion: to get organized.
duolingo: if you want to learn a language a few minutes a day will be enough. i learned a lot of grammar in english thanks to this, which works if you practice daily.
and as always my blog is about this and there will be many more related posts in addition to the existing ones, all to be our best version đ¤ in fact if you try it i would love to know your results.
Life is too short to waste time on people who donât lift you up, who donât inspire you - theyâll eventuelly drain you.
Katie Kacvinsky, First Comes Love (via perfectquote)
Sofia found herself in a career rut. Harry was coming off a six-month world tour and an unexpected break-up. They both end up at the same studio. Sofia working the front desk and Harry writing his sophomore album.
A story about Malibu, unexpected friendships and why timing is everything.
part one
part two
part three - harryâs povÂ
part four
part five
part six - harryâs pov
part seven*
part eight
part nine
part ten*
part eleven
part twelve*
completed!
vogue drabble*
nye 2019
nye 2020
harryâs camera roll
sofiaâs camera roll
contact photos
*denotes mature content
inspo | sofia | harry | masterlist | letâs talk
Not even bro itâs not even Gretchen because you know why because youâre famous and I remember who used to dateďżź
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This man jumps from Demi Lovato to Selena Gomez to Taylor Swift like a fucking checkerboard
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Watching this play out across three album was the most fun high school ďżźďżźme had
âI found I was more confident when I stopped trying to be someone elseâs definition of beautiful and started being my own.â
â Remington Miller
i love 5th generation idol duo âbrothersâ so very much đđ¤
"I can control my anger"
Also me:
And also me 5 minutes later:
breaking your own heart for him to find peace and happiness
warnings: angst
in the dim light of your small apartment, you sat curled up on the couch, clutching a worn copy of your favorite book. the cover of the book read âGod Help the Childâ, tales you had lived and breathed since childhood. but the words felt heavier tonight, tinged with the sorrow of reality
steve stood in the doorway, his broad shoulders casting a long shadow. his eyes, usually so full of determination, were clouded with a mixture of gratitude and regret
"y/n.." he began, his voice a soft whisper, "i can't thank you enough for everything. youâve been my anchor, my confidantâ
you forced a smile, though your heart felt like it was being torn apart. "steve, you deserve happiness. real happiness" you paused, gathering the strength to continue. "peggy is your past, your future. she's your soulmateâ
he moved closer, the scent of his familiar cologne wrapping around you like a bittersweet embrace. "what about us?" he asked, his voice cracking. "i care about you, y/n. more than you knowâ
tears welled up in your eyes, but you blinked them away, trying to stay strong. "and i care about you, steve. that's why i have to let you go. you and peggy... you have a chance to live the life you both dreamed of. donât you see? youâre a man out of time, but sheâs a part of that timeâ
steve reached out, his hand trembling as he brushed a tear from your cheek. "youâre incredible, y/n. i wish things were different
"me too..â you whispered, your voice barely audible. "..but they arenât. you need to be with her. you deserve that happiness, even if it means i have to let you goâ
he pulled you into a gentle embrace, and for a moment, you allowed herself to melt into him, memorizing the feel of his arms around you, the steady beat of his heart
the , with a deep breath, you pulled away. "go, steve. go to her"
he looked at you one last time, a mixture of emotions flickering across his face, before nodding slowly. "thank you, y/n. for everything and for a second chanceâ
as the door closed behind him, you collapsed onto the couch, the weight of your sacrifice settling heavily on you shoulders. you had given up the one person who made you feel truly alive so he could find his own happiness
and in the quiet of your now empty apartment, you allowed yourself to mourn, knowing you had done the right thing, even as it shattered your heart
toxic!rafe manhandling toxic!reader when she gets bratty or snappy with him
warnings: dealer!rafe, sorta toxic relationship, cheating accusations, arguing, cussing, yelling, physical violence
[11:15 PM] âray <333â stopped sharing location with you
âwhat the fuck?â you sat up, staring at the words on your screen like they werenât real. you called him not once, not twice, but ten times until you were pacing back and forth, imagining your boyfriend balls deep inside someone else. he said heâd be out dealing with barry on the cut, and that was more than enough reason for you to think of the worst. eventually you calmed down, your head shooting in the direction of the door once you heard it open. âwhat are you doing up still?â rafe tossed his keys on the dresser, plopping down on the bed with a sigh.
âitâs two in the morning, rafe.â your voice was eerily calm, immediately making his eyebrows knit in confusion. âyeah, and?â he reached for your arm, which you pulled away. âwhat the fuck is wrong with you?â he got up, dragging you with him. âwhy did you turn off your location?! you didnât answer any of my calls.. what do you expect me to think?!â you shouted, pushing him in the chest, which turned out to be useless because he didnât even budge. âi expect you to understand that if iâm not answering the phone itâs because iâm busy conducting business,â his grip on your wrists made your skin burn, âi didnât just stop sharing my location, but i turned my phone off altogether because barry gets all fuckinâ paranoid. i wasnât fucking around if thatâs what you think.â you narrowed your eyes at him.
âyouâre a liar.â you shoved him again, this time making him stumble. âhow many times have i told you that i donât even want to look at anyone else, let alone fuck them?! while youâre here driving yourself crazy, iâm out there making money for us so i could keep you happy,â he followed you into your shared closet, taking the bag you were stuffing clothes in, âyouâre not going anywhere.â you shot daggers at each other, both of you fuming with anger. âi know that look in your eye. donât do anything stupid, y/n.â you glanced at the keys on the dresser, rafe already two steps ahead of you as he picked you up and pinned you down to the bed. you let out a yelp, unable to move underneath his weight.
âi love you, alright? i would never hurt you like that. what did i say when i first put that promise ring and that pretty little finger?â your gaze softened, as did rafeâs. âyou said youâd always be honest with me.â he nodded, letting your hands free. âi meant every word.â his voice was barely above a whisper as he leaned in slowly, taking your lips in a gentle kiss. as much as you adored this soft side of rafe, you couldnât help but grind against him, his teeth nipping your bottom lip in response. ânow i have to fuck you back in your place.â
âMy biggest regrets in life are being too damn nice, apologizing when I didnât do anything wrong, and making unworthy people a priority.â
â Unknown