Finding Balance, Finding Myself

So you want her to be a swinger.... To the males who are having trouble converting their kinky significant others from kinky lady to swing partner here are a few suggestions to a seamless conversion from kink to swing... There are no guarantees that all of your efforts will convert your kinky lady into a swing partner, none. However, the most important thing to do is stop making the transition about YOU and focus on HER.Challenge #1... Monogamy on the mind. We have been conditioned all of our lives to believe that one man and one woman is the only way to build a successful relationship. Monogamy has been spoon fed to us since birth, especially to the ladies. Find the right man, get married and have his babies. If your partner needs others to make them happy, then they don't really love or care for you. Build her confidence and reassure her that she is your crown jewel. Make sure that she knows, sees and is frequently told that she is the center of your sexual needs. Basically, you are NOT using swing as a tool to possibly replace her or simply cheat on her, with her consent.Challenge #2... Play fair. If you can have sex with whomever you choose, she should be allowed to do the same. If she wants more dick, be ok with it. If she wants more pussy, be ok with that too. If you can't perform... she shouldn't have to starve. Don't ever coerce her into taking one for the team, so that you can get laid. Matter of fact don't coerce her into anything... your kinky lady should be willing and happy to swing and share.Challenge #3... Honesty Be honest. If you're only here for FMF or FFM threesomes, say so. Make it clear to your kiny lady that you have a fantasy to see her with and share her with other women, and nothing more. Make sure that your lady is ok with never having sex with other men. Address this in the beginning and make sure you reiterate it often. If you discover that your kinky lady, is far kinkier than you are, address it in a positive way. Don't slut shame her and make her feel bad for wanting more than you can offer. Enjoy her, just the way she is. If she's less kinky than you would like... accept what she will do, and move on. Don't try to guilt her into giving you what you want. Keep your "extras" for your swap partners. Shame or guilt will keep her pussy dry, and kill your chances of ever successfully swinging together as a couple.Challenge #4... Continued Communication. Find out what her kinks are early. Speak with your lady, find out her likes and dislikes. What are her hard no's. What are her maybe's and what are her fuck yeah's! Is she into anal (penis in ass) or ass play (kissing, rimming, fingering)? Is she into DP (double penetration) two dicks in a single hole or two dicks in two different holes at the same time? Let her know the rules of engagement.. what are your rules? No kissing, no swallowing, no bare backing, no facials? Do you want to approve all play partners together, or does she have the freedom to play with whom she choo