Lillian Russell (1861-1922), World Renowned Sex Symbol Of Whom Clarence Day Of The Saturday Evening Post

Do yo ever feel alone and like you always have to hide from friends and family? Does your kink ever make you wish you were "normal"? I surely feel these things and I am very sad.

This is a common feeling for a lot of people, so I want you to understand that you're not alone, but also understand that it's not something you should continue allowing yourself to feel! A fetish can be extremely intimate since it's so closely tied to sexuality, personal history, etc. but feeling like you have to hide or be alone because of it is very unhealthy.

I recommend starting by trying to break down the stigma around weight gain and fetishes. EVERYONE has kinks and fetishes and niche interests that they like to keep hidden. And feedism/tummy love is actually a VERY common fetish! Trust me, as a feedism model I can guarantee you that I've gotten way more attention both on/offline as a 300+ lb person than I ever did when I was thin. It's not inherently dirty or wrong to be attracted to fat people or to want to be fat for your own sexual/personal fulfillment.

Try looking into fat politics more! Read up on biases surrounding fatness and weight gain and how that may be impacting your mental wellbeing. Do the work to unlearn what's been pushed onto you and in time you'll start to feel more comfortable speaking outwardly about fatphobia and how being fat/fatness is beautiful. At some point things will start to click for you and you can feel more at ease both with yourself, and with talking to others about your interests! This isn't to say that you should broadcast bluntly your fetishes and what turns you on, but being able to join in on those kinds of conversations when they happen can be really wonderful with building community with your friends!

Again, you are normal. Liking fat bodies (your own or others) is normal. Having fetishes is normal! It's up to you to destigmatize things and unlearn the fatphobia and puritanical ideology that's holding you back from feeling connected to others.

As a fat feedist with friends/family/community that know all about what I do for a living and why I gained so much weight, I promise it's possible to live without shame.

when ppl tell me i’m not that kinky bc they’re into bdsm & shit.. my fetish is literally one of the seven deadly sins but go off i guess

Bonnie got herself a big snack in the back room again

smores fudgecicles

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SHELLY JOHNSON ◦ Twin Peaks 2x19: Variations and Relations

skirt weather babey

I’ve seen a lot of posts like this recently, and I just wanted to say in our community—your partners deserve to be seen. Large partners deserve respect! If you love your partner, you don’t hide them. Full stop. 🗣️

I work a very big corporate job, have for years—and guess what? Biggie comes to every event, every game, every dinner. Arm in arm, we walk in together, and I’m never shy about saying, “Yep. That’s my man.” And you know what? No one questions it anymore. Because I don’t leave any room for that.

I have a super strict, honestly pretty harsh father—and before Biggie, I’d only ever introduced one person to him. But Biggie? He met him right away. He comes to every holiday, every event, and even though I’m often uncomfortable around my own family, I bring him proudly every time—because he deserves to be there. My discomfort will never be more important than making sure he feels seen, loved, and included. That’s what it means to show up for your partner.

When I was younger, people used to question me or make comments about my partner’s size. But now? I command the room. I love him fiercely, treat him like my equal, and show him off with pride—and I dare anyone to challenge that. I’m just as loving (and yes, just as demanding) as I would be with any partner. His size doesn’t change his worth, or how seriously I take him.

And honestly? If you’re leaving room for your friends or family to question why you’re dating a larger person, then you’re not advocating for them enough. Period. Your partner isn’t just their body—people should know all the incredible things about them, and if you’re not making that loud and clear, it’s time to reflect. They deserve to be loved out loud.

So if you’re out here loving someone big? Don’t shrink them. Don’t hide. Be loud. Be proud. Be a good partner. They deserve nothing less.