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Rest In Peace, President Jimmy Carter. 💙

The different and sometimes tiring types of reactions to the neil gaiman allegations

- ‘neil didn’t write good omens’ (he did and we simply have to learn to separate art from artist)

- ‘how dare you think about anything else but the victims’ (people can care about multiple things at once + these allegations have been known for months and months?? some of us have processed this)

- ‘how do david/michael/etc feel about this’ (it’s none of our business)

- ‘donate to victims of sa’ (sure if you can)

- ‘bdsm is fine WITH consent’ (it is)

- ‘everyone is innocent until proven guilty and i refuse to condemn him’ (go read the article / enjoy being blocked by me)

- ‘his writing was always Problematic’ (learn to separate art from real life victims of sexual abuse please)

- ‘his writing can still mean a lot to you without you being a bad person’ (yes. just try to avoid giving him money maybe)

- ‘it’s just terf propaganda’ (it really really isn’t. and fuck terfs)

- ‘reminder to prioritise your own mental health, step away from online spaces if you need to, and: you have no obligation to read the entire article if it’s too triggering’ (true. you’re still a good person i promise)

As we all find ways to deal with the complexity of art vs artist, here is a tool that I am using. It will not be right for everyone, but it has helped me. If it can help you too, I offer it to you.

Many artists of beloved works have bad, even horrible sides to them. The works would not be beloved if they didn't have value. These good things do not soften the bad things. The value of the art does not lessen or excuse the badness of the artists' actions. But vice versa. The horribleness of the artists' actions does not necessarily reduce the value that can be taken from the art. From loving friendships, to standing for what is right, to support of diversity, to following our own paths, to so many more positive messages in the adventures that are presented by these people who are embodying bad things; these badly behaving people do not necessarily spoil the good things or make them unimportant.

I understand if the bad things do spoil the good things for you, and that is totally valid. However, if that path doesn't seem right for you and you've been struggling, perhaps this quote will help you find some acceptance in the situation, as it has helped me.

Supportive posting only, please. If you have rage to vent, which is understandable, another location rather than a reply to this would be appreciated.

Polaris, The North Star

Limits

...fortunately we live in a democracy.

Did I miss it with the holidays, or why has there not been a dramatic response to the haircolor in this post?

Happy Christmas!

same. 100%.

Day #1017 of David Tennant as a Fennec Fox! 🦊