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I'm tired of this generation, I want a man from the 1800's to invite me to a ball and dance with him.

Sometimes I wish life was like a book so I could sneak a peek at the last few pages just to make sure everything turns out okay.

~Unknown

Waiting can be so hard. It's a rational thing. You understand how it works and why you need to wait. But love is so irrational. Love doesn't understand waiting.

Do you think there's a "too soon" on meeting your LDR in person?

Hi Nonny!

Thanks, that's a great question, but also a really difficult one! Benny and I have been at it a while tonight and it left us a little stumped - we both think it's heavily dependent on the context. Here's a few things to consider:

Before you even think about it, you should know them for a little while. If they have demonstrated consistently their care for you, showed up for you and allowed you to depend on them, then it's safe to start considering meeting. But even so there are many other factors that come into play.

Consistent and dependable communication and calling/video calling is a must. When you meet in person, there's no ghosting, there's no "I'll read their message later". You need to be comfortable with each other, so play around the idea of having them around in person before you turn it into your reality.

Personal safety is paramount. You need to absolutely trust your partner and if possible, "ensure" they're really who they say they are. And on this note, you should always make sure that others know about you meeting - and hey, if your partner is serious about you, it shouldn't be a problem for them to even meet your friends and family. (For the sake of clarity, I will assume from this point forward that this is a stage every long distance couple has completed.)

How far apart are you and how much would it cost to see each other? (Even if it takes months of saving up, it could still all go down the drain if the meeting doesn't go well, and you need to accept the possibility of that.)

Where and for how long is the travelling party going to stay? Are they staying with you or in a hotel room?

Who's paying? Are you splitting or not? Why? Are all parties alright with the arrangement? (Don't let something like this become a grudge!)

Does the prospect of meeting them feel right or do you still need some time to get to know them? If it's not comfortable yet, there's no shame in that. Respect your own boundaries and listen to your gut feelings.

Do you both want to meet? Again, boundaries are important and neither of you should compromise on that. If your or your partner's heart isn't in it, it won't be the same as when you're both ready.

What do you guys want to do? The best way to deepen your connection and get to know each other is going on dates and doing things, so it couldn't hurt to look into local options.

Unless you're both/all on the asexual spectrum, it's time to discuss sex, boundaries and needs. It's best this conversation happens before you meet to avoid misunderstandings.

Be ready for the punch in the face the inevitable end of the meeting. It's going to fuck you up. You probably won't want to be alone afterwards so rely on your support network. If you have to travel back, consider that as well and ensure that you stay safe at all times. (And on a side note, mental health issues can and will get worse. Yeah. It sucks. We know.)

Unfortunately, no one can answer your question for you properly and it will always come down to the people in the relationship to openly and transparently communicate and discuss any issues. But we still hope we could give you some realistic pointers to bring you closer to your answer. Good luck with everything. 💕

- Benny & Danny

Being called "my love" will always be superior to just "love", I will not elaborate.

If there's one piece of advice I can give to long distance couples, it's call. Every. Single. Day. If you can facetime/video chat, that's even better. Show up for your partner at the end of every day, be there for them, ask them about their day, laugh and cry together. Just because you're far away from each other, doesn't mean you have to be apart.

Understand that your friends don’t wanna talk every day. Understand that your love partner doesn’t wanna be lovely or super indulgent every day. Lots of people need rest from performative emotions. All people need rest in general. It doesn’t mean they don’t love you.

- কমলাকান্তের দপ্তর

people who write poems for their lovers are so precious and need to be protected

what am I supposed to do when all I crave is ✨academic validation✨ but cannot get myself to study

- Fernando Pessoa, from ' The Book Of Disquiet'

The excitement of the books you ordered online finally arriving

the most romantic thing a person can do is read and annotate your favorite book and then give it to you.

gonna be honest. no number of iced beverages can save me at this point

the feeling of preparing for a new semester and buying all the books you need >>>>

“you’re so pretty,” okay write poetry about me then.

Going to a library with someone you love and sitting in a corner with your head propped up on their shoulder while you both are reading books in peace and calm is the most intimately wholesome thing ever.

“you‘re so quiet” baby i’m not even here. i’m fantasizing about a book i read weeks ago. move on.

I honestly feel that working in a little old bookstore would solve all of my problems.

me, at 2 a.m: let’s get my life in order. this is a new beginning. a new era. everything will be different. i have finally cracked the code. starting from now, i will unlock my full potential. i—

me, the next morning: actually? nevermind

"Only the very weak-minded refuse to be influenced by literature and poetry."

— Cassandra Clare, Clockwork Angel (The Infernal Devices, #1)

"Dark academic?" More like "someone please help me holy shit I can't continue living like this and the only thing keeping me from falling off my rocker is literature."

Johnny Spolarich