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As a trans woman and transfeminsit I'll try and explain this real simple for the people who need an ELI5, like the above OOP.

"TRF" is not even a pejorative just because people don't like the people they're calling that. It is an entirely straight-forward, factual description of a set of political beliefs taken from the title of a book that sells itself as reclaiming radical feminism, which all of the people called TRFs read and recommend to each other on a regular basis. Saying it's a pejorative and that TRFs don't exist just because they don't put it in their bio is completely ridiculous. They have absolutely zero problem identifying with the term and if I hadn't popularized it among people who are opposed to the ideology, I really don't doubt they would all have it in their bio.

The much more logical comparison would be transandrobro/dork. It's interesting it didn't bring that up, because that'd destroy it's whole fucking argument on it's own. That is an obviously hateful and insulting name for a group of people talking about their oppression. Yet even if we disagree on which group is legitimate and which isn't, you can still see that between the two one is meant to be demeaning and one is just the title of the fucking book they fuck the pages of. They do not actually have any problem with the comparison to radfems. If they thought TRF was insulting enough to be compared to any other derogatory word, then why was the book titled that? Why do they keep sharing around how brilliant it is? I need someone to explain it to me. What is offensive about TRF, and how can we reconcile that with the fact that you haven't all thrown the book called that all about reclaiming radical feminism onto a fire?

Now, 'Th**fab' on the other hand, first of all, was invented by cis men on 4chan with the intent to mock non-binary people. The only possible way to say it's not a slur is to deny this factual reality, but even if you did want to argue it was transfeminists who invented it, it'd still be a slur because it's essentially misgendering trans people in a way that this person specifically has complained about as being the worst most misgendering thing ever. I remember, because this silly twit tried using me to make the point.

If anything, it should be even more of a slur by it's standards, surely?

But here we also have laid bare the myth that non-binary people who are called that consciously choose to "cling to their AGAB." The definition of that isn't, as you might have thought, a non-binary person who "identifies" as AFAB, or lords it over trans women.

It's anyone who uses AGAB language at all. It's anyone who doesn't see the trans community solely in terms of TMA/TME. That's what makes you a fucking th**fab.

Plus, you know, th**fab is simply used as a slur. Just the other day I was talking about an extremely popular transfem Tumblr user who has been calling completely random trans men c**tboys for years and this January said that she's not so bitter and resentful as to be a trans woman who uses th**fab, but understands the complicated reasons why th**fab gets used. Which is just fucking bullshit, because less than a year before they used it to just casually call everyone but trans women to ugly to be sexually desired negatively. So that was just a massive fucking lie. Now that it's hot discourse again some TRFs are trying to play it like it's just an unfortunate reality of transmisogyny even though that doesn't match up how they themselves have used it in the past. It is a deliberate effort at lying to people.

I mean, in what world does those two screencaps - "I wouldn't ever use it but I understand the pressures that lead to it :/" vs. "lol th**fabs are unfuckable so who cares about their sexual objectification" - not prove that? That should have been the final word on the subject!

And speaking of how it's always been used, just to be thorough, I'll come back to my first point to help educate this crowd on the single biggest and most obvious reason it's a fucking slur and TRF isn't.

You're welcome, radfems. Stay after class, because I want to talk to you about your abhorrent behavior.

btw assuming that every single "cishet looking man" you meet is a cishet man and can't possibly ever be transfeminine will never help anyone, ever. assuming that "cishet looking men" are men because they don't show any hint of femininity is participating in transfem erasure. to all the transfems who can't present femme, are scared to come out, boymode most or all of the time, can't afford to replace their wardrobe, like how they currently dress and/or "look like a cishet man," you do not deserve this instant invalidation of who you are.

assuming a stranger's identity is never the way to go. i don't care if you're "scared" of "cishet looking men," but you literally can't tell based off of how someone is dressed. it's exceptionally hard and dangerous to be out as a transfem person in public. you have to accept that a lot of transfems are stealth and boymoding and passing as "perfectly straight looking men" for safety and comfort reasons. it's not an attack on you- it's for their safety. stop assuming how people identify based off of how they present and act in public. you don't know who they are. you have no right to be "scared"

What an absolutely strange and deranged thing to comment under a reel about a lesbian couple getting married dude.....

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i go on instagram. i see that them magazine has posted an article about how to have sex with transmascs (written by a transmasc). i go to the comments. people complain about, amongst other things, how the first paragraph is transmisognistic and that there's no similar article for transfems. i go to the article. the first paragraph has a line about how transmascs are erased, with a link to an article about erasure. i leave instagram and put my head directly through the nearest wall

"aphobes were primarily trans women!!" oh thats not...

is she really trying to claim that????

She just claims anything she wants and hopes people believe it.

^^^^

If your argument is that transmascs had no place in trans culture in its beginning stages...

you should be WAY more concerned about what was happening to your transmasc siblings during those stages, than any kind of 'gotcha'

(Credit to @zaebeecee)

Am I going insane or is the idea of "I'm scared to go to the bathroom because I could be seriously injured or arrested" not a thing most trans people experience? I feel like framing it as something only happening to trans women completely erases the exact same thing happening to trans people in general. I feel like that's just transphobia, not transmisogyny, but idk.

haha I'm going to go into whatever bathroom has the shortest line

^This is something I can joke about because I personally am stronger and braver than this person. I cannot stress this enough, she is weaker than me for thinking trans women cannot and do not make jokes like that. She believes that because she personally doesn't have the nerve, but I do, and she should admire me as an icon of transfemininity as a result.