Hey, Other Trans Women, Group Pep Talk Here:

hey, other trans women, group pep talk here:

not liking being seen as a man doesn't give you the right to treat men like shit.

not wanting to be associated with manhood, personally, does not mean you get to treat people who DO want to be associated with manhood like shit.

not wanting your body to have high levels of testosterone does not give you the right to tell other people that testosterone is a "poison" or that it will "ruin your body". testosterone was bad for you. it's not bad for everyone. i was forced on to estrogen HRT as a teenager due to being intersex and i literally fucking hated every single moment of it because it made me miserable. estrogen is not "pure" and testosterone is not "evil". estrogen almost ruined my health and my life.

you are traumatized by cisheternormative patriarchy. you are not traumatized by the concept of manhood.

trans men are not talking about their struggles with corrective rape, misgendering, transandrophobia, misogyny, violence, homelessness, substance abuse and domestic violence to diminish what we go through. we BOTH face these issues and for some reason you're just literally choosing to erase what an entire group of people that you don't occupy goes through for... what exactly ?

hating trans men and misgendering them and treating them like shit is transphobia.

what are you trying to accomplish here? do you give a fuck about trans rights at all? or is this about feeling powerless in cisheternormative society, so you feel you have to control someone else?

if trans women talking about the experience of being a trans woman doesn't take space away from trans men talking about the experience of being trans men, then the opposite isn't true, either.

if the concept of transmisogyny doesn't take space away from people discussing transandrophobia, then the opposite is also true.

do y'all hear yourselves? hating trans men won't make cisheternormative society like you better. hating trans men won't make transmisogyny go away. throwing trans men under the bus won't make queerphobes treat and accept you better. all you're doing is being transphobic. who does that help exactly?

ask yourself: are you in this because you want to express who you are on the inside, or are you in this to be a bully? if the only reason you're here is to treat men like shit because you don't like being seen as a man, the door is right there. kissing up to rad fems won't make them see you as more of a woman, just so you're painfully aware. they will always hate us. stop sucking up to people who literally want you to die.

trans women aren't the only trans people who suffer under cisheternormative patriarchy. accept this and move on. stop finding every excuse you can think of to misgender other trans people. it's not going to help you heal from your dysphoria and the trauma society has given you.