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Some of yoy genuinely don't care about trans rights and just want power you just want to be in the cis people role and not the trans people role

like genuinely if you're into forcefem and you were AMAB you should actually shut the fuck up whenever a trans person AFAB politely asks you to consider tagging it or has a broadly similar kink

like yo people are forced to be girls in real life and it's deeply painful trauma have you considered that? is that a thing you've registered? that the idea is more than just a cool thing you wish happened to you? I would be fully supportive of the same deference being given by people who are into forcemasc if we must adopt this framework in order to act like human beings to each other but miraculously they aren't fucking weird about other trans people in the first place and I think it'd be great if maybe that could just be the path forward instead

like do you think I WANT to exist in a world where we treat those kinks like that? of course not! no one would! I would personally love if we could all just go back to pretending like forcefem and forcemasc are wacky fun imaginary concepts that everyone can play with instead of acting like "gentrification of a fetish" is what we need to be concerned about going into 2025

a long time ago i watched a tik tok from an older trans woman, in her 60’s or 70’s. someone had commented on another video of hers asking “why don’t we ever see trans men from your generation? why aren’t they involved in activism?” and her response was “because a lot of them died.” she told stories abt the trans men she knew who committed suicide rather than be married off and forced to live as a woman, or died from medical neglect or botched abortions. “they would be here if they could, but they can’t because the world failed them.”

Hope I'm not derailing at all, but I had a very similar experience trying to get breastforms for a friend of mine.

Can't make this up, one of the only two companies we found that made breast forms for darker skin just didn't fucking bother colouring in the areolas.

For the record, the lighter toned breastform they made had them colored in. It was literally only the one geared towards Black people that didn't. I genuinely cannot think of any good faith explanation for this.

Roughly speaking, we could find 1-4 light skin toned breastforms per company. After going through god knows how many, we found two geared towards black people, and one of them was the aforementioned No Areola breastform. And if you had anything in the middle, you were simply shit out of luck, as my friend was.

I have had better luck finding packers and straps for more varied skin tones where I am, but evidently that's not a universal experience.

So I'm starting this thing with this guy and I went to an *ahem* adult goods store because my previous harness is a modified pair of briefs that was tight when I was about 20lbs lighter and most assuredly I do not fit anymore and he's coming over in 2 weeks so I don't quite trust shipping atm

But also within that store was genuinely nothing that could even be close to my skin tone. They had "realistic" white skintones, bright purple and pink, and a few solid black or solid grey. Nothing in browner skin tones.

And it just reminded me of how much antiblackness is baked into society. That the only realistic penis is apparently one that belongs gs to a white man, and that black bodies are so undesirable while white bodies are considered the default.

Coming from a middle eastern genderqueer, imo the whole thing is less 'transwomen calling TMEs theyfabs is like black people calling white people crackers' and a lot more 'transwomen calling TMEs theyfabs is like black people calling middle easterns camel fuckers.' (Obligatory these groups aren't exclusive, you can come from the middle east and be black or be mixed middle eastern and black.)

Like. Sure there's a lot of stuff about black people that the vast majority of middle easterns do not and will not understand. Sure there is a lot of anti black sentiments held by many middle easterns. Sure you can go ahead and say that this slur does not have the history or gravity of the n-slur, so it's not the same. You can even argue that because colorism affects your average black person far more than your average middle eastern, that the racism they face is simply a lesser version of the racism black people face.

But here's the thing.

Even if all of that is true, it does not justify calling me a camel fucker. You are still being fucking racist when you call me a camel fucker! You are being racist! Towards another racial group that also deeply suffers under the same systems that make black people suffer! I understand the frustration towards racist middle easterns but that does not make it okay! Some rhetoric that hurts them may not hurt me and vice versa, but we are still both suffering from a racist society, and there's also a lot of overlap in our experiences when we focus less on generalisations and more on specific instances! Yes it's important to address anti black sentiments within the general middle eastern population, I am all for that and I think it's important, and it's part of why I hate when people focus on white people and not nonblack people when it comes to talking about anti black sentiments BC that is NOT exclusively a white people thing.

But quite frankly if you are calling me a camel fucker and telling me to shut up about my own issues because you think you've got it worse and then claim if I'm upset about being called a camel fucker it just proves I'm racist, or if you say it's okay to call me a camel fucker because you've had a lot of bad experiences with middle easterns and I gotta prove I'm 'one of the good ones' by nodding my head and smiling, then I'm sorry, but you are the racist in that scenario, and I am not shutting up. I am still going to defend black people with my whole heart but holy shit you are being racist and I do not have to take that sort of verbal abuse. Thank god this isn't an actual thing that has happened (the justification for being called a camel fucker, I have been called a camel fucker by black people).

Except even then this analogy is flawed because I think trans people of all slices have WAY more in common with their experiences than black people and middle easterns AND I think the trans community does a lot more to try and understand each other than middle easterns and black people try to understand each other. But it sure as fuck is more accurate than comparing it to black people calling white people crackers.

(Sorry if any of this is worded weird, I am on mobile and not used to it)

The issue is that they're barely willing to agree AFAB trans people have any problems literally at all and what they do admit is "I guess sometimes TERFs care about them too much and out of overwhelming but misguided love occasionally do things that inconvenience them".

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No worries! Again, I absolutely don't think you meant anything negative by it, bad wording happens C:

I'm still thinking about that one post (by a cis woman) where it was some news of abortion access being restricted, and she said "This is why I need to stand up for my trans sisters". Fully meaning trans women. and I just ... ugh. There are times where I can kind of understand the logistics behind why trans men end up being invisible in certain discussions but like.. are you fucking kidding

Hate to say it but the abortion issue isn't one where the opinion of perisex trans women matters all that much, if at all.

If you're gonna talk about trans people, it's always going to be only perisex transmascs and trans men that matter.

"TERFs don't actually hate men; they actually see trans women as women because they engage in transmisogyny against us!"

I'm sorry to burst your bubble, but I don't think that "ExterminatetheYchromosome.tumblr.com" thinks that we're women because we say we are...