I Hope You'll Find Time

Hey! I just discovered your blog! I’m a trans guy and my biggest frustration right now is not being able to go on HRT because I’m unable to afford it myself (as a broke college student) and still covered by my unsupportive parents as far as insurance goes. Even though I’m an adult, I feel trapped by them because of it.

It’s the hardest waiting game. I’m supposed to be making the most of myself in college, but it’s so difficult when I can’t be the person I want to be. I would love any affirmations at all for this. Thank you so much. Love what you do <3

hey! as a trans man myself, i understand that perspective wholeheartedly. do your best to act as you are, for who you are! you're awesome sauce regardless of the body you're in, and you're still wonderfully masculine, even if not externally. i know hrt seems like a long wait, but it'll be worth getting there for sure. you're handsome! fuck anyone who tries to tell you you aren't you, only you can decide who you are. time will bring good, and you can get through this chapter! the end is worth the process, and in the mean time, you are still a wonderful, handsome man, who deserves a place in this world

hard at work! (he doesn't know how to code)

When I was a very suicidal trans activist in Texas, Benjamin Sisko saying “sure, you would [die for your people]. Dying gets you off the hook. The question is: are you willing to live for your people?” changed and possibly saved my life. It’s up there with “if we are going to be damned, let us be damned for who we really are” from Picard. Star Trek not only shows us a better world, it teaches us how to make it there

someone on twitter said he looks easy to draw so i drew him

ig: harbsy

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Something my friend posited to me which I thought was excellent today:

We have a problem when we choose, as a society, to define ‘transgender’ as that which is necessarily causing unhappiness. “Being trans is bout being unhappy with the body you were born with” “Being trans means you feel distressed with your gender” “Being trans means you don’t like X, Y and Z about your life and want to change it.”

It’s important to recognise and support transgender people through suffering. But I question how healthy it is to actually define transgender life by that suffering, on a day to day basis, in the real lives and dialogues with real trans people. Let’s flip it for a second:

“Being trans is about realising what you need to be happy in your body.” “Being trans is about rejecting what hurts in favour of what brings joy and meaning.” “Being trans mean’s looking forward to changes in life that will improve general wellbeing.”

This label shouldn’t be associated in the public mind with self-loathing- it should be associated with self-love.