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people online will try to tell me that I haven’t experienced “real abuse” because my dad never hit me but like. He didn’t allow me to drink water for hours on end while he cranked the heat up even in the summer. We weren’t struggling to afford it and he had plenty. He was allowed to drink water, but I had to sneak gulps from the bathroom sink. He also made me eat inordinate amounts of salty food. I don’t care if he never hit me, that is abuse. The first thing I would do when I got to my moms house was chug a glass of water, but I didn’t know how to tell her what had happened because it wasn’t “real abuse”
"But calling that abuse is offensive to victims of real abuse."
People always say this whenever something socially acceptable is labeled as abuse.
But that's not how abuse works. Not even close. Abuse, even "real abuse", always starts off being socially acceptable. Then, the abuser slowly experiments to see how much they can get away with.
Calling it "abuse" for a parent to expect obedience is not downplaying what victims of "real child abuse" experience. It's literally how "real child abuse" starts. First, the parent expects obedience. Then, once they can get away with that, they can justify punishments for disobedience. Then, once they can get away with that, they can gradually justify crueler punishments. Then, they eventually justify hitting, which society considers okay as long as it's only as a last resort. Then, it becomes more common, which they still get away with as long as the child doesn't end up in the hospital. Then, when the beatings become bad enough that the child does end up in the hospital, the parent can claim it was an "accident" and that they didn't mean for it to go that far. Then, when they face no consequences for their "accident", they can do it more often.
Calling it "pedophilia" for a middle aged adult to date an 18-year-old is not downplaying what victims of "real pedophilia" experience. It's literally how "real pedophilia" starts. First, they date an 18-year old, which society allows because "they're an adult". Then, they start specifically preferring 18-year-olds. Then, they start openly admitting that it's because they want someone less opinionated and more likely to obey. Then, once they know that they can get away with openly thinking of 18-year-olds as children while still having sex with them, it's quite easy to justify a relationship with a 17-year-old.
If you want to stop "real abuse", stopping the "lesser abuse" must be a priority.
also if anon comes back and asks “what does colonialism have to do with anything” they’re getting blocked lmao
if you don’t know what colonialism has to do with cultural appropriation and racism you shouldn’t be talking. Like ever. About anything.
The whole saga of this person trying so desperately to pretend that cultural appropriation doesn’t exist is all the more reason why sometimes people need to learn when to shut up.
(from now on when I say you I’m addressing anon) You really don’t realize the difference between how white people forced their culture (or lack thereof) onto everyone else and how cultural appropriation is like making a mockery of something that isn’t yours. This isn’t a “centuries ago” type of thing, there are people whose grandparents were alive when segregation was legal. The sun hasn’t set on the British empire until this year, and they still refuse to pay off the debts they owe to their colonies. Cultural appropriation is like an adding insult to injury, and you don’t need to be “stuck in the past” to see that modern day countries who are struggling with their economy could use financial compensation for what was stolen from them. It’s the same with systemic racism in the US being manifested through redlining and now cuts on DEI. Defending cultural appropriation is a symptom of how internalized all the gaslighting of people of color in our society has gone, and how anti-Blackness has infected the ideology of other people of color. I’ve been lucky enough to live in a place where overt racism in conversation is frowned upon, but I don’t go around on the internet telling people to “just heal” because I personally haven’t been through what they have. You’re not “above” the effects of racism just because you try desperately to ignore it, and you’re not helping by picking fights with someone on tumblr who is voicing an opinion on their culture. sorry for the rant, people being stupid makes me verbose
What can I say 🤷🏽♀️ like I said I have nothing to do right now, and this is important enough for the moment.
but I think I need to accept you ain't even gonna try to see a different side, or even entertain the possibility that you might be able to choose a different way, and you don't really WANT to. You seem to like this constant combative state you seem to live in. (yet you complain)
you're right anything is better than this right now because it's getting to a point where you are no longer coherent, your sentences aren't even making sense (even more incoherent now than when you were to begin with).
are you truly happy on the inside? - can you be honest and say that for sure? Are you truly at peace? - honestly? Are you sure of yourself and who you are? Do you realize just how much (a great deal) you are actually worth no matter what else is going on around you, or what people say, or how they treat you? — [I don't want answers, this is just for you]
good luck to you. 🫡
“ArE yOu TrUlY hApPy? 🥺 ArE yOu At pEaCe?”
homie is this a dragging or a guided meditation?? pick a struggle before you start the next paragraph lmao 💀
This post has consumed my feed
It reappears every thirty seconds of scrolling
I see it in my dreams
I cannot escape your ❤️ of fat boys
i ❤️ fat boys
Okay what wise guy decided to advertise MAGA merch on the fujoshi website?
Ow. Just finished the telltale Batman series. Yowch. Oof. Ow.
This is my blog where I post coherent things about fandoms and the like. I enjoy researching dead gay people, Kendrick Lamar, the Dishonored games, Batman, Sherlock Holmes, P. G. Wodehouse, The Talented Mr. Ripley, media that blurs the line between being good and being really bad, and YouTube video essays about things I don’t care about.
if you dislike a post I make, just leave me alone or block me. I don’t care why you think my ship is wrong or whatever people tell each other to kill themselves over these days. Also please no overtly sexual conduct. Basically if you wouldn’t say it to a minor, don’t say it to me.