Positivity - Blog Posts
What I Mean When I Say I’m Sex-Positive
I think freedom of sexuality is something that we all need and very few of us have
I think sexual pleasure is a legitimate thing to want and ethically pursue
I do not judge people for the (consensual) sex that they have or want
I will not tolerate slut-shaming
I will not tolerate hatred of people based on gender or orientation (including asexual)
I will not tolerate hatred of sex workers
I believe comprehensive, honest, non-judgmental sex education is necessary for public health and happiness
I think understanding of sexual consent—what it is, why it matters—is sorely lacking in society and crucially important
I reject preconceptions of what kind of sexuality a person should have, whether these preconceptions are based on gender, age, culture, disability, survivor status, or basically anything else
I value people’s individual freedom of choice in determining their sex lives (including the choices not to have sex)
What I Don’t Mean
Everyone should have sex
Everyone should have kinky, non-monogamous, exhibitionistic, pansexual sex
Accepting someone’s sexuality means you have to participate in it, watch them engage in it, or hear about it in detail
Nothing related to sex is ever hurtful for anyone
Feminism should be all about sex
Sex fixes everything
*blows a kiss to the monitor* for fanfiction writers
A shout out to writers who support writers
Writers who may be feeling insecure out their own writing, yet still enthusiastically reblog and comment on someone else’s fic.
Writers who may struggle to find time to write their own stories, yet still read fics and take the time to let the writers know how much they like it in tags, asks, comments.
Writers who can appreciate and share a fic even though it might not be their ship or their “thing” because they respect the quality and the writer.
Writers who have tons of followers and share lesser known fics to help them get exposure.
Writers who have a small number of followers and will still reblog the popular fics.
Writers who will help another writer brainstorm or get through a tough part of their fic.
Writers who beta for other writers.
Writers who are kind and secure enough to support other writers.
I see you, and appreciate the hell out of you.
I love being Asexual
Because my acethetic is on point.
Daily Affirmation 682.
Having sex does not make you human. Wanting sex does not make you human. Feeling sexual attraction does not make you human. You can have, want, or feel some of these things, or all of them, or none of them, and still be human. Humanity is an intrinsic part of your existence. Nobody gets to take it away from you because of your asexuality, regardless of what that means you do and do not want.
Reblog if you recognize pan/poly/demi/gray/asexual as legitimate sexualities
feel free to add more but i’m proving a point for the less recognized people
bi/ace/pansexual wallpapers!!! suggest other sexualities or genders if you’d like!
i will never allow anybody to make me feel shame about myself ever again
replacing empty thoughts and compulsive reassuring myself that "everyone loves me" with "i'm doing this for myself"
i love 🍒. i love myself. i love the people around me who are distant but kind. who want me to uphold my boundaries. who want things to be better for me. who i don't have to rely on and who don't rely on me. who give me space. who let me improve. we will make things better for me. i will make things better for me. and i don't ever have to go back
forcing myself to stop performing, freeing myself from relying on people who scare me, and letting myself use that energy instead to prioritise me and my joys and my future has made me so much happier than i expected
safe house checklist:
my clothes, organised, folded in kind of open shelving unit or hung in a closet
a bookcase for my manga, books, little plastic toys, and figurines
a bed with extra cushions and lots of different kinds of blankets (duvet, soft thin warm blanket, light blanket, heavy rough patterned blanket)
warm light (lamps, hanging lanterns near windows, star string lights)
at least one cat who loves me
plastic boxes for storing my cosplays
a jigsaw puzzle and other tactile activities for occupying my time
a (brown?) table with warm light for doing my jigsaw puzzles on
lots of soft rugs around my tables
a sofa with cushions and blankets maybe to have a second quiet place to rest
a kitchen with jars and containers of my non perishable safe foods (tea, cereal, pasta, rice)
a kettle, my small rice cooker, a toaster, a stove, a microwave, an oven, a fridge, a freezer, and a sink
a shower, a toilet, a bathroom sink, a bathroom mirror, some bathroom rugs
windows i can open to let kind air and sunlight in during daytimes
i hope i can see hills or trees outside
it will be quiet
it will smell gentle
i can sleep anywhere i want and be safe with my cat
it will not be dirty and it will be nice because it reflects me and i am nice
it is a nice place to be and i have control over it
nothing will make me hate it because i will endeavour to never let anybody make me hate me
i am a person and my space is good and safe
and one day i will live somewhere safe
and one day i will live
and there will be love for me there
You are going to laugh until your stomach hurts again. You're going to be in awe of a sunset. Watch your favorite show while you eat your favorite food. Find money on the street. Discover a great band you haven't heard of before. You will find your way back.
Pros of chubby gf
- soft
- nice hugs
- thigh pillows??? Tiddy pillows??
Cons of chubby gf
- none
Pros of skinny gf
- fits in ur arms rly nicely
- ur hoodies are too big on her which is beautiful
Cons of skinny gf
- none
Pros of muscled gf
- abs?? Biceps??? Please???
- strong gf pick me up pls
- most likely works out a lot which is hot
Cons of muscled gf
- none
Its National Coyote Day! I look to them as my guiding animal, a true spirit of resilience, resistance, and growth. Every day I am grateful to embody and honor them.
Need some Coyote Courage? Both availiable as medium and large prints here.
its only 10am and today is already off to a bad start,, hopefully it gets better.. well let me trust in positivity ♡
We need to start telling Black girls that they’re beautiful again I’m so fucking serious. Enough of the “average Black girl” bullshit and pretending to be positive while tearing yourselves(and other Black women) down. No, you are not average just because you don’t wear makeup or wigs or extensions and aren’t slim thick and don’t look like an IG baddie(no shade to IG baddies ofc, you do you!). The whole “well ya see saying all women are beautiful is misogynistic because it places beauty as our primary value as women” shit doesn’t apply to Black women and never has. Black women live in a society that insists on telling us that we’re not beautiful any time we try to be confident about ourselves and how we(naturally) look. So let’s not give them the satisfaction. All Black girls are beautiful. Lightskin, brownskin, darkskin, short, tall, skinny, fat, muscular, cis, trans, girly, tomboyish, short-haired and long-haired, no matter what you look like, if you are a Black girl, then you are beautiful by default! Period! 💅🏿
things you can do at any stage in life:
love yourself
have a fresh start
go back to school
recover
make new friends
fall in love
go to therapy
learn a skill
discover your passion
repair relationships
change the world
find a new hobby
be happy
it isn’t too late for you. you’ll be okay. there’s no time limit on happiness.
It's okay to 'grieve' things that aren't just death. I've allowed myself to grieve a friendship ending, a situationship, losing something important to me, etc. It's okay to give yourself time to process the loss of something. Grief looks different for everyone, try to find a way that works for you to help make it easier for you.
It’s important to remember that affirmations are not meant to be said just when you’re ready to believe them. We practice affirmations so that we can offer ourselves reminders of kindness and do our best to act on them. It’s okay if you can say “I deserve good things” but can’t believe it yet. The goal is to gently work yourself up until you can.
This post exempts you from any and all “If you don’t ___ this post, ____ will happen.” You are hereby immune to it all. You are now protected! Be free!
You have to stop ruining things for yourself preemptively because you believe they’ll fail anyway. Give yourself a chance to succeed.
Stopping yourself mid-conflict to change your perspective is allowed! It’s okay and normal to be mid argument with someone and realize you disagree with your own stance. Often I find myself and others caught up in trying to win the argument (not the point of arguments!) or too embarrassed to back down and be wrong. I promise there is so much more pride in going “Stop! I’m wrong. I hear you and I see how I wasn’t in the right and I want to amend my view” than digging your heels in.
It's okay if you don't feel hopeful about the future right now. If hope is out of reach, try curiosity instead.
I’m sitting here laughing now but it’s crazy how my attitude switches up in just a few days. Like how was I trying to run a little ed blog like 4 days ago now everything’s all good and I’ve decided that hmmm maybe I don’t want to starve myself, or at least don’t need to as I’m only a teen and with that still developing so why ruin my bodily functions and even more so what do I get out of hating myself. I have had on and off disordered eating habits for a while now but I think I genuinely have the drive to keep pushing and take care of myself even when I don’t want to this time, and I know it will take a while to love or at least like myself, so I’m trying to start now. I feel as if I can consider myself lucky to not have fallen into severely disordered and extremely damaging eating habits and since I am overweight with a bit of a slower metabolism I think that gave me some wiggle room as well which I’m thankful for as I was able to not get sick. Kinda a bunch of yap but yea and PLEASE EAT SOMETHING FILLING AND MAKE SURE TO DRINK WATER‼️🫵🏾🫶🏾