Positivity - Blog Posts
(repeated like a mantra while rubbing my temples) i will stay silly and not allow the world to make me bitter and cruel. i will stay silly and not allow the world to make me bitter and cruel. i wi
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Life is short, eat the Cookie!
Sometimes we can all be a little hard on ourselves. I am definitely the first one to admit this. There were days where i didn’t see any beauty in myself, which in turn I didn’t see much beauty in the world. You just have to step back and give yourself a break every once in a while. I DID! And i’m learning to live life each day to the fullest, appreciating the little pleasures hidden in the everyday grind.
Everyone deserves to live a happy life, and appreciating the little things is a GREAT START! Doing what makes you happy is a great way to boost your self-esteem, and see how beautiful life can truly be.
Yesterday, I planned on going for a run being that the weather was perfect and getting back into my workout routine is one of my top priorities. All day I thought about it, I even talked about it, I was determined to get my miles in. But as the day went on I found things to do around the house that were far more important, at least that’s what I told myself. PROCRASTINATION! (and ill let you in on a little secret, I didn’t get much done around the house either)
Chalking up my day to being a lazy day in, not too thrilled with myself for not getting much done, I was just going to go to bed and start over the next day, DETERMINED to go on that run ;) I walked out into the living room to get a glass of water, and BAM!!! I was hit with it. The warm, sweet, chocolaty, aroma of a FRESH BAKED batch of chocolate chip cookies.
Before I could even compliment my roomie on the smell of her midnight snack, she tells me that she baked some cookies and to come help myself. Now i’m going to be honest here, my first initial reaction was exactly what i’m trying to steer away from, “YOU don’t DESERVE cookies” and the landslide of negative thoughts about myself stemmed from there. At the top of the list was “you didn’t go on your run today, how dare you eat a cookie” Followed by “you’re out of shape” and “you didn’t stick to your diet already today” Its crazy how easy one negative thought can turn into a landslide, and sooner or later you’re just beating yourself up.
At this point I took a step back and took my own advice, appreciating the little things and not being so hard on myself. My house smelled amazing and my roomie took the time and effort to bake a fresh batch of cookies. So I grabbed a pretty plate, 2 cookies, and my favorite coffee mug and filled it with some milk. (I don’t even drink milk, but when in Rome right?) And a random batch of cookies turned into a night of laughing and watching reruns of our favorite guilty pleasure, Desperate Housewives.
The point of this story is allowing myself to EAT THE DANG COOKIE turned into a fun night with my roomie, and of course catching up on the drama of our little guilty pleasure ;) I truly appreciated the little things, no matter how little they were. I appreciated my beautiful plate and goofy coffee mug and the fact that I was able to have nice things. I even appreciated the milk, even though I don’t really like milk, there was something rather refreshing about dunking a fresh baked cookie into a mug of ice cold milk. And of course I appreciated my awesome roomie!
I even was able to put my own little positive spin on consuming a bunch of sugar after midnight. It was the little bit of motivation I needed for myself to get up the next morning and go on my run. And that’s what I did. I started today off with a great run on a nice day, and with an open mind of what beauty the rest of the day had in store for me.
Give yourself the permission to enjoy life’s simple pleasures. Allow yourself the gift of doing absolutely nothing, like me on my lazy day in. And give yourself a little bit of praise when you accomplish the little things, like me on finally getting to that run. Life is too short to be so hard on ourselves so I am giving you permission to cut yourself a break and….
EAT THE COOKIE!
An Abundance of Lemons!
It’s no secret that the hustle and bustle of todays world is enough to wear anyone down. Facing the daily challenges we all encounter is not necessarily the easiest thing to do. It is very easy to fall into a funk and lose the motivation and passion for things we all love to do. The things that make us HAPPY.
Good News!! You are definitely not alone in this.
Take it from someone who has had their fair share of insecurities, challenges, and struggles. I have allowed these things to bring me down and shift my outlook on life for a very long time. It was hard to find the beauty in anything. I was ready to throw in the towel and just give up on being happy and living to my full potential.
Today, I choose to live my life by the cheesy quote we all have heard a million times. “When life gives you lemons, MAKE LEMONADE!”
Now, having had an ABUNDACE, and I mean ABUNDANCE of lemons thrown my way. I am choosing to well, make some Out-of-this-world LEMONADE!!!
Cooking has always been a passion of mine, but has definitely been put on the back burner. No matter how mouth watering delicious or how....interesting...the final product came out, I always found a sense of relaxation and accomplishment after spending some time in the kitchen. Follow me on this journey of making life FUN again!
Its time to boost our health, calm our minds, and brighten our souls. Its time to make life SWEET AGAIN.
Lets get Cookin!
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My whole life summed
fun fact nonbinary ppl with boobs, nonbinary ppl who like their boobs, and nonbinary ppl who want boobs are cool and valid and just as nonbinary as ppl w flat chests and deserve to have a good time all the time
in case you forgot
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you are gorgeous
you are smart
you are valuable
you are loved
you are strong
you got this ! ♡
[A messily drawn character, who has a White orb for a head with a blue Pancho, a red hat, and black boots is saying "I am very sick, but that won't stop me from loving you!"]
Onwards we ride
After some good thinking, I came to a conclusion. I've had kinda enough of suffering and tormenting my mind, so I thought maybe having a good talk with myself. Through it I decided that, even if it was hard to admit it, it was time to let go of some people, and of old pains. Yes, I've been hurt, and I did some mistakes in the past cuz of it, and I don't justify them. But now? I know I'm fighting, and so I'm sure it'll hurt (like every war does) but samewise, I know it's for a good cause and reason, so I'm ready to smile at the pain and take it out, and find peace in my endeavors. And yes, I'll miss some people, but I gotta accept I'm not responsible for everyone's fate, so I'm happy I got to share a part of my life with them. There's no denying that it's hard to accept the pain, especially when pressured, but it's the only way to let go and move on from it. And accept that ur trying to do better. Be at peace that rn, ur a better person, and u wanna fight for good...
E lá vem outro dia...
Único, abençoado... iluminado.
Seja com sol... chuva, nublado ou claro... é um presente.
Presente esse que nós recebemos com 'bilhetinho' dizendo assim:
"- Este dia é todinho teu, como presente... é a graça de mais um dia de vida".
... E o que podemos fazer?
AGRADECER, aproveitar e fazer dele, o nosso melhor dia...
Sorrir, caminhar, olhar com ternura a natureza e com amor o nosso próximo.
Podemos acrescentar mais esperanças aos nossos sonhos e força em nossa fé.
Podemos viver... simplesmente viver.
Bom dia.Abracos ❤️mil 💋❤️bjs 💋❤💋😎😋🤓🤗😆😘
ツ ╭∩╮(-_-)╭∩╮▉◯ bom dia ◯▉
As the sun sets, the moon rises. As the day ends, the night begins. As terrible things come to an end, beautiful things begin and take part in life.
love all my friends on the internet. thank you friends on the internet
Wallpaper with my queen Amy
~ Julia💫
Jacksepticeye wallpapers Just something i was working on for the last week I hope you like it @therealjacksepticeye Love you all and I hope you have a great day!!
Julia 💫
Happy midnight! The old day is gone, and good riddance to it. This is a new day! And every day can be the start of a new era.
if you have violent intrusive thoughts I love you. if you have sexual intrusive thoughts I love you. if you have bigoted intrusive thoughts I love you. you are not your thoughts and you are worthy of love and care and help and affection. you are not a monster you’re a person going through it and that’s okay
You’re still chronically ill if you have a good day. You’re still valid. Your chronic illness is still valid if you have one good day out of a hundred bad days.
you know what, shoutout to the neurodivergent people with "scary" symptoms.
the ones who:
-say dark things without realizing
-talk to themselves
-have homicidal thoughts
-get really, really angry
-make others uncomfortable on accident
-don't tolerate bullshit
-can't/won't mask
-have dark interests
-have genuinely hurt others before
-have been in a psych ward before
-obsess over people
-have intrusive thoughts about hurting people
-have sexual intrusive thoughts
-don't really care about others much
-always choose themselves first
-have low/no empathy
-are seen as creepy or scary by others
this goes out to my folks with autism that isn't "uwu cute". personality disorder havers. schizospec people. ocders. odd and ied havers. and anyone and everyone else.
this post does not support intentionally hurting people. but people who have hurt others in the past and have changed or are trying to change/in the process of changing are more than welcome here.
Shout out to the ten year old who just got diagnosed. Shout out to the housebound fourteen year old. Shout out to the eighteen year old who can’t go to the university they wanted. Shout out to the twenty two year old who can’t get a job. Shout out to the twenty six year old with a caretaker. Shout out to the thirty year old who can’t buy their own house.
Shout out to young disabled people. We exist.
dear fellow career driven spoonie,
you’re not a failure, you’re sick.
you were putting just as much effort forward before you were sick as you are now, you just have less energy to use so the results aren’t as exciting. it’s not complacency if you’re putting forward an effort.
it’s normal for your work life to suffer when your personal life does. you’re not a robot, you’re still a person, it’s unrealistic of you to expect yourself to be able to compartmentalize your symptoms at work. your body doesn’t care where you are or who’s time you’re on and it’s okay.
if all you can do is maintain your responsibilities, that is enough. you are probably not going to get fired if all you’re doing is what’s on your job description. it’s okay that you can’t put anything extra forward to grow. you’re growing in other ways right now.
even if you lose your job, you’re still not a failure. you’re not defined by the fruits of your labor, but by the substance of your heart and you are still that same career driven person who worked so hard in that position in the first place.
the reason why you’re successful isn’t because of what you’ve done, but who you are. take pride in your talent, motivation, knowledge, intelligence, and grit. that’s where your value lies.
to the disabled person who needs to hear this:
you don't have to earn or "deserve": resting, sleeping, taking your medications (including OTC meds, cannabis, creams, etc.), using your mobility aids, eating, declining to go to an event, choosing to stay home, having a self care/lazy day, or taking care of yourself in any other capacity. you can be good to yourself today.
shaking myself (very gently) . being in pain takes a lot of energy!!!!!! being in pain is exhausting!!!!!!! you are not lazy or weak because you need to spend so much time resting, this is your body coping with how much pain you’re in literally 24/7!!!!!!!!!
"Oh you talk to yourself! That's unhealthy!"
UGHHHHH NO ITS NOT SHUT UPPPPPP. I'm tired of people acting like it's a bad thing! I talk to myself because what ELSE am I supposed to down with all this energy??? I talk to myself because it makes me feel like I'm releasing energy! ITS A GOOD THING and actually BENEFITS ME. And I only do it when I'm alone anyways, so who CARES.
DESTIGMATIZE TALKING TO YOURSELF.
hey, disabled person! do you feel tired all the time? do you feel like you’re working twice as hard as abled people for half the outcome? do you take longer to do every single little thing than an abled person would see as reasonable? well. I would like to introduce you to the concept of crip labour (I first came across this in Smilges, 2023 but I cannot verify whether they came up with the term)
crip labour is a term to describe all the extra work disabled people do on a day-to-day basis. it’s also a form of labour that is invisible to abled people, because they just don’t have to think about most of it. it includes:
the extra labour required to get ready to leave the house in the morning (e.g. the extra steps involved in getting dressed or having a shower)
the social labour required in order to communicate your needs to abled people
the labour involved in having to plan ahead (e.g. knowing where accessible toilets are, knowing where ramp access is, knowing which venues are safe for you to be in)
the administrative labour involved in gaining access to particular institutions (e.g. applying for disability welfare, applying for education access plans, etc)
having a term to describe all the labour involved in keeping yourself alive and happy helps to make that labour more visible. it gives us a way to point out that we are doing more and with less capacity, and it helps to explain why so many of us are so exhausted all the goddamn time
so I hope this is a helpful term for people to bring into their lives!
