The Bear - Blog Posts
Listen LISTEN I will not defend all of Carmy’s behavior this season but I will always defend him breaking down and crying after confronting David. Because imagine standing up to someone who made your life a living hell for several years, after you finally got the courage to do so and you tell them about how their behavior hurt you and how it still does and all they have to say is that they don’t give a fuck. Then you have every right to break down in a hallway.
THIS!!! He’s far from perfect and his behavior has been questionable but he’s also unlearning everything he’s ever been taught and that takes time. We saw everything he internalized from the Chefs he worked with, the good and the bad, everything that made him who he is as a chef and a person. It’s going to take time and therapy to go through all that trauma and learn how to let go of things that aren’t benefiting him. Carmy’s got a long way to go in the healing process but so does Syd and maybe they can do it together
ngl watching how some of y’all talk about Carmen makes me so fucking depressed as someone with a lot of baggage and trauma
no one said you have to put up with bullshit behavior forever, but if you think that someone who was torn down every day of their life is gonna be perfect the moment they realize they have a problem to fix in themselves, you’re going to be disappointed. repeatedly. forever.
none of y’all deserve Sydney either, bc she’s a damn good depiction of what it’s like to be someone who loves and cares for someone who’s fucked up. A side of the equation I ALSO happen to be familiar with. you hold that person accountable for shit behavior, back away when you need to for your health, and because you love them, you fucking come back.
Idk what kind of interpersonal relationships y’all have that can so easily be thrown away the moment shit isn’t perfect the way YOU need it, but this fucking “I don’t owe anyone anything least of all my shoulder to cry on” mindset sucks dick and balls when applied to media as much as it does in real life.
People are burdens. Plain and simple. Community requires sacrifice, love and partnership requires sacrifice. Or at the very fucking least: compromise.
Like. If you met someone who understood you better than anyone, a person whose entire life has been parallel to yours in a way that uniquely binds the two of you, y’all would really just fucking walk away WITHOUT SAYING ANYTHING just because they’re hurting and lashing out? Because that’s what y’all are advocating for, and that’s the fucking problem.
So many of y’all have this “I shouldn’t have to speak up and set a boundary” mindset. you just fucking sulk and stew in it and then blow up because you never set your foot down when you needed to.
Even if Sydney walks away from Carmen, she needs to fucking speak up or she’s gonna get walked on AGAIN. She deserves better but she also has to fucking ask for it. And that’s entirely separate from the fact that Carmen needs to pull his head out of his ass.
Either way, I think we would all do well to fucking self-reflect.
S3 was a pure mix of good and bad writing but all the good writing got overshadowed by the fact that whenever the Faks showed up on screen I wanted to explode
The only time I’ve supported Claire and ever will is when she had to tell the Faks to leave when they showed up at her FUCKING JOB to try and get her to forgive her ex
Somehow not paralleling Sydney’s panic attack with either of Carmy’s makes me even more sick than directly paralleling the scenes would’ve. Because what do you mean you’re going to show Syd desperately searching for a grounding, something to bring her back to earth and then cut away to Carmy a thousand miles away both mentally and physically, still running from everything whereas Carmy sees/ hears Syd and almost immediately calms down. Are you trying to tell me that Syd is always, always there when he needs her to be and that Carmy can’t even be there when she needs him the most is that what you’re trying to tell me Storer??
Watching The Bear season 3 mood board
We don’t appreciate the Women of The Bear nearly as much as we should (Syd, Tina and Nat specifically). They are carrying the weight of the world on their shoulders, running the restaurant, cleaning up every one’s messes, all the while being the most kind and caring people you’ve ever met when they have every right not to be
Crazy how people can watch The Bear and miss one of the most integral parts of the story, Change and all that comes with it; all of the joy, all of the pain, every good and bad moment, the fear of changing and the understanding that change is a necessary part of growth. Richie fighting against the Changing of the neighborhood and restaurant he’s known his whole life to eventually accepting it and finding his purpose through that. Ebra, same as Richie, fighting against change but coming to an understanding that change must come whether it’s welcomed or not. Tina, Syd, and Marcus welcoming the change, tapping into their full potential and becoming the incredibly talented chefs they were meant to be. Carmy being faced with an ultimatum, continue on the way you are, down a destructive path, pushing everyone and everything that you love away, and end up the same way your mother and brother did, or change, accept that you will have to change your way of living in order to move forward in life and let go of the past that you so desperately cling to, to move towards a bright and beautiful future that welcomes you with open arms.
I feel like we breezed past that guy leaving mid shift to smoke crack in the alley in the finale a little too fast
Oh I am unwell
Cause I hate this story
Where happiness ends and dies with you
I thought good guys get to be happy
I'm not happy
I am poison in the water and unhappy
-ethel cain, hard times
Guess I’m a midwestern dad now
New meme template just dropped
FX please stop playing with my emotions I’m not strong enough for this
The entirety of The Bear fandom rn
I need Fak and everyone else to stop speaking for Carmy and for Carmy to stop letting people speak for him and tell him how to feel. Carmy’s a grown ass man capable of speaking for himself and i need everyone to start acting like it
Me eating up any SydCarmy crumbs FX is willing to give me
Anyways that trailer was amazing
LET’S GOOO!
The Bear S3 Trailer
Chris Storer let Carmy be happy this season challenge (impossible)
A comprehensive list as to why I think Carmy x Claire shouldn’t be together:
It took Carmy a good 10 seconds to remember Claire’s name at the store
Carmy originally gave her a fake number, so she hunted down Fak to get his real one
Claire had to make him repeat his real number to her even though he looked like he was fighting for his life to not hang up the phone
Their dates weren’t dates, they we’re running errands and not the sweet “I love doing mundane stuff with you kind” the “my cars not working so I need a ride kind”
When they attended the house party Carmy was clearly uncomfortable and quite literally pretended to be someone else the entire time (Logan)
Mikey and Richie pressuring Carmy about Claire in fishes even though he clearly just wants them stop and let it go
THE PANIC ATTACK SCENE, Carmy trying to his damndest to picture Claire to help himself calm down but it’s not working and the moment he pictures Syd he can breathe again
They had brief crush on each other in high school and nothing more, they were never close friends if anything Mikey and Richie seemed closer to Claire than Carmy ever was. Their conversation in the car backs this up because Claire talks about knowing and thinking Mikey was cool, but not a lot about Carmy
Every time Carmy was asked if Claire is his girlfriend he couldn’t answer, he even has to ask Fak if Claire is his girlfriend
Not to make this about SydCarmy but to make this about SydCarmy he does all these intimate things with Syd (i.e. the table scene, the monogrammed jacket, you deserve my full focus, opening an entire restaurant with her) but he can’t even bring himself to call Claire his girlfriend
There was no point where Carmy showed any interest at starting or being in a relationship with Claire it was all forced by someone else (i.e. Giving Claire a fake number, Fak giving Claire his real number, Richie and Mikey pressuring him in fishes, Richie and Fak pressuring him even now, only calling Claire his gf after someone told him that’s what she’s supposed to be, hanging out with her only when he runs errands and needs a ride, having to be reminded to invite her to family and friends night)
Their entire relationship felt like an obligation (specifically to Mikey) from Carmy’s part, he never pursued it and never put as much work into it as Claire did
The obvious indications that Claire represents Carmy’s past while Syd represents his future
Claire telling Carmy she loves him for the first time via voicemail after only dating for a few weeks
Carmy unintentionally breaking up with Claire whilst locked in a fridge
Beau Taplin // Wrong Turns
I have not seen one good reason as to why SydCarmy shouldn’t happen. Age gap? They’re maybe 2-3 years apart and both full grown adults. Power imbalance? They very clearly view each other as equals and respect each other deeply (I couldn’t do this without you, You were the best cdc in the u.s.) Professionalism? Many chefs and people who work in the culinary industry have said it’s quite common to have work place relationships. Carmy needs therapy? He can go to therapy AND be in a relationship, many people are. The Bear doesn’t need romance? There are many ships and many canon relationships (CarmyxClaire etc.), yet SydCarmy is the only one you don’t like. They’re better off as friends? Maybe, but many good relationships are a balance of friendship and partnership, so really they can remain besties and be in a romantic relationship.
Chris Storer on June 27th
HE GOT OUT OF THE FRIDGE
I love the idea that once Carmy makes it clear to everyone he doesn’t want to be with Claire, Richie and Fak immediately make it their job to get him and Syd together
