I think
"You need to let new people learn and grow and make as many mistakes as they do because they'll never actually find themselves or be comfortable with a community like ours if we don't lend a helping paw"
And
"older members of the community have a right to be angry at younger members when they shame, water down, or overall push out certain things and people of the community who/which are harmless"
Are ideas that coexist
Do I think it's disgusting to sexualize others dysphoria against their will?
Yes
Do I think it's fine for people to alleviate bottom dysphoria with packers?
Yes
Why does it suddenly change when specie's dysphoria is included