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i love re-consuming media i used to love when i was younger. like wow! child me still is in me i am holding her hand and keeping her safe and doing her favorite things with her!!!!
file -> phrases that are going to shift something in me forever
mugs by sissi.ceramics (4)
decadent hot chocolate
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forcing myself to stop performing, freeing myself from relying on people who scare me, and letting myself use that energy instead to prioritise me and my joys and my future has made me so much happier than i expected
“The main thing is to be moved, to love, to hope, to tremble, to live.”
— Auguste Rodin (1840 - 1917, French)
Important rules/tips I've learned as an adult that helped with anxiety
If people are mad at you, it's their responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess
If they're mad at you in secret anyways, they're the ones in the wrong, not you
If people don't like what you're doing, it's their responsibility to tell you
If they say it's fine when it's really not, they're the ones in the wrong, not you
People are allowed to be wrong about you
If they are wrong about you, wait for them to bring it up, because if you try to, you will inevitably overcorrect
Some people are committed to misunderstanding you. You will not win arguments against them. Yes, even if you explain your point of view. They do not care. Drop it
The worst thing that will happen from a first-time offense is being told not to do it again. Maybe with a replacement if you broke something
You can improve relationships and gauge willingness to talk to you by giving compliments. It's like a daily log-in bonus and nobody thinks twice about it
Most things are better after you sleep on them
Most things are better after you have a meal
Most things are better after you shower
Your brain makes up consequences that are irrational. If the worst DOES come to pass and someone acts like they do in your head, they are overreacting, and you are entitled to say "what the fuck"
If your chest hurts after you feel like you've made a social error, that's called rejection-sensitive dysphoria. It means your anxiety is so bad that it's causing you physical pain, which is a good indicator that you're overreacting. Tense yourself, hold it for 20 seconds, let it go, then find a distraction
If you're suddenly angry at someone after you feel like you made a social error, that's also rejection-sensitive dysphoria. You are going to feel annoyed about it for awhile, but being genuinely pissed off is your anxiety trying to find something to blame to take the responsibility off your shoulders, and getting scared because it can't justify itself. Deep breaths, ask yourself how much you ACTUALLY want to be angry at that person, then find a distraction
"Sour grapes" is more healthy for you than stewing. Deciding you don't like someone who's perpetually annoyed with you, won't talk to you, etc. makes letting go of anxiety over them easier
If people don't like you, they will find reasons to be annoyed with you when they otherwise wouldn't. If people do like you, they will find reasons NOT to be annoyed with you when they otherwise would. People do not ping-pong between the two
You DO have to make a conscious choice not to think about something. If you're having trouble circling back to it, say out loud that you're done thinking about it and why. Then find a distraction
When you're upset, part of you is going to want to make false bids for attention (suddenly texting differently, heavy sighs, etc. but when someone asks you about it, you tell them it's nothing). Do not listen to it. You gain nothing from it except more misery
People like to help people they care about. It makes them feel good about themselves
If you think you're insufferable for needing help, see above. Yes, really. They get a serotonin kick from it
If you think you're insufferable for mannerisms you have, you either have to consciously choose not to do them, or accept that they're part of the package that comes with you. Being apologetic about existing does nothing except make you more miserable
If you do things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it makes it easier to do them when you hate it
If you avoid things you don't like when you feel meh about it, it reinforces and magnifies how bad it feels when you hate it
Seriously. Read those last two points again. If you can make yourself make a phone call when you've got nothing to lose, you will slowly lose that panic you get when you have to make a phone call you haven't prepared for. You do have to CONSCIOUSLY take that step
Hobbies that make you care for something get rid of that nagging feeling that you're not doing enough. Go grow some rosemary
If you don't engage with your hobbies regularly, you will feel miserable, and anxiety will spike
Hobbies are things that give you a bit of happiness. They do not have to be organized or named to do that. Go be creative in something. Play with coins. Make up lists. Start a new WIP
No one cares what you look like
If people point out things they don't like about how you look unprompted, they are being rude. You are entitled to say "what the fuck"
People who like you will find you pretty to some degree. Minor things about your appearance go completely unnoticed. Literally, scars and dots and blemishes do not register to someone who likes your company
You looking at yourself in the mirror is 10x more closely than anyone is going to look at you
If you're anxious about your body type, and you're creatively inclined, make/write an oc with that same shape. Give them nice things and make other characters love them. Put them on adventures. You'll start to see yourself in the mirror more kindly
You care about wording and perfect lines/colors way more than anyone who views your work ever will
Sometimes when you're upset, you're going to feel like not eating. Do not do that. Not eating makes you more miserable
Same with things you normally enjoy. Denying yourself helps no one. You are punishing yourself for being sad. Stop it
Both of these will take conscious decision to break the habit of. Make yourself do it anyways, and it will slowly get easier
And again, to reiterate: If someone is mad at you, it is THEIR responsibility to tell you, not your responsibility to guess
Animal Crossing: Wild World (おいでよどうぶつの森) ✰ 2005
Why is it?? That I can go through the whole day feeling fine and dandy but the second I lay down for bed impending doom settles on me?
Animal Crossing: Wild World (おいでよどうぶつの森) ✰ 2005
♡ “Sakura Miku: Hanami Outfit Ver.” by Good Smile Company ♡
safe house checklist:
my clothes, organised, folded in kind of open shelving unit or hung in a closet
a bookcase for my manga, books, little plastic toys, and figurines
a bed with extra cushions and lots of different kinds of blankets (duvet, soft thin warm blanket, light blanket, heavy rough patterned blanket)
warm light (lamps, hanging lanterns near windows, star string lights)
at least one cat who loves me
plastic boxes for storing my cosplays
a jigsaw puzzle and other tactile activities for occupying my time
a (brown?) table with warm light for doing my jigsaw puzzles on
lots of soft rugs around my tables
a sofa with cushions and blankets maybe to have a second quiet place to rest
a kitchen with jars and containers of my non perishable safe foods (tea, cereal, pasta, rice)
a kettle, my small rice cooker, a toaster, a stove, a microwave, an oven, a fridge, a freezer, and a sink
a shower, a toilet, a bathroom sink, a bathroom mirror, some bathroom rugs
windows i can open to let kind air and sunlight in during daytimes
i hope i can see hills or trees outside
it will be quiet
it will smell gentle
i can sleep anywhere i want and be safe with my cat
it will not be dirty and it will be nice because it reflects me and i am nice
it is a nice place to be and i have control over it
nothing will make me hate it because i will endeavour to never let anybody make me hate me
i am a person and my space is good and safe
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I made these for my bf, happy New Year’s Eve everypony
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hate when people are like "trust your gut! listen to your intuition!" like okay well my gut is telling me every person i lay eyes on is hunting me for sport and my intuition is saying i should find a secluded cave and live there forever so what do you suggest i do with that information
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❤︎ "I'm so sick of windows, I need something physical Hah, tough luck in a digital world"
WEB BANNERS FOR U!!! ENJOY <333 THESE ARE SO RANDOM LOL
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mundane plurality is each headmate having their own special mug for tea in our headspace kitchen :)
That's so awesome! We should invest in more mugs...
@roach-works // Melissa Broder, "Problem Area" // Mary Oliver, "The Return" // @annavonsyfert // Koyoharu Gotouge, Demon Slayer // Haruki Murakami, Dance Dance Dance // David Levithan, How They Met and Other Stories // Tennessee Williams, Notebooks
– Audrey Hepburn
— Jennifer Niven, All The Bright Places
Alice Notley // Warsan Shire
anime new moon moodboard
Techno ☆彡Trance
Unconditional love isn't a free pass to hurt me.