6lackbeautie

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if you need me i’ll be going where im loved and loving where im going

The inconvenience you are trying to escape is the act of living

Honestly, y'all, I'm begging you. Take the time to think and learn for yourself. Even if it's just something casual like knitting or cooking. Exercise your brain. It's important.

“Living weapon” covers a lot and all of it is hot

Curate everything.

Curate your hygiene routine, curate your clothing items, curate your home, curate your habits, curate your nutrition, curate your environment, curate your circles, curate you socials, curate the content you consume, curate your social skills, curate your financial situation, curate your emotions, curate the version of you that shows up in public, curate your hobbies, curate your knowledge.

i’m starting a collection

idk who needs to hear this, but your wants are not outrageous. you want love? you want attention? you want peace? you want comfort? you deserve it. you're not asking for too much.

honestly I love brom being married to somebody by accident (well. sort of.) and instantly committing

Watched the conclave tonight

"la venida de cristo" (the cumming of christ)

paintings by fabián chairez (mexico, born 1987) also available as a postcard set

his exhibition in mexico city is currently being targeted by extremist religious groups and christian groups are trying to sue him (X) for his work so i thought i would show all of tumblr

"oh you know him"

Black history month is in a couple hours

something you believe?

Plenty of people change their names, change their bodies and faces, and move on from situations and lives that don’t suit them. I don’t see why you, as an everyday person, can’t give yourself more opportunities and start fresh. I will say that I do believe there to be a real difference between running from something (there are exceptions) and simply moving on because you’ve outgrown a situation, but the fact of the matter remains this: you are an adult with free will, and you have the right to exercise that free will however you please. If you don’t like something about yourself, you have the right to change it. You don’t live to please other people; you weren’t born to live up to the expectations that others set for you, and you have the right to create your own life and live it the way you want to. 

I legally changed my name; I filled out all the paperwork on my own, got a fee waiver, represented myself in court, and got it done on my 18th birthday. Why? Because I was given another name in foster care that didn’t represent me, and I didn’t like it, I wanted something better for myself, and it was necessary for me to be able to grow into my own person. It’s the same with my weight loss journey and physical transformation; it was necessary for me to be able to grow into the woman I am today, and I personally felt like I was reclaiming my mind and body at the same time. Another major step for me was shaving my head and allowing myself the freedom of accepting my alopecia. I recreated myself, moved onwards and upwards, and did my best to always do my best. 

You were born to thrive, and thriving means doing what you have to be willing to do what it takes to thrive in the first place. I’ve met far too many adults who use terminology that paints them out to be disobedient teenagers going against what their parents want them to do instead of capable people. You must make the choices to change your own life; that’s the only way you’ll be able to live with yourself. If you are a legal adult, capable of making good decisions, and want to see real changes, you have to be willing to do the work and put in the time to make permanent changes; you have to go through with things even if they seem scary, and you have to be dedicated enough to yourself and your future to keep going even when you don’t want to. You have to take the time and make opportunities for yourself to thrive; you can’t just expect things to happen if you insist upon staying the same and waiting where you are. 

Think I used to get bogged down in “do I forgive this person” “do I even out the scales” “should I stand my ground” but really the question I should be asking is “what would be better for me” bc really. What would be better for me in the long term. What would stay true to my self respect and boundaries and values? What would provide the best outcome? What would make the most of our time? Sometimes that’s forgiveness and sometimes it’s not and I don’t think either route is necessarily morally superior to the other so long as it minimizes harm and is fair while also prioritizing your happiness

Money changes things because if you get your heart broken or something fails, you’re just like it was an experience lol. It’s disappointing but oh well. Tomorrow’s another day. When you’re broke, everything is a big deal because your entire identity and life is wrapped up in one thing (like your relationship or a career or your hobbies or whatever) because you literally have nothing else so you have to force it to work.

this morning I am thinking about the way a space becomes charged by repeated action. Like how would a room that has held a lot of prayers feel different from a concert venue? I'm thinking about your heartbeat imbuing the space in front and behind your chest with its signature and becoming an energy center. The way repeated thought changes your mental landscape, how can intention change the energetic landscape of a space without adding items? If you clap in the room you're in, the air will feel crisp..if you're sensitive to that anyway

This is a ridiculous thing to send someone but the frowny face is truly sending me into orbit.

you’re turning into a slut :(

I’m a 25 year old virgin.

My adaptation of the God of Arepo short story, which was originally up at ShortBox Comics Fair for charity. You can get a copy of the DRM-free ebook here for free - and I'd encourage you to donate to Mighty Writers or The Ministry of Stories in exchange.

Again it's an honour to be drawing one of my favourite short stories ever. Thank you so much for the original authors for creating this story; and for everyone who bought a copy and donated to the above non-profits.

Temples are built for gods. Knowing this a farmer builds a small temple to see what kind of god turns up.

They put crack in Luther. Whatever SZA and Kendrick did to make the song like that has to be illegal. I want more of it.

Another advice for girls and young women: love and sex is supposed to be fun, happy and make your life better. If it’s not, if it’s making you miserable, if it’s making you love yourself less, if it’s making you doubt yourself, and if you feel like you have to sacrifice yourself or put up with things you don’t want to, you are absolutely entitled to throw it out from your life. In fact, you should, because your life is so, so valuable and you have the right to be happy. Being a girl does not mean having to accept misery and pain, even if that’s what we’re often taught. You are allowed to decide what comes into your life. Let it be happy and beautiful.

me

Marketing 2

Okay, I’m finally getting to this. If you haven’t read part 1 yet, please do so first here.

I would like to start answering this ask I received after my first post regarding this topic.

Okay, have you ever heard of.. I don’t know, any celebrity ever? The whole Miley Cyrus crap everyone was pissed off about? That wasn’t her going crazy, that was perfectly planned by a team of pr-agents to sell her album. Kim Kardashian on the cover of Vogue? Well, she simply must have a genius working for her. Anyways, my point is that every person you see on TV, the big screen or listen to is a product. So, as a Sugar Baby you obviously are a a person, but also a product. Ok, I’m pretty sure every halfway intelligent person understands this, so let’s move on from that boring anon and get to the actual post.

Individuality

Most new products are successful because they are different. Try and figure out what differentiates you from others. This is could be anything: Tattoos, piercings, a certain body-type, a special hair colour, a specific type of laugh, majoring in physics, a weird kind of humour. It could be anything, but know what makes you special. Now, not every man will be attracted to this. But sugaring is a widely varied business, so in order to find a good match, you can’t be like the thousands of other girls on the websites.

Know your strengths

What are you good at? Conversation? Seduction? Math? It doesn’t matter. As long as you emphasise on it, you will attract people. When you see a product you are planning on buying, you usually can’t wear it while it cleans up for you. So stop trying to be everything. Everyone is good at something, so be that. Don’t pretend to be something you aren’t. It’s easy to spot a fake Louis. 

Media outlets and tools

As a Sugar Baby, you have a limited number of media outlets you can use to advertise yourself on. These are usually Sugar sites and other websites like craigslist. Depending on your area, you need to figure out which one will be the most effective. When I started out, I signed up for a whole bunch of sugar sites, but I quickly recognised that I was getting the most messages from quality POTs on SA. This completely depends on where you are, so sign up and then see which ones brings the most success. Then, concentrate on those. 

Think about your profile. If your profile and pictures are on point, you are going to save a lot of time messaging pots, they will message you. While writing your profile and taking pictures, keep your strengths, special characteristics and target group in mind.

Don’t let them know.

If your audience doesn’t realise they are being sold something, you are a very smart marketer. Don’t make your profile or messages sound like a sales pitch. Try to write in a way those men can easily relate to. Don’t put yourself on a high horse. Emphasise on your strengths, but also  mention some minor weaknesses in your profile, like smoking or saying “uhm” too much or whatever else. It makes you more relatable, credible and real.

Customer satisfaction and cost benefit ratio.

A lot of products are bought based on good marketing and if they are actually shit, they won’t be purchased again. As a Sugar Baby, that is our unfortunate reality. And while we should never meet a man asking for a “test run”, we need to be the person they wanna see over and over again. Within your limits, try to satisfy them and make them happy. In the end, these men are businessmen and know how to spend their money wisely.

Consumers aren’t born, they are made.

This is really important. Barely any guy our age thinks he’ll want a sugar baby when he’s 40. It’s an artificially created want these men grow into. Try and find out what made this man want a sugar baby? It’s usually pretty easy: Beauty and youth are valued highly in our society. This combined with a nice midlife crisis is usually your answer.

Exclusivity

I have mentioned the importance of exclusivity in Sugaring before, but here is a little tip to end on: Every time someone with an extremely high income messages me, i make sure to open the message but not respond. These are usually the men that dont send out a lot of messages but always get responses. If they see you ignoring them, they will be more interested. I do this all the time and always get a message with a crazy offer. This might sound risky, but it works. Men go crazy over what they they can’t have. 

Marketing 101

According to my tumblr name change, I have decided to tell you guys a little bit about the importance of marketing.

This is why I don’t want to be in a relationship with a sugar daddy. I am the epitome of marketing. My friends and boyfriends might know the real me, but for my SDs I am exactly what they dream about.

So, if you have already satisfied your basic needs like food, you have choices. A lot of choices. Do you want that jacket you found at a cheap shop or do you want the more expensive one? The one you have seen on TV. The one that was worn by that gorgeous celebrity. Everybody will envy you if you have that jacket. You want that jacket. You really do. And it wants you. It will look so good on you. What means more to you? The cute leather purse you found at the thrift shop or that céline bag you are hoping to get from your sugar daddy? The point is: The thrift store jackets and bags can be just as gorgeous and special as the designer products. Maybe even more beautiful. So why do you care about the chanel sign on a product?

It’s because marketers tell you to. A bag isn’t only a thing to throw your stuff in anymore. It’s a representation of your character. A status symbol. It shows the person you want to be. You will spend a ridiculous amount of money to be the person you are trying to be. And there is nothing wrong with that. That bag is a fantasy. And that fantasy isn’t real, it’s marketing.

One thing you need to understand as a Sugar Baby, is that you need to see yourself as the product. I know you are not an item, you respect yourselves (what does that even mean?) and you don’t sell yourselves (blahblahblah). ANYWAYS. PLEASE REALISE THIS IS YOUR JOB. YOU ARE TRYING TO MAKE MONEY. I’m gonna make this as easy as possible from now on.

You are the product. The fantasy. The status symbol. So, why would you not market yourself?

1. Invest.

Every product needs to be developed. Set yourself a budget to be the best you you can possibly be.

2. Find out who your target group is.

You are skinny and small and hot and many men desire you? Great. You are curvy  and beautiful? Great. You are rather thick and have that gorgeous smile? Great. I will not sugarcoat the importance of looks but ya’ll know confidence is key. Men have different wants and needs. None of you will fit all of them, but some of these men will love your physical features. A lot of white men in their 50ties message you? What do they like? You get many messages from indians in their 40ties? Good. What are they into? Whoever these people are, go do some market research. Seriously.

3. Find out what your target group desires.

You are a real person. Not a blow up doll made purely to someone elses pleasure. However, you are doing this to make money. Talk to your POTs/consumers as much as possible. Find out what they want and need. Their hidden desires. Don’t be a shallow bitch and relate to them instead. If you are able to be who they want, be it. 

4. Be yourself. Sometimes.

Don’t ever go anywhere that isn’t in your comfort level. What you are marketing is always the product that you have chosen for yourself and you simply don’t sell extras.

4.Exclusivity

U know how hermés doesnt just sell their bags to anyone? Neither do you. You are as important of a brand, you get the luxury of choosing your customers.

5. Staying relevant

This might be one of the most important parts. You don’t want to be last years trend. The bag in the back of your wardrobe, because it isnt relevant anymore. You know your SD by now. Be what he wants. Know what he desires. Build a dependent customer relationship.  The money will start piling up.

marketing part 2 will follow soon. For now, I am too drunk