Latest Posts by 6lackbeautie - Page 2
This text works every time
Hey handsome. How’s your day going? Just wanted to let you know that I’m thinking about you. Your smile, your face, other…things😏. Have a fantastic day.
Signs of a cop:
Last minute bookings
Refuses to send deposit
Tries to screen using only ID and/or references
Email has different style/sizes of fonts (is clearly copy and pasted)
References don’t have websites or verified ads with their emails on them
If he says he’s staying at a hotel he wants to meet at, call and ask to be transferred to *his names* room. If they don’t have it, red flag
How to have a conversation about a topic you’re not interested in or don’t know anything about:
Listen to what the other person has to say about the topic.
Ask a question about what they said. Asking them to clarify or explain something you don’t understand is great, but any question will do. All else fails, ask them to explain what they like about some part of the topic.
Listen to their responses and go back to step 2.
Do this until 5-15 minutes has passed, then change the subject to a topic of your interest, unless you are actually interested in learning more on this subject, in which case, go on for as long as you like.
Sometimes, they will say something like “I’m sorry to blather on about [topic].” This is an attempt at a conversational dismount. You can either say “no, it was fascinating, thanks” and then bring up your own topic, or you can say “no, it’s fascinating, please keep going” if you want to keep hearing about their topic. Note the tense difference (past -> moving on, present -> keep going).
I just thought I’d write a script for this, because someone who can’t / won’t do this came up in a Captain Awkward column, and listening about topics you have no interest in is a really useful skill to have and not often explicitly taught, particularly to boys and men.
Cultured and Self-Improvement Activities to Undertake when Self Isolation is Over:
Getting a private language tutor. Arabic is my second language and I want to heighten and sharpen my skills even further to full professional capacity. After this, I plan to take group French classes to pick up some lingo!
Cooking classes! I am planning to make a reservation at the best cooking school in the city with a friend for a French 3 course cooking lesson. We will learn to cook ratatouille, cheese soufflé and creme brûlée - paired with glass after glass of red wine!
Salsa dancing: so much fun, great workout and easy way to meet new people!
Deep extraction facial at a high end dermatology clinic to get you ready for your post iso life!
Patisserie lessons at a professional pastry school
Explore high end boutiques with a curated selection of Italian, Scandinavian and European brands of clothing, bags and accessories: learn about fabrics, manufacturing, quality and geography
Watch a classic musical at the Capitol Theatre
Head to community markets in affluent neighbourhoods
Writing workshops! My goal is to exercise the creative side of my writing more, as well as develop professional research methodologies. A 2-3 day group writing workshop is an amazing investment.
Cheese and wine tastings
Horse riding
Boxing classes! Tone up, build insane stamina and lose fat
Supporting local theatre and play performances
Calligraphy class
Improv class - learn to think on the spot, communicate better, and interact with a wide, spontaneous variety of people more effectively!
Seasonal events at art and history museums
Pasta-making class with an Italian nonna!
Exploring a new bar, lounge, pub or venue every week! Experiencing different scenes, vibes, crowds and liquors
How to crop your photos for your SB profiles (not my pics)
Example 1: Use your hair. This draws attention to your hair, while hiding your face. It shows off an asset, and looks very authentic. This is also one of the most natural looking ways to crop a photo.
Example 2: Use your phone. This can be risky because someone who knows you would be able to possibly recognize you. However, it is the most affective and attractive.
Example 3: Partial crop. Cropping out the majority of your face, but leaving your lips and chin hide the most recognizable features of your face. Having the bottom half of your face left in the photo shows that you’re attractive, and still hides the majority of your face.
Example 4: Full crop. This is the least affective, but the most safe. It hides your entire face, leaving virtually no chance of being recognized. However, men won’t have even the slightest idea of what you look like, and this is usually off putting.
The Psychology of Persuasion for Sugar Babies.
As a possible psych major, I thought I’d pass on these concepts I learned last year in class that are important for any sugar baby to know about. These are tips and concepts that will allow you to persuade a POT or SD into giving you what you want.
Foot in the Door- ask for something small; when they give it to you, then ask for something bigger. They have already said yes to you, and are therefore more likely to continue to say yes to you. Use this when out shopping, or when asking for an allowance raise. EX. Ask to go to one store for something you “need.” While your there and their buying you that thing, pick out other stuff too. Again, they are less likely to refuse you because they already agreed to buying the first item. The suggest popping into another store “while we’re out.” Same concept with allowance. Say something along the lines of “the allowance you’re giving me is already so generous, but another $1,000 would really help me out”
Door in the Face- make big request, when they refuse, ask for something smaller. It will seem reasonable in comparison, and they will be more likely to say yes. When asking for an allowance, ask fore more than you really want. Best case scenario, they agree to it. But if they don’t, when you then ask for your REAL desired allowance, it will seem like a bargain in comparison, and they are more likely to agree to it.
Other tips
Repeated exposure to something makes it more appealing. Seeing your POT a few times before agreeing to an allowance may be in your best interest.
Agreement and praise make you more convincing. During your date, compliment your POT and agree with what he says, even if you don’t really agree. This makes him easier to persuade.
On that note, people with low self esteem are more prone to social pressure. If you think your POT has low self esteem, praising him makes him more likely to do what you want.
Context is important. Pleasant surroundings make people more agreeable. Have the allowance talk in a nice place when your POT is in a good mood, it will work in your favor.
Traveling with your SD
Traveling with your SD is an amazing opportunity and experience that every baby should strive for. Even though you might’ve traveled before on your own or with family, it’s nothing like it is when you travel with your sugar daddy! Personally, I love eating breakfast at small littles cafés and not having to go back to the hotel to dress up for dinner but instead go straight from the streets to some backstreet restaurant. Traveling with my family is something I cherish highly and there are many memories I will remember forever from the trips I’ve taken with my friends. But the first time me and Curious traveled together, a whole new world opened up in front of me. Being greeted by my last name in the lobby(or sometimes Mrs. Curious…) and by hotel staff at all times still makes me feel like I’m famous and when I was served Diane von Furstenberg Evian water at the restaurant we spent Valentine’s Day in Rome I was simply in heaven. (I asked for a bottle and it’s still in my room to this day. The weirdest souvenir but I love it!) Let me tell you this though: you have to keep your game face on while you’re on your trip. From taxi to check in to boarding to flight to landing to hotel to dinner to shopping to taxi to flight to landing to taxi home. You have to look immaculate at all times and stay clear from fighting. There is no space for being less than perfect. It’s going to be tiring and you will be exhausted. This is why I’ve decided to put together this guide to preparing for you trip but also how one should act whilst abroad/away. 1. Communication! If you and your SD aren’t on the same page before leaving, you’re not going to have a good time. Pointers on what to bring up before you leave:
What are you expecting from this trip? Physical intimacy etc.
Where are we staying? Will I get my own room?
What is my flight information? Confirmation numbers, what class are we flying?
Will I spend any of my own money? (Hint: if he answers that you might have to, this is your time to get the fuck out.)
2. Beauty regimen leading up to the trip! We all know that being gorgeous is a huge part of sugaring and that there’s no denying that beauty will get you way farther than letting yourself go and giving up on your looks. No matter what your niche is(femme fatale, girl next door, BBW, suicide girl etc.), it needs upkeep. These are some pointers that you should consider before leaving and while on location:
Diet. A month/two weeks before the trip you need to really start thinking about what you put in your body and exercising. A week/few days before you leave a detox could be in order. Juice fast, master cleanse, whatever you prefer. It’ll debloat you, give you an energy boost and make you feel more confident about your appearance in general. You SD loves the way you look regardless(otherwise he wouldn’t be with you), but you always need to exceed his expectations!
Skin. You’re going to spend time in the same bed for an extended amount of time and this means a few things: He will see you without makeup. He will feel your skin a lot more than usual. You will need to keep yourself and your skin silky smooth and free of blemishes. If you’re insecure about your skin, there are steps you can take to help you get through this painful phase(yes it is annoying for all of us, no matter how much we love pampering ourselves). Have a facial a week before. Try a night foundation. (I personally love this one and use it every night. All of the bareMinerals skin care products are amazing. I’ve tried quite a few and it’s on of my favorite brands. ) Follow a strict skincare routine constantly, not only on this occasion. Drink lots and lots and lots of water, green tea and eat healthy foods. Exfoliate, exfoliate, exfoliate and moisturize until you have no idea you could be this soft.
HAIR REMOVAL. This should always be a priority, but at this point it should be an even bigger issue. Even if you’re like me and aren’t intimate with your SD, he will still notice if you’re hairy. He will feel your legs if you’re in the same bed. He will see if your legs have little discolored spots on them. You can wax, shave or use whatever method you’re most comfortable with, but make sure it will last you a long time since you don’t want to worry about it. Armpit waxing is highly recommended. Do whatever you do in your everyday life but do it three times as though.
3. Research the area! Oh my how important this is for several reasons. These include:
If you get in a fight, you’ll want to know where to go.
If you’re like me and have mental health problems, make sure you know where the psychiatric ER is. Also know where hospitals can be found. Write all of this down.
Know where the stores you want to go to are located. This will save so much time that you could spend shopping. Keep the addresses in your phone.
4. Wish lists! I cannot stress this enough! Make a list of the thing you want to buy when you arrive cannot be more important. If you keep in mind what you’re looking for, what needs to be added to your wardrobe, you won’t end up disappointed with yourself once you get home. I look for purses, shoes, high quality clothes that will last you for years. Of course you’ll want to get things that are in style at the moment, but make sure you get what you came there for. A great way to make sure you remember these things is to make online wish lists at stores you want to visit. Barney’s, Harrods, Sephora, Neiman Marcus, Bergdorf Goodman. Keep a tiny notebook in your purse(I love Smythson) with a list of things you really want and need at all times. 5. Time apart! You love spending time with your SD. You adore what he adds to your life. You always have a good time when you’re around him. He is going to start bothering you after a while. Just like any relationship, friction will occur between the two of you at one point or another. For a week’s trip, this is bound to happen. Before things get rough, consider these things:
Spend time alone every day. Do your hair alone, read a book/the news, do your makeup in peace(actually you should be doing this anyway, the way you put on your face should be a mystery).
Get a blow out.
Have him drop you off a store for an hour/45 minutes. Bonus: you get to buy things.
Spa. Enough said.
6. Safety! Oh lord this is important. Just like you stay safe when meeting a POT, you need to stay safe when traveling with your SD/to meet a POT. Even though you think you know him inside out and exactly what he wants from you, you absolutely without a single doubt need to make sure you’ll be safe.
Make sure someone knows where you are. This can be anyone, but preferably someone who really cares for you. Best friend, boyfriend, tumblr SBs.
Keep a list of numbers/places you can go if everything goes to hell. I make a list on actual paper but also carry around some numbers on my phone.
Your emergency contact should be updated every day at the same time. This will keep them from worrying, but let them know if things are starting to feel weird.
Know how much a flight will cost you to get back home and bring at least that much money. It’s also a good idea to bring money enough to get you a hotel room, but that can be overkill. Ask the girls in the tag/that you talk to if they live near where you’re going and if they’d be willing to let you spend the night if needed.
The most important things should be covered now, but if you find yourself wishing for more information, feel free to send me a message and I’ll try to answer you. I’m also going to end this with a question so you can ask me right here. Hopefully you could benefit in some way from this. Traveling with your SD can be absolutely amazing, just make sure you are safe and taken care of and you’ll have a great time! Have a safe trip and enjoy yourself! ?
Thank you! Is it okay if you could give me a bit of advice? I think I want to take the suggestions I’ve read on free styling for more of a spoiled girlfriend route instead of being a sugar baby but I’m going to start free styling this weekend and I wanted to know if you had any other important suggestions you would like to offer.
Note: I want to add that this person sent me a personal message (before sending me this ask) so I will be a addressing a few things that weren’t included in the ask.
My biggest suggestion to you is to remember that free-styling is usually a numbers game. You may not hit it big on your first day/night out so don’t give up on your first try. The first few times you’re out free-styling is really just about you getting use to it and getting comfortable with talking to men. A lot of girls give up on free styling too soon because they didn’t reap any rewards the first or second time they tried. DON’T BE THAT GIRL. Don’t give up on it.
Now onto my suggestions:
Plan ahead. Pick out the places you’re going to visit ahead of time (don’t wait until Thursday night to start looking). I like to pick out a few places to go to that are all close to one another or a place that may have multiple bars/lounges/etc. That way if one place is dead (or I need to get away from a man) my entire night isn’t a total bust because I have multiple places/areas to go to.
Be sure to look at the photos (my favorite place to do this is Yelp because people aren’t trying to stunt on Yelp like they do on IG lol) get an idea of the kind men that frequent this establishment (look at how they’re dressed). You may also get an idea of the attire you should be wearing (if you were unsure).
A quick note on attire: I personally like to dress a bit more on the “conservative” side when I free-style; instead of a mini skirt, it’s knee length, makeup may be the “bombshell” look (especially if I’m going out at night), but it’s done in more neutral colors, etc.
Look at the menu. Aim for places that are $$$ or $$$$ on Yelp, Open Table, TripAdvisor. Even better is to look for places that are recommended for business travelers (if that’s your type). Knowing what you’re going to order ahead of time also makes things easier (I’m one of those people that will read the entire menu 3 days before I go lol).
Have some money with you. Enough to at least buy yourself 2 drinks and a tip. Hopefully you won’t need it, but you never know. Sometimes it’s a slow night, and this is just my personal opinion but I feel like if you’re sitting at a bar with a glass of water or club soda and lime, it’s a tell-tale sign to a trained eye that says “I have no money and I’m waiting on someone to buy me a drink.”
Be nice to bartender/waitress. Make some small talk during the “down” times when you don’t have any POTS to talk to. The bartender/waitress may end up being your best resource when it comes to free styling. Remember, they work here and they know everyone that comes here. And when they see a pretty woman sitting at the bar they’re already halfway assuming that you’re there to catch a man with money. And in this case, the stereotype works in our favor. Usually if you’re nice to them (and tip them well) they’ll be nice to you and “tip” you well. They’ll let you know the best day to do your “hunting” and they’ll let you know who you should avoid and you should chat up.
Also, know when to leave the bar/lounge/lobby. Sometimes it’s just a bad night. Maybe the bartender is being an ass or you’re not meeting any POTs. Pay for your drink and just try another place. Don’t feel like you’re stuck to one place just because it was your first choice.
Now, I know that you were nervous about what to actually say so I’m going to make another post about what to do once you’ve gotten a guy’s attention!
Signature Walk
Ladies! This may sound super cliché but do you all have your signature walk down? If not here’s how to walk around a place like you own it.
1.Look up when you’re walking.
2.Take meaningful steps.. like walk at a moderate pace
3.DONT STUMBLE
4.SWING YOUR HIPS A LITTLE (that’s sexy) but don’t make it obvious
3.You can look peaceful, you can look like you’re all about business, you can smile LOL whatever works for you!
LOOK LIKE THIS!! BE SEXY AND BE YOU! 🧡
How do you take bomb ass selfies or overall photos taken of you? I always look weird as hell and so do my poses, any tips?
• Smile with your eyes, your eyes convey a ton of emotion, they're considered the door to the soul for a reason. Practice in the mirror ways to "pose" with your eyes without moving the rest of your face;
• Practice your smile, a collected and composed smile is beautiful and showcases positive emotions that can connect with the person viewing the picture. Classy ladies know how and when to smile;
• "The serious face", here you must know your angles and put depth into your face. Don't smile but use the muscles around your face to emphasize your eyes, lips (make sure they are moisturized and glossy, or use a matte lipstick) and cheekbones. Here we're trying to achieve/enhance our face symmetry, a tip if to stick your tongue to the top of your mouth instead of letting your jaw lose;
• If you can, take pictures with natural sunlight, the golden hour is a natural filter. If you have brown skin it will make your complexion look like liquid gold. Avoid overly artificial lighting;
• Finally to look good in pictures you must believe you look good. 80% of being photogenic has to do with your attitude and self perception. Learning to serve the camera is a skills that's built over time and requires practice.
Hoes, please stop buying the same AP and HB sets as eachother then shooting with the same photographers with the same concepts and eerily similar captions... it's overdone😅
I've got recs for similarly priced lingerie brands that are way better, quality and design wise, and less circulated on heaux-twitter
For captions, watch a movie, series, or read a book and stop using the same (overused) Charles Bukowski, Pablo Neruda, Pablo Picasso, F. Scott Fitzgerald, Coco Chanel, etc. quotes... same goes for wearing a powersuit and captioning "Ms. (blank) will see you now😀
Sugaring the smart way
My main advice for SBs is have clear and concise financial goals and budget. I’m my opinion there’s no point to sugaring if you don’t have specific financial motivations/goals you’re working towards.
Some examples are:
Paying off student loans
Paying off all debt
Start a business
Travel frequently
Pay rent off for the year
Buy a new car
Get nails done every 3 weeks and hair every month
I write out my financial goals and put an actual cash value to them. I take that add it up and divide that by when I want to accomplish these financial goals. That is how I determine what allowance I need per month.
I also separate my goals into categories. Like expenses, entertainment, 2020 goals, etc. in order to prioritize what I want to accomplish first
Below is a list of some (not all) of my goals and expenses
So in order for me to accomplish my 2020 goals, have my monthly expenses and non essential expenses paid I need to get around $8,500 a month. This helps me determine what monthly allowance I’m willing to accept
In my opinion, if you write down goals and budget it not only a reminder of what you want to accomplish but is a useful tool in determining allowance needs and expectations
Sugar Tips: Casual Touch
Hi Lovelies, So here’s todays wisdom about how to better engage with your SD. So I am personally not sexual with my SDs - especially not right away - so I compiled a list of my tips that are ABSOLUTE must-dos to keep your SD interested. Even if you are sexual with your SDs, incorporating these will help advance your relationship with him:
1. Go For The First Meet Hug
The first time you meet a POT, go for a hug. So this feels quite unnatural for me, so kudos if you would do this anyways. *Red Flag if he immediately becomes sexual/gropey during the hug.* This is better than a handshake and shows that you at least have interest in being near/around him.
2. Casual Shoulder Brush
When you walk past your SD, either on your way to the ladies room, or past him on the couch, brush his shoulders with your hands. Stroke from one side to the other as you pass, lingering your fingers right before you let go. It’ll drive him crazy as it indicates you’re “holding onto him, even as you leave.”
3. Reunite With Your Hands
Again, when you return to your SD, you can do the shoulder brush again on your way back. But what I specifically do, is I reach out to squeeze his hand when I return. Or if I’m sitting next to him at a show/concert, I’ll rub my hand/shoulder against his upper arm. It’s a quick “hello again!” gesture that SDs typically love.
4. Hold His Hand
Holding his hand is a simple intimate thing you can do with him. Even if you’re discreet, you can just do it in private (car, under table, etc). It’s a simple level of intimacy that is reassuring to him - a type of support he likely isn’t getting from anyone else. Idk, SDs just really like holding hands in my experience ☺️
5. Let Him Touch Your Leg
Whether you’re next to him in the car or holding hands under the table at a bar, I sometimes bring his hands to my thigh. It’s really comforting (and sexy!) to the SD because it’s a pretty intimate gesture. If they go for the thigh hold on their own (and you deem it appropriate!) I sometimes put my hand on top of theirs and squeeze it in a way that reassures “I like their hand on my thigh” (lol I don’t tho 😜🙄😝)
6. Casually Lightly Brush His Skin
So this is overall generic, but men are driven CRAZY by slight and casual touching. Crazy in a good way 😘 I’ll brush my hand past theirs if we are sharing popcorn at a movie. I’ll slightly brush past them with my arm if we are in a tightly cramped hallway and I need to get through. I will casually brush my foot against his leg under the table at a date. I’m telling you, casual contact is intoxicating for men ESPECIALLY SDs.
Like I said, casual touching that’s not sexual is really enticing for men. Whether or not you get sexual with your SD, it’s a way to convey you like them enough to not mind being touched - think about it, you wouldn’t do that with a stranger, right? It also gives them a different type of intimate connection that they probably definitely don’t receive anywhere else.
Happy Sugaring,
SSL
Travelling to a Meet POT Checklist
Having travelled to numerous places to meet POTs, I have had a mental note of a little checklist that I always use. I am finally writing it down because I see that a lot of people are interested in travelling to meet their POTs, or sex workers/escorts interested in meeting with clients that are not from the same hometown and wish to travel. Travelling is a lot of fun but you must also be aware and stay safe. Here is a little check list that I have come up with that will help ensure more of your safety and comfort while travelling. Make sure you can honestly answer all these questions and fill it out fully before you travel anywhere!
Xoxo love J (IntlSugarBaby)
Checklist & Questions:
The Security:
1. Do I know his real name?
2. Do I know his business/work?
3. Do I have his real contact information?
4. Have I had a Skype conversation with him yet? (To verify pics are real)
5. Have I had a phone conversation with him yet?
6. Have I researched him enough? (Is he on any criminal web pages, SB blacklist, anything in the news about him, etc.)
7. Did you give all this information to at least 2-3 trusted sources? (Give one to a friend that you trust in person, another one that is from the sugar bowl could be from tumblr, and etc. Make sure people have this information!)
8. Do I have security cash in case things go wrong? (Always make sure you have extra cash on you in case things go wrong. I would say maybe 200-500 extra on you. You never know)
9. Have I discussed intimacy with him? (Does he know that you will not be having sex on the first date you are down there? That you will not tolerate inappropriate behaviour?)
The Comfort:
1. Where am I travelling to? How long am I travelling to this area for? (I only recommend 2-3 days maximum for a first travel)
2. If I am travelling longer than 3 hours on a plane, am I getting first class? (You bet your ass you better be!)
3. Am I getting round trip flights? (Double check and call the airline to make sure it is valid! If you feel more comfortable booking yourself make sure you get all the money to book through PayPal for your trip!)
4. Am I getting my own hotel room? Is it booked with: Four Seasons, W Hotel, Trump Hotel, etc? (Non-negogiable. You must get your own hotel room. No ifs, ands, or buts. Call the front desk to guarantee it is booked and to make sure you have your own room. Make sure you are ALSO getting a nice hotel, not some cheap MOTEL!)
5. Have I discussed allowance and payments to come down? (Plane ticket and accommodation do NOT account for your time being spent down there. You must be paid for your time that you are with him. Usually for my 2-3 day rule I would ask anywhere between $1,000-3,000. It all depends for how many times you see him, how long you see him, etc.)
6. Have I discussed a “free-time” with him? (You need a break from him. You need your own time. Within each day you are down there say you need this which can be used to explore, have your own spa day, etc. You are NOT required to be with them at every moment!)
7. Do I have arrangements that a car is picking me up from my house/friends house/local area to the airport and back from the airport? As well as soon as I land in the designated town that I am being picked up by a car and drove straight to the hotel? (Never hop in a car with him straight from the airport. Make sure you go straight to your hotel from a limo/taxi car paid for by him you should not be wasting a dime on anything down there. If you need transportation to the airport from your hometown make that known to him!)
8. Have I discussed when I will be getting my payment? (I always ask for it as soon as I meet up with him in an envelope. This allows you that if no matter if there isn’t a connection there you still get paid! Do not accept payment after your date through paypal or any other way, or cheques. Always make sure it is in cold, hard, cash and in an envelope first meeting. No excuses)
9. What is the itinerary once I get there? (Make sure you know a list of exactly what you are doing. Are you going to a broadway show? The casino? A dinner? Where is the locations + addresses? Make sure to always keep checking in with your “safety” sisters aka friends! Also plan! If you are going to LA and want to go to Hollywood tell your POT. Remember this is a little trip for you so enjoy it!)
What to pack in my suitcase:
1. Always bring a carry on or a large purse. It is a lot quicker to go through the airport without having to check any bags. Remember to always pack light as well because you definitely will be shopping down there!
2. Bring 1 casual outfit. This is for site-seeing, going out and exploring. Something you feel comfortable in (shoe wise) and can walk around for extended periods of time. I would suggest a pair of jeans cute sandals or flats and a super cute top. Accessorize to make yourself look better - nice purse, sunglasses, bracelets/watch etc.
3. Bring 2 nice dinner outfits. I usually am super indecisive when it comes to dinner outfits. I usually bring two really nice ones! One will be a tight dress medium-short length, and another a more longer dress that is classier. Once you arrive in the city you will know what fits in more there and what is easier and more comfortable to wear. Bring your best heels: Louboutins! And of course accessories.
4. Bring 1 Sleeping wear. Usually a comfy top and bottom, or if you are feeling more risqué bring a sexy night gown or something. Remember you have your own hotel room and intimacy is not expected on your first trip down there. This is purely for your comfort!
5. All your sleepover gear stuff. Toothbrush, small lube of toothpaste, make up remover wipes, hair and bobby pins, hair ties, deodorant, a super mini body spray (check your airlines for maximum you can bring).
6. Your make up and accessories. Bring your most used make up such as: Foundation, powder, eyeliner, mascara, eye shadow, a couple of brushes, eyebrow pencil and lip gloss. You can bring bronzer and blush as well but remember don’t bring your entire make up kit! Some stuff might get lost… bring stuff you DEFINITELY would use! As for accessories: sunglasses, a statement watch or bracelet, and ring possibly. Keep it minimum, stick to statement pieces! Don’t want to loose anything!
7. Bring 1 Bathing Suit. You know maybe you want to take a dip in the pool, go to the sauna, or head to the beach on your time off. Who knows, always great to have a bathing suit packed just in case - you never know!
8. Extra feminine supplies. Just in case you get your period on the trip, you never know! Also bring extra gravol, or advil that you potentially could need trying different foods, or just not feeling well on the trip.
9. Pack anything else you think is necessary! Remember, pack light and research what the weather is going to be like when you get down there. Is it going to be warm? Rainy? Cloudy? Check all the weather and make sure you know and pack accordingly!
Plane Checklist:
1. Bring head phones, ipod (if you don’t have an iphone), phone charger, lip gloss, little compact mirror, passport, wallet with extra cash in it, your drivers license (if you are over age of 19 in Canada you can drink there, or over 21 in States! That way you don’t have to bring your passport along with you), a magazine, and little snack to enjoy. This is usually in my hand bag/purse that I also carry on the plane. It is your plane survival and extra time alone survival kit!
2. Get your boarding passes in order, text your POT that you arrived at the airport and just wait to board the flight!
Enjoy your trips meeting your POTs! Remember to have a great time and go through the check list. If they are hesitant about any parts of it or can’t answer and try to negotiate around some of the things… these are viewed as red flags. Immediately drop them. A POT will ALWAYS want your safety and comfort to come first. If he speaks of sex in the hotel, or anything that you are not comfortable with you immediately lay down the line saying that it won’t be tolerated. Make sure to stand up for your values and comfort. The worst thing these men can say is NO which is not a big deal at all. There is a million other guys to replace them. They are indeed replaceable.
Have an amazing trip to where ever you travel to. Remember to stay safe! Safety is a number one priority! Wishing all the hustlers the best of luck.
Xoxo love Mama J
hope is a skill
The false sense of superiority felt by hollow acts of morality will not serve you. We can want for a better world and still look the current one in the face.
Do good but do not let it blind you from reality.
If you're not cheating you're not trying and if you're not trying you're not winning.
as social media enters its necessary decline i feel comfort knowing there is no way in this life or the next you could get me unto one of those twitter clones. When twitter dies my account dies with it.
It's time to put up or shut up. To survive what is coming you have to hold on kicking and screaming to being alive. You have to fight with everything you have to remain.
"ohhhhh seals are so floppy and slow lol they just stumble around" Average land animal brained take. Let's see you dive into the Arctic seas then
And If I said all of you tittering at the diddy situation and turning it into a joke are going straight to hell. Now what.
Ladies what have you found that works for changing your mindset/ how you think? My current hypothesis is repetition of an idea through affirmations but idk if the LOA brain rot is lingering or if it is an actual viable idea.
Best books you've read written by women? I hate reading stuff written by men lately...
Fiction(ish)
The Memory Police, Yoko Ogawa
A Ghost in the Throat, Doireann Ní Ghríofa
Paris, When It's Naked, Etel Adnan
Dept. of Speculation, Jenny Offill
My Sister, The Serial Killer, Oyinkan Braithwaite
Possession, A.S. Byatt
Cat's Eye, Margaret Atwood
The Tenderness of Wolves, Stef Penney
The Doll's Alphabet, Camilla Grudova
Her Body and Other Parties, Carmen Maria Machado
The People in the Room, Norah Lange
Água Viva, Clarice Lispector
Collected Stories, Clarice Lispector
The Empty Book, Josefina Vicens
Four Bare Legs in a Bed, Helen Simpson
The Thirteenth Tale, Diane Setterfield
A Tale for the Time Being, Ruth Ozeki
A Girl is a Half-Formed Thing, Eimear McBride
The God of Small Things, Arundhati Roy
Autobiography of Red, Anne Carson
White Teeth, Zadie Smith
Wuthering Heights, Emily Bronte
The Waves and Mrs Dalloway, Virginia Woolf
Non-Fiction:
Second-hand Time: The Last of the Soviets, Svetlana Alexievich
A Field Guide to Getting Lost, Rebecca Solnit
Bluets, Maggie Nelson
Living, Thinking, Looking, Siri Hustvedt
Feel Free: Essays, Zadie Smith
The Need for Roots, Simone Weil
Family Lexicon, Natalia Ginzburg
An Inventory of Losses, Judith Schalansky
Persepolis, Marjane Satrapi
Little Weirds, Jenny Slate
Braiding Sweetgrass, Robin Wall Kimmerer
Women Who Run with Wolves, Clarissa Pinkola Estés
Journal of a Solitude, May Sarton
Poetry:
The War Works Hard, Dunya Mikhail
Barefoot Souls and A Red Cherry on a White-Tiled Floor, Maram al-Masri
Tell Me and Wild Nights, Kim Addonizio
What the Living Do, Marie Howe
What We Carry, Dorianne Laux
Extracting the Stone of Madness, Alejandra Pizarnik
Poppies in Translation, Sujata Bhatt
The Neverfield: A Poem, Nathalie Handal
Women of the Fertile Crescent: An Anthology of Modern Poetry by Arab Women
View with a Grain of Sand, Wislawa Szymborska
The Black Unicorn, Audre Lorde
“That isn’t who I want to be so I will simply not become it” are words I repeat to myself often these days.
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